Quotes by Amy Cuddy

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We are bound by weakness, as it is by what we believe, know and feel. It hides our true self, makes us invisible, alien even to ourselves.

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New Year's resolutions are too ambitious. In terms of our goals, the sky is the limit: I will be pure excellent, I will go to the gym three times a week and the rest. All of these are very positive resolutions in theory, but the road leading to their implementation does not even exist in traces, let alone winding in front of us. In order to be successful, we would have to make hundreds and hundreds of small changes, which do not come with a guide to explain everything step by step.

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In every difficult situation, we have to push ourselves: to encourage ourselves to be a little braver, and to always act a little braver and more committed. To step over the wall of our fears, anxiety and weakness. Being a little more present. And so, over time, gradually, we finally get to where we wanted to get to - even if we didn't think we'd get there at the beginning.

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Our bodies shape our minds. Our minds shape our behavior. Our behavior shapes our future.

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The way in which we manifest ourselves from minute to minute draws before us the path that leads through our lives.

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By the way, it's funny how important sports are to us during the Olympics, and then how quickly we lose interest as soon as we get past the closing ceremony.

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It's not because we're so egocentric and narcissistic that we overestimate attention to ourselves. The real reason is that we are the center of our own universe, so we see the world from our own perspective. This leads us to believe that others see the world from our point of view. This is especially true in situations where we are embarrassed, having a bad day, or saying something stupid. In such cases, most of us tend to overestimate the proportion of people watching us.

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We think everyone is giving us a lot more attention than they really are... and they're doing it with bad intentions. It is very difficult to get rid of this feeling.

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If you're a professional baseball player about to hit, you shouldn't be surprised to find a bunch of people staring at you, and quite a few of them probably making pithy comments about your technique. Another good number of people are busy with their beer or taking selfies with their friends and miss the beat anyway. "Oops, I missed it! Did something interesting happen?" - they then remember, maybe even a little embarrassed that they weren't paying attention. So the thing is, people actually care about us a lot less than we think, even when we are the center of attention. And we can't do anything about whoever is watching us. All we can do is hit the ball.

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While we worry about what others may think of us, we don't hear them when they say what they really think. And if we don't hear it, we can't even answer it.

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If we want to make an impact, trust is the main tool.

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Physical and mental upheavals shape us. Through the challenges we face, we gain insight into ourselves and experience our true selves. We must not only accept these difficulties, but also see them as our strengths.

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The truth is revealed much more through our actions than through our words.

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When someone lies, they have to juggle multiple narratives: the truth they know; with what you want to know to be true; with what he wants to present as true; and all the emotions that go along with it - fear, anger, guilt, hope. Meanwhile, he tries to project a believable image of himself, which, however, is a hellishly difficult task under these circumstances.

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Sincere belief - in ourselves, in an idea - is a strong shield from which threats bounce off.

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Although self-esteem and confidence are not the same thing, they do have some overlap. A truly confident person does not behave arrogantly, since arrogance is only a thin veil used to cover insecurity.

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When we deliberately try to influence how we affect others, we begin to behave unnaturally. It is a very difficult task to manipulate the impression by force, because our cognitive and emotional repertoire is not sufficient to carry it out properly. Therefore, the result will be invalid.

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When our minds and insecurities make us feel insignificant, our bodies seem to be able to really remind us that we are all made of stardust.