"Yes, we have to learn to love like you learn to play the violin. But what can we do if everything about that man seems disgusting to us, and he is also full of himself? We are tempted to despise him, and that would be contrary to love. Should we avoid it? Yes, but we must be ready to love him. And for this we need: 1) to carefully investigate whether the cause of our disgust is something personal, an insult to pride or something similar; 2) not to remember or think about him anything unkind.
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Author
Leo TolstoyAll Translations
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Yes, we have to learn to love like you learn to play the violin. But what can we do if everything about that man seems disgusting to us, and he is also full of himself? We are tempted to despise him, and that would be contrary to love. Should we avoid it? Yes, but we must be ready to love him. And for this we need: 1) to carefully investigate whether the cause of our disgust is something personal, an insult to pride or something similar; 2) not to remember or think about him anything unkind.
""Da, trebuie să ne deprindem să iubim, așa cum înveți să cânți la vioară. Dar ce-i de făcut dacă totul ni se pare dezgustător la acel om, ba mai e și plin de sine? Suntem tentați să-l disprețuim, iar asta ar fi contrar iubirii. Să-l evităm? Da, dar trebuie să fim gata să-l iubim. Iar pentru asta e nevoie: 1) să cercetăm atent dacă nu cumva cauza dezgustului nostru e ceva personal, o jignire a orgoliului sau ceva asemănător; 2) să nu ne amintim sau să nu gândim despre el ceva lipsit de bunătate."