Quotes by Brené Brown

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Belonging to yourself so strongly that you are willing to stand in yourself is the wilderness - the untamed, unpredictable space of being alone and searching. It's a dangerous place because it's breathtaking, something we long for as much as we fear it. The wilderness can often feel like a heathen because we can't control it or because of what people think about whether or not we venture into it. Yet this is where we truly belong; it is the bravest and holiest place you will ever stand.

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Who we are and how we relate to the world determines the kind of adults our children grow up to be more than how much we know about parenting.

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Love is not given or received: it is something that we nurture and nurture, a relationship between two people that can only be built if it already exists in both of them separately - we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

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We nurture love by showing and introducing our most vulnerable and strongest self to the other person in all its depth, and (...) we value the spiritual relationship that develops from our gift with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

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An honest, loving dialogue requires serious flexibility. We must be able to talk about what we feel, what we need, what we desire, and we must be able to listen to the other person with an open heart and mind. Without vulnerability, there is no trust and intimacy.

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It is ironic (and perhaps also natural) that, according to the research results, we criticize others in an area where we ourselves are exposed to shame, and we especially grind our tongues on those whose turn is worse than ours. (...) We are cruel to each other because we use each other as a springboard to escape from our own perceived shameful mistakes.

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Empathy is a strange and powerful thing. There is no ready script for it. There is no right or wrong way. You simply need to pay attention, fill the space, restrain your judgment, connect emotionally with the other person, and convey the wonderful healing message: you are not alone.

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Everyone has shame. We always have good and bad, darkness and light. But if we don't come to terms with our shame and our struggles, then we start to believe that something is wrong with us - that we are junk, not good enough - and what's worse: we start acting accordingly. If we really want to live wholeheartedly, we have to be prone to it. And in order to fall, you have to deal with shame.

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Waking up every day loving someone who may not love you back, whose safety we cannot guarantee, who may remain in our lives, but who may leave us without a word of warning, who will either be faithful until the day they die or betray us tomorrow - this is the vulnerability. And if we love someone, we will certainly be emotionally vulnerable. Yes, it's scary, and yes, it means waiting with open arms to be hurt - but honestly, can we imagine a life where we don't give and receive love?

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Vulnerability can be found at the bottom of all emotions and feelings, because to feel is simply to become vulnerable. If we consider vulnerability a weakness, we also consider emotions a weakness. Withdrawing from our own emotional life because the risk of being hurt is too great is like leaving behind a tree picture what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.

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Lack is the state of never enough. (...) In a culture in which everything is about what is missing in our lives, lack starts to spread. Security, love, money or energy - as if you need more of everything. We waste an inordinate amount of time trying to keep track of how much we have, how much more we want, and what other people have and want.

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Taking a brave stand does not lead to victory. In a world dominated by lack and shame, fear has become human nature, vulnerability is subversive. It affects people unpleasantly. Sometimes it's a bit dangerous. And it is indisputable: by saying what we think, we take a huge risk, that they might offend us. But (...) there is nothing as unpleasant, dangerous, or hurtful as looking at my life through the eyes of an outsider and only dreaming about what it would be like if I boldly came forward and let others know what I i want

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Shame does not survive empathy.

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Vulnerability is not weakness. A true and brave state. Truth and courage are not necessarily comfortable, but they are never weaknesses.

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If we are brave enough, nothing can limit our possibilities, and infinity can be ours!

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If we are brave enough and do it often enough, then fall is inevitable; that's how vulnerability works. When we commit to showing ourselves and risking failure, we are effectively committing to failure. Dare does not mean "I am willing to risk failure". If we dare, we say: "I know for sure that I will fail, but I'm in anyway". Fortune may be for the brave, but so is failure.

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What prevents us from having a relationship is our fear that we don't deserve a relationship.

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Let me tell you what I think about children! They already have the struggle when they arrive. And when we hold these perfect little children in our hands, it's not our job to say, "Look at him, isn't he perfect? ​​My job is to keep him perfect; to make the tennis team in fifth grade and go straight to college in seventh grade." ." That's not our job, it's to look at them and say, "Listen! You're imperfect and you're going to struggle, but you're worthy of love and belonging." This is our task. Show me a generation brought up like this, and the problems we know today will be over immediately!

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We cannot choose which emotions we suppress. You can't say that this is the bad part, here is the vulnerability, the grief, the shame, the fear, and here is the disappointment, well, I don't want to feel those. Then I would like a couple of beers and a walnut-banana muffin. (...) Hard feelings cannot be dulled unless we also dull our emotional life and emotions. It cannot be selectively dulled, so if we dull the bad ones, the feeling of joy, the feeling of gratitude and our sense of happiness will also be dulled. And then, of course, we'll feel bad, and we'll look for some purpose, some meaning, and then we'll feel vulnerable again, and then we'll drink a few beers and eat a walnut-banana muffin, and it will become a vicious circle.

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The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, and the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are.

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Shame derives its power from the fact that it is unspeakable.

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What makes you vulnerable is what makes you amazing.

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Guilt is good! Guilt helps us not to go astray because it gives us feedback on our behavior.

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If we spend our lives expecting to be perfect and bulletproof before entering the arena of struggle, we end up constantly sacrificing relationships and opportunities that may never come again in life.