"A lover must learn to love consciously; you must decide to learn to love; you must want to be loved. Love does not happen by itself, it does not fall into one's lap. Love is art. We have to practice, we have to trust ourselves. Love is a decision. "I want to love, even if it doesn't bring anything tangible at the moment." Love has to become concrete, specific, it has to live somewhere. Otherwise, it will be too airy, abstract and metaphysical. This danger threatens the one who lives in celibacy. Man loves humanity, but he loves no one in particular. The steeper road is the road to marriage. When we entered the order, we were told that we were on the hard way; but today I don't believe that. The steeper path is the path of marriage, fidelity, and staying at home.
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A lover must learn to love consciously; you must decide to learn to love; you must want to be loved. Love does not happen by itself, it does not fall into one's lap. Love is art. We have to practice, we have to trust ourselves. Love is a decision. "I want to love, even if it doesn't bring anything tangible at the moment." Love has to become concrete, specific, it has to live somewhere. Otherwise, it will be too airy, abstract and metaphysical. This danger threatens the one who lives in celibacy. Man loves humanity, but he loves no one in particular. The steeper road is the road to marriage. When we entered the order, we were told that we were on the hard way; but today I don't believe that. The steeper path is the path of marriage, fidelity, and staying at home.
""A szerelmesnek meg kell tanulnia tudatosan szeretni; el kell határoznia, hogy megtanul szeretni; akarnia kell, hogy szeressen. Nem történik magától a szeretet, nem pottyan az ember ölébe. A szeretet - művészet. Gyakorolni kell, rá kell bíznunk magunkat. A szeretet - elhatározás. "Szeretni akarok, még akkor is, ha pillanatnyilag nem is hoz semmi megfoghatót." A szeretetnek konkréttá, sajátossá kell válnia, laknia kell valahol. Különben túl légies, elvont és metafizikai lesz. Ez a veszély fenyegeti azt, aki cölibátusban él. Az ember szereti az emberiséget, de konkrétan senkit sem szeret. A meredekebb út a házasság útja. Amikor beléptünk a rendbe, azt mondták nekünk, hogy mi a nehezebb úton járunk; de ma már nem hiszem ezt. A meredekebb út a házasságnak, a hűségnek, az otthonmaradásnak az útja."