Quotes by Tendzin Gyaco

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All good human relationships are based on mutual compassion and love. This is what happiness is based on.

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Whether something is causing you pain now or we have suffered for something in the past, neither is a reason to be unhappy.

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When we die, we take nothing with us. Only the fruits of our life's actions and our spiritual quality.

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When you lose, at least learn the lesson!

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According to my experience, the main characteristic of true happiness is peace: inner peace. It's not some kind of "away" feeling. It's not the lack of emotion either. On the contrary, the peace I speak of is rooted in caring for others and involves a high degree of sensitivity and emotion. (...) The main characteristic of happiness is therefore inner peace. This explains the paradox that while there are people who are dissatisfied despite all material prosperity, others remain happy even in the most difficult circumstances.

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If we are able to properly transform our thoughts, emotions and behavior, not only will we cope with suffering more easily, but we will experience much less suffering in the first place.

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Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your mutual interests!

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I think it would be extremely difficult to try to figure out how the brains of five billion people work (...). It would be impossible!

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Happiness is always the result of creative activity, and suffering is always the result of negative thinking and negative activity.

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Share your knowledge with others: this is one way to become immortal.

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If we only cultivate our heads and neglect our hearts, there will surely be more trouble and more suffering in the world. However, if we only care about the heart and throw away our mind, then what will differentiate a person from an animal? So these two must evolve together.

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If you want to change the world, first try to make something better, change yourself. This helps to change your family, your friends, and then you have to continue like this in a bigger and bigger circle. Everything we do will affect something and someone.

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Happiness is a state of mind. Good physical well-being - if the soul is confused and excited - does not mean happiness. Happiness comes from peace of mind.

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The mind of an educated person is truly ennobled by applying his knowledge in practice. Knowledge in mere words is not worth much.

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Once we reveal ourselves to someone, it can only be someone we trust completely, someone we feel very close to. Opening yourself up is one of the most important steps towards settling your spiritual life.

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If your intentions are pure and honest, that is, you have nothing to hide, then an open, straightforward behavior will be the answer to your approach. This is the real, proper channel of human contact, not a lot of chatter.

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You can deny everything except that you can get better if you want to. Feel free to show off!

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In order to understand a book well, we should take into account some important circumstances when reading it. The most important thing is the time when the text was created. Then the situation in which the text or the teaching it conveys arose. Finally, society as a whole and the smaller community that surrounded it when it was created are also important.

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The main cause of depression is not financial deprivation. Depression is caused by a lack of loving human relationships.

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Compassion is gentle, peaceful, tender in nature. At the same time, it is a powerful, powerful feeling. He is not a danger to anyone. On the other hand, those who lose their temper easily are unreliable and dangerous. In my eyes, a flash of anger is an obvious sign of weakness.

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It is increasingly urgent that we recognize the importance of spiritual life, because only spiritual life can provide a solid foundation for peace and true prosperity.

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The Perfectly Enlightened One (Buddha) said that all he can do for us is to impart the teaching. This is how he shows the way to freedom from suffering. What we do with it is up to us. He washes his hands, he cannot take responsibility for us.

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For me, the meaning of the word "open" is associated with the image of an open door. One that can be opened easily and without any difficulty. "Free" means the same thing. If someone is open and free, he is able to absorb more and more new ideas, and this makes him exert more and more energy. This all flows to others and helps them in this way. This is very useful and necessary, especially nowadays.

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I find that peace is mostly the result of practicing love and compassion. The more we care about others, the better we feel. To be kind to others, to feel loyalty and warmth, means relief of the soul. This soothing feeling is proof of peace and a successful life.

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A moment of grief does not turn into crippling pain, unless we cling to it and add negative thoughts and images to it.

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For me, a smile is one of the most beautiful human abilities.

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The common root of all religions is infinite compassion. They emphasize human improvement, love and respect for others, and compassion for others in their suffering. We could say - since love is the essential element of religions - that love is a universal religion. However, the traditions differ in terms of the various techniques and methods used to develop love and achieve salvation or liberation. I don't think there is just one philosophy or one religion. Since there are so many different people, with different aspirations and inclinations, it is perfectly normal that there are differences between different religions. And the fact that there are so many different paths shows the richness of the religion.

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You can always find something in someone that can surpass us. Looking for such qualities in others helps us to overcome our conceit and arrogance.

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I believe it takes some experience and a little practice to achieve true, deep trust.

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I can't offer you a miracle. If someone had miracle-working powers, I would ask for their help.

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Before we can escape our sufferings, we must first deeply understand their cause and nature.

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From the moment we are born, we need the kindness and care of our parents. Later, when we get sick and grow old, we are once again dependent on the care and kindness of others. Since others care about us at the beginning and end of our lives, how can we not care about others in the middle of our lives?

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Deep down there, nurturing awareness within ourselves, developing careful and insightful thinking is worth more than any meditation or prayer.

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Recognizing your single mistake is worth more than recognizing a thousand mistakes in others. Instead of talking bad about people, clashing with them and creating unrest in their lives, see them in their full reality. Think about their good qualities instead. If you would find pleasure in disparaging someone, immediately imagine that you have bitten into a rotten fruit. That way, you can get rid of abusive behavior pretty quickly.

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If you are afraid of some pain or suffering, see if you can do something about it. If so - you have nothing to worry about. If not - then neither.

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Friends are important - that's why I want to have as many friends as possible. Smiles are important - that's obvious. But what are the smiles like? There is a wide selection of them. Some are sarcastic, some are artificial, diplomatic smiles. These do not satisfy me, rather they create fear and suspicion in me. But a real smile gives hope, encourages and refreshes. If we want a real smile to shine on our face, we have to create the source of the real smile within ourselves.

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True compassion indicates more than just an emotional connection. It comes from a solid conviction based on reason. Therefore, truly compassionate behavior does not change even when it is received negatively. From universal altruism, the responsibility we feel for others develops in us, and this manifests itself as a desire to help our peers overcome their problems.

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It would be much more constructive if people tried to understand their alleged enemies. Forgiveness is much more useful than picking up a stone and hitting them. It is even more useful to forgive when your anger is unquenchable. Living with the opportunity to do good to ourselves and others instead of bad is the greatest challenge.

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Look into the eyes of the one you hate and use the opportunity to overcome your anger towards him. Suppress your anger and develop compassion. But if you find that person too annoying and repulsive, you can't bear to stay under the same roof with them, then it's better to find the exit immediately. There is a rule: if you don't feel too strong of a temper, put up with someone you hate. If you're calm enough, don't dodge collisions. But if you can't control your anger, get out, step aside, and work on yourself. Get over your anger and become compassionate.

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Because (...) our interests are inextricably intertwined, we are forced to accept morality as an indispensable connection point between one person's pursuit of happiness and another's.

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It doesn't matter much if someone is a believer or not: it's much more important to be a good person.

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Never give up. Whatever happens, don't give up. Strengthen your heart. In your country, too much energy is spent on developing the mind instead of training the heart. Be empathetic, not only to your friends, but to everyone else. Be compassionate, work for the peace of your soul and the world at the same time. Work for peace and listen to me: never give up. It doesn't matter what's going on around you, it doesn't matter what's happening. Never give up!

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When we have already focused on the new computer with all our senses, the old one, which has served us for so many years, suddenly becomes objectionable and acquires more and more shortcomings in our eyes.

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If we were to look down on the earth from space, we would not see national borders. We would see only one small planet.

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You measure your success in light of what you had to give up to achieve it!

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The soul, like the gate of the world, takes in everything. The soul, like the gate of the world, is closed to anything.

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The more honest and open we are, the less we will be afraid because we have nothing to hide from others, so I think the more honest someone is, the more confident they become.

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Everyone controls their own destiny; we must create the reasons for our happiness ourselves. Only we are responsible for this, no one else.

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The secrets to happiness are actually determination, effort and time.

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Don't forget that not getting what you wish for is sometimes a miracle of luck.

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A true meditator is known for his ability to discipline his mind by freeing himself from negative emotions.

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We can hardly call a beggar an obstacle to our generosity.

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We work and fight for the same basic human goals. In the meantime, however, we do not realize how important it is to fight with fair means to achieve these goals. The tool and method must always be chosen in such a way as not to cause any damage.

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If someone excludes others, he finds himself excluded in return.

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All living things, from insects down, want to thrive, not suffer. Man is only one among an infinite number of other living beings. Therefore, there is no doubt that his prosperity cannot be more important than all others, especially not at their expense.

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Sometimes it happens that some people die young. They are beautiful and kind, strong and healthy, and yet. They are masters in disguise who teach us about the permanence of change and impermanence.

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Certain goals can be achieved with the help of violence, but always to someone's detriment. Although we can sometimes eliminate a problem in this way, we still create a new one instead. Human reason, understanding and mutual respect can help in solving endless problems and conflicts most effectively.

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Although it seems that our adversaries are capable of harming us, the greater harm they do is to themselves.

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Many people think that patience is a sign of weakness. I think this is a mistake. A sign of weakness is more irritation and anger. Patience and calmness belong to strength. For example, if someone is arguing and his opinion is based on sound arguments, he will be calm and confident throughout, and can even smile while arguing. But if his arguments are flawed, he slowly loses his authority, and then his patience, gets angry, and then just talks about impossibilities. People rarely get poisoned when they are sure of what they are doing. Anger is most often a sign of confusion.

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Our sufferings absolutely contribute to the improvement of the quality of our spiritual life, if we are able to build a way out of misfortune and the blows of bad luck.

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Time never waits, it strictly moves on. But not only does time go by, our lives go along with it, on the same track. If we mess something up, we can't go back and try it again. Time knows no concept of a second chance.

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In principle, we should strive for satisfaction, but complete satisfaction is almost tantamount to suicide.

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Man has two great mistakes. One: that he considers as reality what is not. The other: that he does not consider what is real.

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First, one understands that most of one's suffering is unnecessarily caused by one's self. Second, he looks for reasons for this in his own life. To seek is to trust in ourselves that we can end suffering. Finally, the desire to find a way to peace awakens, because everything that lives longs for happiness. Each wants to win its own purest being.

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The one who benefits first from compassion is the one who feels it.

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True peace is when our mind is free from fear and anxiety 24 hours a day.

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How much I still have to do against the anger, attachment, hatred, pride and jealousy within me! You have to pay attention to these every blessed day.

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If you want to live in peace, create peace around you.

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We don't get happiness ready - it comes from our actions.

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The following ingredients simply cannot be avoided: determination, effort, time. Together, these are the secret of happiness.

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There are only two days a year when you can do nothing. One is yesterday, the other is tomorrow. So today is the only day to love, to believe and above all to live!

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It is not worth stressing yourself because either there is a solution to a problem, and then why are you stressing yourself out, or there is not, and even then, why?

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Pilgrimages are often seen as the physical equivalent of the spiritual journey. Both require a very special attitude. Those who embark on them prepare carefully and vow not to give up under any circumstances. Courage is essential to overcome the obstacles that appear along the way.

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Human nature is such that when we are in dire straits, the human mind wakes up and finds some other alternative. It's a human endowment.

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Marriage, procreation, and raising children cannot just be the result of crazy love. After a woman and a man already know each other's mental and physical qualities well, they should also feel mutual trust, respect and responsibility for each other. This is what marriage can be built on. Only in this way can their relationship be secure, and only then can they think about creating offspring. Creating human life is only allowed under these conditions.

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Just as rust, which comes from the iron itself, consumes the iron to nothing, so man destroys his own possibilities with his reckless actions.

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Learning and knowledge are very important, but it is just as important to use the acquired knowledge. Those who do not practice thinking, do not deepen, their knowledge is worthless. Such knowledge does not mean any spiritual development or growth, nor does it provide any help in getting to know the true nature of reality.

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More and more often I feel respect for young children and brave adults who dare to stand up for their truth, undertake the most honest expression of human nature.

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We know three different types of patience. The first is the patience of indifference, which does not care about insults and tolerates abuse well. The second is the patience of those who voluntarily accept adversity, and the third is the consciously developed, all-encompassing patience that comes from understanding the teaching.

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I have to state, as many other teachers have already stated, that you learn the most while teaching.

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If you're the kind of person who always says nice things about your peers to the face, but denigrates them behind their backs, expect that soon no one will love you. So far, everyone who has tried something like this has failed. The dual role places such a heavy burden on a person that he cannot bear it for long. It is impossible to always play flawlessly under such a load.

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In families where people are united by love and compassion, children are much more successful and happy. If they deprive the child of this environment, they can destroy his whole life and future. Love is the most effective tool in raising children.

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In urban communities, the life of each person is as calculated and industrially planned in every aspect as that of a part that must fit flawlessly into the operation of the whole machine. In this sense, man is not the master of his own life. He has no control over it. He lives as a survivor, following the common pattern of living day by day at the prescribed speed.

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Millions of people living in close fraternal proximity are unable to create an open, honest relationship with each other. They only share their true feelings and thoughts with their cats and dogs.

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In the Tibetan language, the word "blessing" means transformation by means of some majesty, exaltation or power. Simply put, a blessing is the result of an experience that improves the mind and brings about spiritual elevation.

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When religious practice lacks spiritual dimensions, the ceremony becomes an empty formality, an external decoration, and in fact completely unnecessary. All meaning is lost from it, we do it out of routine, it is nothing more than a pastime, a boring game.

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If it is really important to us to act for the benefit of others, we should do it without delay. The practice of compassion is that simple.

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You are wrong to be offended when you find out that you are being slandered behind your back. If you take anything negative, you destroy your own peace of mind. A person is responsible for himself, for his pains. Insults should be acknowledged like the breeze that blows behind us. In other words, people's rudeness must be brushed aside. Whether we feel pain or suffering in certain situations depends mostly on how we relate to the given circumstances. It matters a lot whether we are not too sensitive, whether we do not take things too seriously.

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The theory of understanding reality is wisdom, and its practice is compassion.

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There is no escape from death. Trying to do this would be like escaping from the embrace of four giant mountains reaching up to the sky. There is no escape from the valley of the four mountains. The mountain of birth, disease, old age and death holds every living being captive. When old age comes, youth fades away, when sickness appears, health comes to nothing. And when, due to lack of health, life turns into misery, all values, excellence of character, and previously shining abilities disappear from it. In the end, death wins a complete victory over life. Even if you are fast and exceptionally skilled, you will not run away from death. And you won't stop him with your wealth, magic tricks, or even the best medicines. Therefore, the best and wisest thing is to prepare for your death now.

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To make the day go by faster, a little chatter is good. But this is the most useless way to spend time. If a tailor just holds a needle in his hand and chats with his customer all day, that suit will never be made. But you can even prick your finger in the process if you're not careful. One word is like a hundred, we often don't even notice how the day passed, why the work didn't go well. Pointless chatter is the death of all meaningful activity.

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It depends on us what the experience with which our death will serve us will be. We die as we lived. Whether the experience is positive or negative, it will be like our life. If we lived meaningfully, well and happily, our death will be easy and peaceful. If we didn't live like this, it would be harder.

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Nothing is more important than keeping our thoughts in check. You have to take care of the wild elephant of the mind, so that it doesn't get loose and wander off. This is the only way a person can keep calm and avoid exposing himself to the influence of external circumstances. Even if we live in secluded hermitages, if our thoughts are not constantly kept under strict supervision, they will wander far. Even in complete solitude, negative feelings and hordes of bad thoughts can attack us.

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We are all just tourists on this planet. Nobody lives here forever, we can only stay for a century at most. So, while we are here, it is better if we try to live meaningfully, usefully, and have good intentions towards each other. Whether we spend only a few years or a whole century here, it would be a very unfortunate and sad thing if we used the time available to us to make life worse and harder for each other. To aggravate the burdens borne by other earthlings, humans and animals, to destroy the environment. At least we'll have fun for this short time.

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A sincere smile gives hope and energy. If we want a genuine smile, we must first create the right foundation for it.

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If you can, help others. If not, at least don't hurt them.

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If you can, serve other people, other sentient beings. If not, at least refrain from harming them. I think this can be considered the basis of my whole philosophy.

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The most important thing in life is the love people show to each other. Without it, no one can achieve true happiness. And if we want a happier life, a happier family, happier neighbors and a happier country, then it is enough to pay attention to the ability that most characterizes humans, love. If the six billion people living on earth were to all become millionaires, without the development of their inner values, they would not live in lasting happiness and peace. That requires love, and the feeling of love can be developed.

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Love that is based solely on the passion of attachment is fast changing, fleeting. The smallest change in the object of love, such as, say, a small change in behavior, can immediately transform the relationship between two people. This is because these emotions are superficial, that is, they are attached to the surface. Take marriage as an example. Married couples often become enemies of each other after a few weeks, months, or years and, of course, divorce. Although when they got married, they were very much in love - no one marries out of hate - but after a short time everything changed.

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In today's world, no one can expect anyone to take on and solve their problems. It is the duty and responsibility of each person to lead the entire community of earthlings in the right direction. This in itself is quite a burden in everyday life. Good wishes are not enough for results, everyone must work actively.