Quotes by Popper Péter

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In a normal place, if someone is a politician, school director, or university professor, it is an occupation. Not with us. We have a mission. The moment someone experiences his own status charismatically, then for him the person who thinks differently is no longer another person who imagines things differently, but an enemy. Moreover, he is not only an enemy, but evil. But not only evil, but satanic. Not only Satan, but a traitor... and then he deserves to perish. Here we are today...

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There we dance alone in the middle of our sad stage, between our habitable or less habitable sets. Really, have you ever asked yourself how livable your sets are?

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Taking pills against the storms of the soul is a weak thing.

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Fear is the devil's magic pot. I'll see you. You look very nice. We are getting closer. And I'm starting to fear you at the same time. Because who knows, if you want me bad, you will hurt me. I have to defend myself. I'm snarling at you. When you start to fear me too. Now the two of us are snarling at each other: don't come any closer! Look how big a stone I have in my hand. And a portable rocket on my shoulder. Stay away from me or better yet disappear. Otherwise we'll beat each other to death. We'll start with that later. Especially with animals. We will be the owner of Karinthy's bunny, the runaway rabbit, whom I beat to death because he doesn't understand the damn thing that I just want to pet him.

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Clinging is not a sign of close emotional connection, but of mistrust.

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Obviously, the cat has a sense of humor. Every night - after carefully studying the fences of the surrounding gardens and finding that none of the dogs can get out - he sits down in the middle of the deserted road, under the arc lamp, so that he is well lit from all sides, and washes with a calmness worthy of a Buddhist. The dogs are mad at the fences, growl and snarl, but the cat doesn't seem to hear them.

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And it happened that a disease spread, which Nikosz Kazantzakis called intellectual itch. The intellectually itchy person is constantly inventing new problems for himself, in fact, he is a small-scale problem-maker. According to the theory, the medicine for itchy problems is the often difficult solution, which in reality is never useful, because the imaginary and real problems of life cannot be solved. The human soul is tormented not by problems, but by tragedies, and it does not need solutions, but understanding and caressing. Most people suffer from sorghum deficiency. It's a serious disease, and it's hard to find a cure for it.

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There's no point in looking for something you don't want to find.

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For a long time I thought dogs hated leashes, just like humans do when they are dependent on someone. Lurkó taught him that a leash is a useful thing. A clip, on one end of which we are hanging, and on the other is someone who is important to us. This gives us security, and if we lack it, our souls get sick.

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The Good Lord holds a beautiful gift package in his right hand for the good, and in his left hand he clutches a virgács, for the bad. And you will work hard all your life to earn the gift package. You will get it, unwrap it and the devil jumps out and hits you on the nose. And this will be the biggest surprise of your life!

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Are you looking for security? Be the safety! Your own safety. Are you looking for peace? Be the peace! Peace of yourself. Are you looking for the light? Be the light! The light of yourself.

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The work points back to the creator, the creation to the Creator.

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Respect for life means that between the endpoints of birth and death, we treat each other in a way that makes life worth living in the world.

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Whether men or women have more brains has been debated for centuries. That's not the question. Rather, women, given one of the most wonderful opportunities that give meaning to their lives from birth, have less of a creative drive to solve problems than men. (...) Men, on the other hand, lack biological creativity, and in order to give meaning to their own lives and existence, they have to create. They have much more creativity than women.

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Nature or God gave women (...) a kind of biological creativity. In other words, there is no greater creative opportunity than when someone can give birth to a new, tiny person. She carries it in her body, protects it, gives birth to it, nourishes it, and raises it.

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I suddenly felt what belonging to the beyond is, what is the unbreakable alliance between man and his art, his idea, and how insignificant all other episodes of life are in comparison. I realized that the best thing to do is to keep one's heart from drying out.

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You get what you deserve from everything. And it may happen that when you drink once, you have no more water, and when you should believe something, you don't believe... because the water has run out and the faith that was part of you has run out? Is it possible that there is so much laughter and so much crying in the world... so much cold that needs to be chilled... so much and so much lack of food?

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You can't consider yourself hopeless, no matter how much rubbish you find inside. You can't give up on yourself. Don't think that you can get out of the traffic of life just by saying, "I'm sorry, I've gone crazy, I've killed myself, I'm not going to take part in it anymore."

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If we had more lives, we would try all the horrors.

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Believe in what you want to bring to life. In God, if you want to call God to life. In Satan, if you want to call Satan to life. In yourself, if you want to bring yourself to life. In Eternal Life, if you want to live forever. In Death, if you long for non-existence. What you believe is for you. What you don't believe in doesn't exist for you.

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There are many (...) people who cannot forget, and every morning they bury the grievances of their childhood and youth and drag them behind them like a long slep.

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We cannot live without compromises. We also have to adapt to others. But we shouldn't make compromises we can't stand.

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There are many ways to the top of the mountain. (...) As long as you are on the road, there is nothing wrong with you. Internal death begins when you are permanently encamped on the mountainside.

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The peculiarity of life is that it is life-threatening.

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The biggest trap and self-deception of our way of life is the cult of "transitional periods and situations". We often calm ourselves down and try to get rid of our daily bad feelings by declaring a given phase of our life to be temporary. (...) And we don't realize that our whole life consists of transitional periods, something always happens that we can excuse ourselves by referring to. We should deeply feel that there are no transitional periods, each day is the most real part of our life: it is our life.

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There is no crime committed unconsciously.

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God did not drive man out of the Garden of Eden, but took away the opportunity to see where he lived.

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Who knows if there is a God? But you have to live as if you are, otherwise you will die.

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A man is not honest, as some people say, because it is good business, but he tries to remain honest despite the fact that he knows it is bad business.

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The TV changed very quickly. The effect of the speed of program change can be two-way. Let's say the TV shows how they unearth (...) a mass grave. (...) Now if I'm normal, I'm emotionally horrified by this. But when I go through this horror, the picture changes, and I see the dance performance of the Moldovan folk ensemble (...), I would be a little shocked if it doesn't show the plane crash that happened just yesterday... In other words, the rate of information delivery is far it exceeds a person's ability to process experience. But I don't think it creates a crisis... I think it creates indifference and paralyzes people's responsiveness.

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Nobody has to be perfect. The effort is enough to try to polish ourselves a little. It is attainable, perfection is inherently hopeless. Many things are crammed into a person: "beam and dross", that is what makes a person.

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It is impossible for the building above to be orderly if the foundation is messy.

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He who is too strict and cruel with himself will also be cruel to others.

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You cannot walk through life in an "immaculate white robe".

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The coexistence of two people is most endangered by habit, by the grayness of everyday life. Even in a long-term cohabitation, everyone has the right to the tenderness, seduction, care, and moods that were natural during the courtship. Without it, all relationships become dark and cold.

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It is a horrifying sight to see a permanently calm, dispassionate person who never shows any sign of his joy, sorrow, love, fear, anger, or satisfaction.

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Life is not meant to be good all the time. Life must include failures, defeats, and new beginnings. This develops in us qualities, opportunities, and insights that would remain hidden on the always padded path.

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The biggest curse of being overworked is that it takes away our joys, many things that could be a source of joy in our lives become a joyless duty.

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Let's not accuse objective circumstances, but accept that we are responsible for our own way of life.

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A positive attitude towards our world is the first condition for psychological health.

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If someone were to honestly answer the question: "How happy was I last week?", they would often come up with an alarming result.

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In the depths of jealousy there is always a feeling of inferiority: I can only be inferior compared to others. "You can have no joy apart from me!" - he tries to force this on the other. And those who are held captive are constantly humiliated.

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I find it suspicious when someone's life is about helping, either as a psychologist or a social worker. I think that most of these people are incapable of love, and they compensate for this deficiency by helping, being professionally good and decent to others. I believe that, say, an architect who is truly capable of love has no such need. So the matter is much more complicated than we could manage it this way, but it is possible to talk about it. Maybe it will lead somewhere, but not in such a short time.

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Fear gives birth to wars, racism, "who beats whom" struggle between married couples, rivalry that destroys friendships, even fear of God gives birth to atheism.

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Ducunt volentem fata, nolentem trahunt - said the Roman Stoic philosopher Seneca, tutor of Emperor Nero. In other words: "Destiny leads the willing, drags the unwilling." Those who allow themselves to be led by fate, and those who do not, both end up with the same fate, only the one who drags himself is crushed along the way.

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He who lies to himself a lot - also lies to those around him. He who understands himself will understand others.

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We can only find the courage to face ourselves honestly if we can accept ourselves. Along with all our painful, unfavorable, and sometimes disgusting qualities.

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Internal discipline keeps you like a body is a skeleton. External discipline is armor: it protects and hinders. The human psyche falls apart without discipline. Without internal discipline, freedom makes you sick.

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There may be situations in life when it is good for a person to be alone for a while, to look inward, to reckon with himself. You should experience some kind of inner cleansing. This opportunity is not given to those who dread even five minutes of silence or loneliness, who, when they are alone, turn on the radio or tape recorder because they cannot live without background sounds and images.

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Yes, perhaps this is the only meaning of a person's life, to live with the opportunities that fate brings.

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In life, one has to get lost in order for one to realize oneself. So even the lost can be blessed, if they don't take you in circles, in a sterile circulation.

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But in the end, I understood that the grown man - who knows that he is defenseless, cannot count on either God or man, only himself - who knows that he is alone in all important situations of life, including birth and death. The one who understood that he can only choose between solitary solitude or social solitude, - who knows that he must carry his sins until death, cannot put them on anyone else's shoulders, - who accepts all this without rebellion, - and who is not terrified, and just because he dares to play with the world and himself.

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Spiritual, scientific truth and artistic value are not decided by a majority. There was a time when Copernicus was the only one on Earth who knew the truth, official science voted him down, he also lit a bonfire under his later followers - but Copernicus was still right.

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What the big churches do is sometimes quite desperate. I can only see how many good and beautiful things they preach and teach: love, tolerance. The Hindus had about six thousand years to fix humanity. The Jews also had four or five thousand years, Buddhism two and a half thousand, Christianity two thousand - what was the result? Something is not right! They were given a lot of time by fate, and somewhere they miss a step.

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I am convinced that imagination plays a key role in all fear reactions and panic. Of course, I didn't figure this out, but many thousands of years ago, a philosopher named Epictetus realized that it's not things that torment us, but our ideas about things.

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All major new discoveries in science must go through three phases. First, science says it's not true. If they prove the discovery to be true, they say it is true, but not essential. If they can prove its importance, the academician says with a gentle smile: but the ancient Greeks already knew this.

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The further we run from our fears, the bigger and more threatening they seem. If we go close to them - they shrink into insignificance. Experiencing and learning brings overrated events down to a realistic level, and fears begin to diminish. I've been through it, I've endured it, I'm over it - this is the real dispeler of fear.

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There is no greater attack on human dignity than fear. Fears prevent us from being ourselves. Most of our mental problems stem from our cowardice. Only courage gives inner support and human dignity.

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Jung writes that the world is rotten enough, vile enough, evil enough to cause a person living in this world to be depressed. Why is it a disease that you experience the negativity and bitterness of the world and experience it as your own bitterness?

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Religion and faith are separated from each other. You can see a lot of religiosity without any faith. Formal religiosity, which he observes according to tradition, but there is no real emotional experience deep down. And above all, it does not have the power to influence real behavior, behavior and action. Formally very religious people can commit great villainy. The other thing is that there are religious people who are not religious but believe very deeply.

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When Jesus died, the tapestry of the Holy of Holies was rent. A huge symbol and message: human development has reached such a level that there is no longer a need for a mediator between God and man.

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Even God cannot change what happened, only historians can. They also work diligently, meeting the expectations of political clients. Therefore, in my study, I try to avoid both celestials and historians.

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As long as someone cannot make peace with his body, his mental peace is also hopeless. And vice versa.

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Each of us is convinced that he holds the pearl of truth, which the other (...) wants to steal from him, trample on him, and insult him.

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What is happiness? One thing is for sure: it is definitely not some kind of permanent condition. Happiness is ecstasy, a sparking moment in a person's life, and these sparking moments die out very quickly.

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The feeling of well-being in the world largely depends on the development of relationships - relatives, friends, lovers, enemies. So let's put them in order, maybe the mourning period of our lost illusions will be more bearable.

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We are born in the form of a fool, then reason shines in us, and in the end we go back to the beginning.

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A person is born and lives - that much is certain. Sometimes you feel that some force is carrying you, sometimes that you are leaving. He does not know the basics of his existence. The only meaning and task of your life is probably to light some light in the darkness of existence, to bring light - no matter how small - to your relationships, and a little warmth.

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My friend! What have you been carrying with you for years, decades, hurts, grievances, all kinds of painful emotions, hurtful thoughts that have long since disintegrated in the past, their effect has also become nothing, they are nowhere, they live on only in your soul. You feed them, they get their energy from you (...), since they no longer have any power or significance by themselves.

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In principle, stated truths can never be proven or disproved, they can only be accepted or rejected.

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The main functions of the human soul are cognition, thinking, imagination, judgment and will.

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The concept of positive thinking was originally created following an ancient Buddhist tradition. A legend survives that Buddha and his disciples were looking at a dead dog. Master, look how terribly repulsive death, decaying flesh, and rotting corpses are! How disgusting it is when all that remains of a creature is its body! said the disciples. Buddha looked at him and said yes, but what beautiful white teeth he has! This is the basic story of positive thinking. It grew out of there. In other words, it's not about pretending that our negative experiences, our bitterness, our sorrows are positive. It's about accepting them as negative as they really are, but if there is something positive in them, then we should also notice it.

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Cursed is everything that is done with a sane, rational, cold heart. And there is at least an iota of blessing in everything touched by a spark of passion. Only passion makes sins forgivable.

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Don't just mix it up! You have to get divorced one day. And don't be afraid, don't hesitate! Not everything gets dirty that gets mixed up!

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There are no good forces and no evil forces in the soul. There is only Force. (...) The big question is what do you use your power for? That is, are you a good person or an evil person? In fact, one of the most important questions of old age is: did you waste your strength on silly things, or did you spend it on valuable things? Did you destroy or build with it? Did you comfort or cause grief? Did you cure him or make him sick? (...) This is what a person's spiritual freedom means: what you use your power for depends on you alone.

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There is silence for anxiety, fear, anger, happiness, rejection, threat, surprised joy, desire... Silence is perhaps the most expressive response that (...) people are capable of. But you have to understand what the silence expresses.

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Love (...) is on the one hand a passion, on the other hand a great drama. In love, a person projects all his desires and fantasies onto the other person, and often falls in love with his own fantasy.

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People formulate many ideals in themselves, but it is a mistake to confuse the way we want to be with the way we really are.

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Unhappiness (...) depends much more on us than happiness. Happiness is a gift, or for the sake of believers, I can also say that it is a state of grace - but the causes of unhappiness are ourselves. Unhappiness doesn't happen to us, we create it.

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I am not a follower of any religion, I have a kind of belief system that I have created for myself from these various influences, but I am basically a skeptical person. I would add, in the good sense of the word, that is, not in the way that I believe in nothing, but in the way that I consider everything possible. So, I remained a mental stray dog.

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God is both male and female. But he did not give man the divine characteristic of bisexuality, just as he did not give immortality, but the divine essence was formed in two persons, male and female. So man and woman together resemble God, separately they are only demigods, one half of them is already divine, but the other is still animal because of the separation of the sexes.

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Every person is a self-determining, self-forming being who creates his own character, spiritual image, in short, his destiny.

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Don't try to be good at all costs, because on the one hand you won't succeed, and on the other hand you won't be forgiven or appreciated!

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If psychology wants to remain a science, it can only study what a person is like. You can't say what it should be like. You can't formulate values ​​because you don't have the opportunity to do so. It has no value-creating or value-judging function.

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We never get the truth from someone else. Everyone earns it by himself.

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No one can ask us why we are not like an idealized novel hero or an angel. But why we are not ourselves.

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You should detach from a relationship as weightlessly as a tree lets go of its leaves, that is, only if this is already emotionally possible. Let the petals begin to fall when the flower has already died inside us.

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Let's keep quiet about all the things that are insignificant from the point of view of a relationship and only cause pain, humiliation or jealousy to the other. Don't be a coward and weak, carry your burdens alone, don't want to put your partner on your shoulder!

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The full disclosure of our soul is not recommended even in the most intimate relationship. Everyone has the right to have their personal secrets.

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Both excessive honesty and excessive lying and silence are unhuman and destroy intimate relationships.

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The ruined house must completely collapse so that a new one can be built in its place.

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Every relationship sucks sometimes. Running away immediately is not an option. You have to try to save it, pull it out of the rot - this is true human behavior.

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Most people have a narcissistic element in their love: they project their desires onto their love and actually fall in love with their fantasy of the other. And when it turns out that he is not like that in reality, he will be the one to blame for our fantasy not being born of love.

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In the ecstasy of love, everyone shows their brightest face.

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After all, how long does a relationship last? Marriage or friendship - it doesn't matter. (...) As long as they are on the road. As long as they are still going somewhere. When they only repeat themselves, have final words, monologues that replace conversation, then it's over.

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If you love him, but sometimes you're tired of him, if you can't live without him, but sometimes you bore him, even hate him, you wish he would go away... Suppress all of this in yourself!

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If one of them becomes an adult under any influence (...), he will only be annoyed by his partner's childishness, the other is alarmed and does not understand what is happening, and they move away from each other in frustration.

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The self is the same as our whole story, the often bizarre, often absurd, often playful events of our lives. The creation of ourselves can be realized by threading our different contradictory or mutually reinforcing stories into a process.

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Man's original and eternal need is Thanatos, permanence, immutability, the indestructibility of personal existence.

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There is no such thing as a pendulum that only swings in one direction! If fate has brought great joys, it will also bring great sufferings. Of course, it is possible to live between small joys and small sorrows... But is it worth it?

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It was not given to man to voluntarily regulate his emotions. You can't decide that you'll hate the one you love, find attractive the one you're disgusted by. Emotional reactions can only be noticed and ascertained. Only behavior can be changed intentionally.

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Probably, in human relationships, disorder and disorganization can gradually become a crime. All of this is primarily good or bad, perhaps indifference, indifference, a desire for revenge that often arises as a result of real or perceived wrongs, a cruel and hateful denial and severance of everything that was once beautiful and good in a relationship.

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You can cause senseless suffering, humiliation, or fear to another person, or leave them alone without help when they need it.

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We drag behind us an endless stream of feelings, emotions, experiences, experiences, and memories that have become redundant today, which weigh on us like a pot, slow us down and tie us up.

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What connects two people? The insistence that they live together. What separates two people? The insistence that their relationship is over.

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The alternation of seeking, finding, and then being rejected can be tolerated from youth, if you make sure that your path is not lined with emotional corpses and do not hope that you are not morally responsible for your actions.

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Love turns into love over time. (...) Or boredom, or even hatred.

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Is there? No? Ecstasy until the end of old age? But it can be tiring! Life without love? So boring!

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A long and good life is not measured by years, but by experiences and knowledge.

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He who wants to be brave without mercy, who wants to be powerful without moderation, who wants to be a leader without modesty - he goes to destruction.

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All human relationships are based on the ability to give and receive. It lives as long as it is a joy to give and receive.

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Sometimes we can be happy just because we are not usually.

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You have to do everything for one person. Not for a situation. As long as a person is important to us, we have to do everything for them, and it's worth it. This is a real commitment. When it is not the person who is important, but the maintenance of the situation: the apartment, social and financial security, appearance, the opinion of the environment - then it is already a matter of compromise. This can also be accepted, but only honestly, at least in front of ourselves. Let's not fool ourselves with excuses: the interests of the children, moral concerns, the need to be gentle. Our cowardice to start over, our fear of change and being alone can make coexistence difficult, but it can sustain it. However, you cannot build a decent relationship on a lie: it will surely collapse.

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You have to choose and decide because it keeps people together.

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All relationships and events lead from somewhere to somewhere. You have to pay attention to this. Are we still on our way? Or are we just repeating ourselves? What does living together "bring out" of us? Good? Progress, serenity, freedom, ability to work? Bad? Nervousness, constriction, bad mood? The relationship changes, and so do we. Paths may diverge. If we permanently feel that we no longer have anything to do with each other, we can say goodbye without anger or hatred. However, we are often angry with the other person because they are not or have not become the way we imagined them to be. You can't help it, though, because we're not good enough at knowing people, and we asked for something that you can't give. It should be easy to leave, as the leaf comes off the tree. You are only allowed to go once and permanently. A tooth extraction is bad, but tolerable. But if they pulled a little on it every day - it would be unbearable. Two people are ruined in this kind of separation.

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Man longs for security and certainty. One day he realizes that he won't get it anyway. If he can avoid the traps of cynicism, fanaticism and indifference, he will be very lonely, but very strong.

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People often drag an endless chain behind them: the memories of the past. And it may happen that he is only living among the ruins of his life. (...) Don't live in the past, which is no longer there (don't worry about the future, which is not yet there), just live the present with all your strength and attention. This is how your life will be authentic.

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Never play chess with God! God can always create new pieces on the board when you think you have already won the game.

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You have to live together, not in each other and not next to each other. A relationship cannot give more than to help both the woman and the man to develop their hidden potential, to be more and more authentic and more distinctly themselves. This is the true meaning of the coexistence of two sovereign people. "I" cannot dissolve in the experience of "We". But these two selves cannot become so distant from each other that the relationship turns into a couple's solitude. The lives of two free people are thoughts and experiences; it is united by the sharing of joys and pains. But the sharing should also be done in moderation. Every person has the right to keep a small chamber in his soul for himself. It's just his. The door of this one does not need to be opened.

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You don't have to be a believer to be forgiven. Only for a good person. Is that too much? A normal person then. The one who doesn't keep all the bad things he's been through.

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Injuries must be forgiven. You shouldn't keep them to yourself.

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A sign of a society's distortion and a sick society is that it lives according to myths and not according to rationality.

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There is an old legend according to which a white and a black angel roam the Earth and watch and hear what people say and think. If someone sets himself up well, expects good, hopes for good, then the white angel says "so be it". And the black angel is obliged to say amen to this. If, on the other hand, someone behaves badly, is sad, bitter, then the black angel says "so be it". And the white angel is obliged to say Amen. By this I just want to say that people who are believers, who are optimistic, who prepare for the good usually succeed better than those who are bitter, pessimistic and expect bad things. This is a very beautiful legend that has stayed with me. We have to be careful when the two angels fly over us. I really believe that one of the most important things is trust.

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People asked the delphoica for predictions, they were curious about their future and their fate. The soothsayer replied: know yourself and you will know your destiny. Because you are your destiny. You are not controlled by external forces, the gods are within you, and your character and personality shape and shape your future. Change yourself and your destiny will change. Accept yourself and you will be able to accept your destiny.

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I have a spiritual connection to India, and for all its improbability, I never doubted for a minute that when the time was right, I would get there.

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The human psyche is not a structure, but a set. What's more, the coexistence of multiple personalities, or more precisely personality possibilities, side by side. One is dominant, the others are lurking. Radical changes in life situations do not change the structure and mechanisms of the personality, but a different personality possibility comes to the fore.

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We love or hate a person in their entirety. We cannot break it down into properties, we cannot say that we accept what is pleasant for us, and reject what is disturbing and annoying. There is only one question: As it is and if it stays like this, do I need it?

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There are two types of people who constantly deal with God: the believer and the atheist. They are lovely in the sight of the Lord. Only the person who is left cold by this problem is dangerous for faith.

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The end of all human relationships and their turning into enmity is due to the grief that comes with death, despair and shuddering from the cold breath of final solitude, which touches a person.

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Every road is a good road that leads somewhere.

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If we catch our thoughts that they want to graze on our memory field, pull them back, rein them in, saying that they have nothing to earn there. The wilting grass and dead flowers of the memorial field can only make you gasp. First of all, the past is unreality, since it no longer exists.

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This socially and emotionally infantile generation, easily controlled by cheap and attractive myths, slogans and authority figures, is the most desirable mass base for both dictatorships and globalization societies.

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The bottom line: don't burn on the fire of your own past! Because it's hell itself. Besides, you chose it.

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The decision itself, the act of choosing, the determination and courage required for this mentally hold together like a tire the sides of the barrels. And the choice itself, which carries within itself the unpredictability of the consequences, the adventure of life, the "be what must be" attitude, thus surrendering to tomorrow.

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After a breakup, don't renew old relationships, don't organize another farewell party, a fresh start, and don't develop "neither with you nor without you" type of relationships. Life creates situations where you have to choose. Don't run away from the responsibility of the decision, the choice.

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Don't go into the ruins! Don't wonder if you could have shaped your past differently. Your main spiritual strength can only be acceptance of what has happened. Accept that what happened to you, what you did, is your law. Therefore, drive far away from you all regrets, guilt, remorse, all internal events and shame that humiliate you.

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Among the ruins, the ghost of the past is dying. Say goodbye to him permanently! The dying spirit of the past seeks life force, and it can be no other than your faith. Your faith is in his eternal life, eternal presence.

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Take off your hat! Don't let your heart ache for what has passed! What was important about them is already in you, it is already you. And if you stay there among the ruins, where can everything that is still in front of you be built?

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The politician has opponents in every party. His enemies are only in his own party.

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The stealth killer of love is laziness. When the security of acquired happiness begins to spoil everyday life. When we are already lazy to court, seduce, make ourselves desirable - including washing, brushing teeth, combing, using cologne and attractive clothes and pajamas. For what? It's already ours. But this is how the death knell rings for a male-female relationship. Because it should be written in all capital letters in our hearts: PEOPLE ARE NOT PROPERTY!

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Industrial pedagogy works like an assembly line. At the age of six, when the child is mature, they put the child on the conveyor belt, and in every lesson they add a little extra knowledge of literature, physics, mathematics, etc. Eighteen years later, as a graduate pseudo-intellectual, he steps off the assembly line. He became a lawyer, doctor, and engineer. A good child is one who willingly lets the elements of knowledge be gradually installed on him. The speed of the conveyor belt is either too slow or too fast for him. As mental patients, they should be sent to a psychologist, psychiatrist, or educational counselor.

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Real things can't be done small. A person cannot be a little religious, a little religious, a little murderous, a little pregnant, a little bloody, a little dead.

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The past is gone. The future isn't there yet. The present is one reality.

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The essence of a lie is deliberate misrepresentation.

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You start cursing when you have no reason.

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The world is governed by the law of action-reaction. As much as I exert a concentrated force in one direction, I will achieve a concentrated effect. I only get a definite answer to a definite question. There are basic life situations in which it is only permissible to act clearly. If I'm already wondering whether I should get married, have a child, change my profession - then don't do it. I have to wait until things are clear to me - then I can act easily and decisively. And it brings the result.

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He who has confusion creates confusion in his environment. He who has order creates order around himself.

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Industrial hospital or clinic medicine works like a large-scale auto repair shop. There are specialists here and there. In the repair shop, there are motor fitters, body fitters, electrical fitters, upholsterers, polishers, etc. The hospital has cardiologists, internists, endocrinologists, laryngologists, surgeons, etc. They take action depending on what the problem is. The center of their interest is the diseased organ. The person himself is devalued into a case of the diseased organ. It includes a malfunctioning heart or kidney. And the case should not have excessive personal needs. Accordingly, a good patient is someone who is modest, adaptable, looks at the "professional" with sufficient reverence, and can be cured in a routine manner. A worse patient who causes problems and headaches. And the incurable patient is the outcast of medicine.

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If you want to be told few lies, then ask few questions and rarely threaten.

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Many, many people, former loves, friends, enemies, memories of happy and bitter experiences, victories, defeats, shame, triumphs, money and career... We pull, drag, get tangled again and again; emotions and passions that we once experienced pass through us, the traces of which have already disappeared in time. Only we keep them alive, wake them up from their deathly deep sleep. And then they appear like shadows of the past. I haunted you.

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Sometimes it's amazing how heavy and long sleps people drag behind them.

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The easiest and most courageous way to get rid of your fears is to get close to them and experience them.

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Depression begins when you are convinced that your future will be the same as your present.

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In any case, you have to watch out for tantrums. A sudden start, irritation is not dangerous. The person releases the poison and that's it. But if someone silently collects their anger for weeks, months, or even years, then an outburst of anger is already worrying.

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If you can aim cold, your words will land more accurately than if you are screaming in a frenzy. A frenzied person who has lost his self-control quickly becomes ridiculous.

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The pendulum must swing in both directions: in addition to anger, there must also be smiles and shared laughter.

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Love between two people means that the other's joy and good feelings (...) are more important than mine. Love means renunciation of a selfish, egocentric way of life. Love comes with willing sacrifices, without subsequent invoice submissions or regrets. Love - even if it is gone - shines back from the past as the most important gift of life. Even more simply: love is the joy of having the other in the world.

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The bottom line is that the slave society still thrives today. And the most humiliating form of slavery is wearing emotional shackles, including jealousy.

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Love is the experience that something is very important in terms of a person's mental balance, satisfaction, self-esteem, and security. The fear stems from the realization that the important relationship is not absolute, but bound to the observance of certain conditions, so it can be lost in any given case.

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"Real" doesn't exist. Is not. Nowhere does a woman or a man live who is real, and who just has to be found. But if you're lucky, you can meet two or three people in your life who can become "real". But this requires a lot of patience, resignation, understanding, staying in the background, but eventually a relationship can develop in which the other person has already become indispensable, that is, it has become real.

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Man is an evil and vindictive being. He does indeed spit into the now empty plate from which he had a delicious dinner yesterday. You crave great flavors again. And this desire is attachment!

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It is easiest to make the loved one - woman or man - responsible for the fact that our relationships burn out and go bad.

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We have to play with ourselves and those related to us by blood, with friends, love, successes, disappointments, money and career, health and illness, and finally life and death.

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The superstitious is not the one who believes in elves, but the one who imagines that they are visible to the naked eye.

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You cannot build a lasting and safe emotional relationship on an SOS situation.

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We trust power, friends, family, and our love less and less, more and more cautious suspicions accumulate in us. And indeed, it seems more and more that mistrust is becoming the cancer of our society. Distrust means the impossibility of harmonious social coexistence and mainly the disintegration of our most intimate relationship, the family.

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The family often requires very difficult adaptations and sacrifices in order to live together. But to undertake this requires faith, faith in God. You have to believe in the sanctity of God and the family, not in social contracts and conventions.

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They pay for love with resignation and compromise. Of course, you can't live with anyone without compromises.

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True love, often referred to as an empty phrase, begins with respect for life. Family love too. And this is based on the joy that the other is in the world and that we were able to meet. And the other basis of this feeling is the joy that I am also in the world, that I too can be loved, and that our meeting is also about this. No kind of hatred or self-loathing can fit into love. Contemplation, anger, fear, and worry fit in, but hateful rejection does not.

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Keep your memories stubbornly, don't lie about them even to yourself, because you are the person you are from your memories, and without them the devil will truly take you away.

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Jealousy proves a disturbance of self-esteem, but in no case love or affection.

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Silence precludes violence. Violence is always noisy. He speaks at public meetings, incites the crowd to roar, shouts, marches with a bang, shoots, throws bombs, explodes, sends death with rockets. The medium of peace is silence.

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Happiness is a total moment, a moment of completeness. This is available sometimes, but even then only for a moment, and most of the time it comes completely unexpectedly. It cannot be planned, it can be decided.

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According to legend, Jesus fed many thousands of people with five loaves and two fish, then seven loaves and a few fish. Inevitable globalization pours billions of bread, fish, dollars, and euros in front of the multitudes who confess and receive absolution, while thousands and tens of thousands die of hunger on Earth. Has the life of faith turned around? Is it easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a poor man to receive the daily bread for which the clergy prays daily?

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Adults often do not understand that the fact that they take care of the child is much more important than how they do it, whether they praise or punish them. Care is the point. Therefore, aggressiveness and disobedience are an excellent opportunity for the child to attract the attention of adults and force them to deal with him.

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There is a problem with human relations. A person makes so many compromises during his life, he has to adapt to such an extent that he doesn't want to be at home anymore, but without it you can't live together, and so relationships get overturned.

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There are so many versions of the male-female relationship, and today they are all called love. This is not true, love is a much rarer and deeper phenomenon, and it is an awfully great gift of life.

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Many people are not happy by themselves and think that another person will make them happy, but this is a completely hopeless enterprise.

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Just because we fail, the path is not wrong, just lead us somewhere. It's wrong if it doesn't lead you anywhere.

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Man is terribly afraid of being alone, which is why he needs a companion, a life ally. He stays in even a dead relationship so that he is not lonely.

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I was startled to realize that I understand more than I perceive. Sometimes I know something I couldn't know, I heard something that wasn't said, I saw something that wasn't visible. I was afraid of going crazy.

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I called. He didn't answer. I repeated it stubbornly and several times. Only silence answered. Where is? What could have happened? Why don't you apply? I'm stupid! Where would it be? Always here and always everywhere. I was about to call him again when I realized I didn't know his name. I can't speak to you.

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- What's up? - There is. - What was it? - There is, but you think it's gone. - What will it be? - There is, but you think it isn't there yet.

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- Is death terrible? - Only the road to death. - Is life terrible? - Only the path to birth. - What is between the two horrors? - The joy and suffering of existence.

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However, man is free in how he behaves. He corrects the mistakes of the past or makes them worse, accepts or feels alien to his life situations, looks for a scapegoat or experiences responsibility for the consequences of his own past actions.

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- How can I recognize them? - Because their souls hurt. - Does everyone have a soul? - If it doesn't hurt, then it doesn't.

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Where are you paying attention? Where are you going? What is important to you? Why can't you let go of all the crap in your life?

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Isn't it usually better for a person to caress someone other than himself, and perhaps the other person also likes it better if a loved being caressed him. The reason for this is not so easy to decipher. Because the point is not in the touch, but in the intention, the emotion that guides the hand.

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Stay in the simplicity of the present moment. You have to stop useless worries, dwelling on the past, and rushing to the future. In other words, get rid of the unrealities of "no longer" and "not yet". Live in the only reality, the "now".

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Pay attention to small actions, good or bad. Even the dripping water eventually fills the large container.

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Today, scientists claim that the reason for the impending world catastrophe is that the development of human intelligence has completely lagged behind the rapid advancement of technology. We can add: the scissors opened. Not only intelligence, but also moral sense is now below the frog's bottom compared to the technological peak. It's slowly becoming like a gorilla getting his hands on a hand grenade. Either he destroys himself with it or others.

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It is not possible to live harmoniously with someone if there is not also the motive that I cannot do anything with the other person because I might lose them. Conditions are required. Of course, people don't like this very much, because they have the infantile desire to be accepted unconditionally. However, this is unrealistic. It doesn't work in reality.

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If life is such that you usually have to rush and you are always in a time crunch, you have to accept it. The question is whether you rush excitedly or calmly. (...) The problem is not with rushing, but with internal excitement, which spoils the quality of a person's life.

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I'm used to working sixteen hours a day, and recently I'm shocked to notice that I'm tired. I was told by my friends that you get old with time. I always secretly think that this sort of thing only happens to other people.

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What comes to mind about things is what we have learned, heard, and experienced about them so far. From a young age - through our upbringing and schooling - we acquire a system of ready-made judgments, which eventually surround us almost like a closed envelope. Therefore, in the rarest of cases, we experience things and events in their pure reality.

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There are situations in life that can only be handled with a certain toughness. Many times, in our fear that we will be a little hard and thereby cause pain, we postpone the decision and thus increase a more serious situation that can really only be solved cruelly. We postpone the acceptance of minor tensions until the forced experience of a much greater tension becomes unavoidable.

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A relationship can become a prison, filled with lies and rebellious fantasies. We are not just partners, we are a man and a woman: with many aspects of our own lives. Living together is only possible in inner freedom.

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Today's public mood despises compromise. At least in words. He sees spinelessness in compromises. Don't believe it. You cannot live with another person without compromises. My partner is not my lookalike. In coexistence, compromise means mutual adaptation. Renunciation of some of our own desires and needs for the sake of the other. Without it, there is no common life.

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We must realize that we are primarily responsible for ourselves, that we are accountable to our own conscience. There is no external accountability, punishment or reward in our internal affairs. We judge ourselves.

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Our much-complained way of life has not unnoticed developed the need for anxiety and overstimulation in more than one person. You yourself recall the way of life you complain about. Life feels empty when it is not overcrowded with things to do. You don't know what to do with yourself if you happen to have an empty hour. He is startled by silence, even by being alone for a short time. It became his need to "always have something going on", to always be stimulated. If you can't do anything else, you quickly turn on the radio or television. Why are we afraid of silence, of staying with ourselves? Why do pocket radios blare between the mountains and on the water's edge? Why do we let the sounds of water, trees, and wind disappear from our lives?

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It is not possible to raise without fear and demands, it is not possible to live with someone if the relationship does not include the motive that I may lose the other person. Conditions are needed. And people really don't like this, because they have an infantile desire to be accepted unconditionally. However, this is unrealistic. There is no such.

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Our environment corresponds to what we radiate from ourselves. Without internal change, external redemption will not come.

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The world simply does not fit within the bounds of rationality, but this frightens many people, and they react to everything they cannot explain with a disdainful smile, anger or denial, as gloomy pseudo-adults.

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You cannot stand firmly on denial alone. There should also be a YES.

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You can't build strong relationships in a time crunch. The value of a relationship can also be measured by how much time the partners devote to each other, how much they care for each other. Sometimes it's enough just to be together in silence. In one of his poems, Kosztolányi writes about an international company traveling by train: "Our silences do not connect in the end, since I listen in Hungarian, they in Swedish." Very clever. Because there is also a kind of silence between men and women that does not match. That doesn't count as time. It is fundamentally important whether they listen together or separately.

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Money and objects (...) cannot replace the time that two people can give each other from their lives.

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Isn't there some ancient wisdom that a man has the right to keep certain things to himself? This is not unlove, it is simply a level of sovereignty that must be respected. It may be my husband, my wife, my child, it may be the greatest friendship between us, you still have the right to have an area of ​​your life that you do not share with the other. It's not a crime, it's not a lie! An integral part of a person's sovereignty is deciding what to share with others and what not to share.

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The conflict itself is slowly becoming a pathological symptom in our approach. Would the conflict-free person, whose character development surely has problems, be an ideal? Because character is forged through experiencing and resolving conflicts. It is natural that human life takes place in the midst of conflicts, because the absence of conflict also means the absence of communication and contact. It is not the absence of conflict, but the dignified and appropriate dealing with it that is worth striving for.

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The one who once entrusted himself to us should never be let down. You have to go with him, whether to hell or heaven, genius, idiocy, depression or euphoria, hand in hand, always together, wherever he goes.

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Only knowledge can be transferred and taught, but not wisdom. You have to find wisdom, you can live by it, but you can't say it or communicate it.

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The problem with facts is that there are too many of them. You can give examples and counterexamples for everything.

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A person who fights with himself, who is dissatisfied, who struggles with his situations can be psychologically healthy, in fact! - his internal struggles stem from his health, his insight into problems, and his need for change and change.

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If loyalty and trust require ceremony, then loyalty and trust are already there.

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You can protect yourself against anxiety (...) with, among other things, myths. So the XX. century will predictably be characterized by a lack of myths. (...) We mythologized and are still mythologizing social-changing ideologies, political leaders, parties, mystical communities and their leaders, mechanized angels called UFOs, light and energy transmitters, clears, hand-applied people, miracle doctors, the apostles of race theory, satanists, health, life lifestyle rules that prolong, but also make joyless, and everything else...

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Self-proclaimed villainy is a rare phenomenon.

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A person cannot be loyal in many ways.

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Without self-respect (...) a person quickly falls down. After all, those who don't matter can behave any way they like. In the same way, a society that does not respect the individual will also fall.

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Of all the social arrangements that arose from prehistory to Greek antiquity and beyond, none could give what Greek antiquity gave its citizens: that they could be intelligent and happy at the same time. All other societies offered and still offer their citizens the choice of being intelligent and depressed or happy and stupid. You can choose! But they cannot have both at the same time.

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A person's whole life depends on whether he dares to be himself, even if he comes up against the public mood and authorities, or succumbs to these conformist pressures. If you do not surrender, there is a serious risk, because neither society nor the authorities like this. Terror, dictatorship and globalized society have the same human ideal, there is no difference. Dictatorship loves those who can be controlled by slogans, false myths, and propaganda. The globalized society prefers the same for business interests: people who can be moved en masse with propaganda, advertising, and false orientation. Both social systems abhor independent thinking, true to themselves individuals who refuse to submit to this collective control.

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You don't have to take yourself so deadly seriously.

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I imagine that the Past has a magic brush in its hand, with which it paints all the beauty in your life black. It turns every love into bitterness, every happiness into disappointment, every success into failure. He lies that then it will be easier to say goodbye to what has passed, perhaps even to life... Don't squander the gifts of your destiny out of self-pity and cowardice!

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Furniture, cars, clothes are not made for one lifetime, houses are not meant to be homes for generations. Be attractive, fashionable, accessible and easily replaceable. And the love partner? The husband or the wife?

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Chromosomal abnormalities occur very rarely. (...) These are extremely rare cases, and among them the XYY chromosome connection is the most common, so the super man. What is he like? Very tall, muscular, temper driven and completely stupid. Most of the time he is really mentally disabled or borderline. It's not worth being a super man!

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Everyone strives to become the most conquering male and the most desirable female. But the roots reaching into animal existence are disguised as aesthetics for moral reasons. We talk about beauty and we mean mating.

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Born into the human world, the newcomer's fate usually falls into the hands of women. His joy, suffering, security, satisfaction, satiety, sleep, general physical and mental well-being, ultimately whether it is good or bad to live in the world, depends on female superpowers. This is the basic experience of starting life.

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Most of the time, after the age of two, the child begins to notice the privileged position of men, even in families striving for the most symmetrical relationship between men and women. (...) The child observes exactly who watches TV and who does the dishes, who goes to the match on Sunday and who cleans, who yells often and who shuts up, who has the power to punish, "I'll tell your father!" and who snores loudly, yet they don't tell him. He understands that it's better to be a man, or as sociologists say, a man's role is rewarded.

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True affection is rare and life's great gift.

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Certain people do not tolerate authority over themselves: they have a maniacal desire to do what they want. This is how the history of humanity begins: "You shall not eat from the fruit of only two trees," said God. What's the answer? It's just... I don't even accept the power of God, and I also eat from what I shouldn't. Some people are like that, but not all. For some people, being on a leash gives them security, there is a power that they depend on, that protects them, that takes care of them, and above all, frees them from thinking.

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Life forces you to play games. The only question is, do you always have to agree to what life forces you to do? Life also forces wars. Life also forces the contrast between peoples and religions. Now I could list everything that life forces: negative emotions, evil actions. Do you have to say yes to everything? Since the world is evil and depraved, do we also have to be evil and depraved? Or should we rather take the risk of resistance, which can sometimes cost a person's existence, even his life? I know that you can't demand this from anyone, you can only demand it from yourself. But there is no need to elevate cowardice to glory!

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Trust is shaken in those who promise easily.

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He who does not show himself - begins to shine. He who does not brag will be successful. He who does not demand respect is accepted as a leader. No one can fight anyone who doesn't fight anyone.

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We have become comfortable in sculpting and educating ourselves, we have become lazy in nurturing our human relationships, we avoid solving our delicate and tense situations. It is better to reduce our nervousness by taking one pill at a time, without effort, than to go through a path of self-knowledge with hard work in order to find out the cause of our tensions and overcome them by our own efforts. But is it better?

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It's easier to complain than to sweat out a solution. And endlessly - to many and repeating the same thing many times - we complain!

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In the absence of self-commitment, we cannot even get to the point of confrontation, rather we deceive ourselves. And you lie to yourself so easily, you don't have to fear being exposed.

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There has never been a tree in the world with a slender trunk and heavy, strong upper branches. Things have cause and effect, human affairs have a beginning and an end.

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We must nurture and develop the complete person within us, who experiences the widest possible range of emotions: there is anger, joy, sadness and ecstasy.

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It is ancient wisdom that before we start speaking, it is worth considering whether what we want to say is: is it true? is it important? is it out of goodwill?

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Let the sunset, a mountain, a tree, a flower, an animal affect us. When we listen to music, let's temporarily forget the composer, the conductor, the parts of the individual instruments - let's surrender ourselves only to the sound.

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We don't want to see and acknowledge what is in our "spiritual bag". We carry the bag even if we don't look inside.

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We also choose our human relationships in such a way that they facilitate our self-deception. We avoid people who give truthful feedback about us, accusing them of malice. We like those who support our illusions, who serve the need to maintain false appearances. At the end of the process, there is bitter disappointment in our relationships.

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If everyday is bad, eventually the whole life will be bad. One of the most important secrets of a meaningful, good life is not to leave any leftovers. Every day, every life situation, every age must be lived in its entirety, without any leftovers.

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We don't really find opportunities to relax in our busy days. It may sound comical, but e.g. queuing and waiting cannot necessarily be experienced only as annoyance. Waiting can also be a gift of calm time, during which we can think about many things, let off steam - if we need it and are able to experience this half hour from this aspect.

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It is not our duty to entertain others all the time. It is not important that we always appear and be interesting. We need to learn who is worth telling what. And to listen when we have nothing important to say.

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You cannot live in the dark and cold. We must preserve the light and warmth of ourselves and our relationships. The main ingredient of relationships is care.

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Just listen! Today is the day you were so afraid of yesterday.

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True belonging is probably the greatest value in life. And it's obvious that it's not only a matter of love, but also friendship, or the hard-to-define feeling of "I have something to do with this person".

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I'm sorry, but I'm often silent. It has already been said that we should not listen to anything, because we are destroying ourselves, we are poisoning ourselves with our silence, with our suppressed emotions. And don't the words spoken, the emotions expressed sometimes kill?

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The European man also respects those who do not agree with him, because he knows that the truth has many faces and is always relative.

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Because what is entrusted to man? Himself. His own life. You have the right to defend yourself. And you have to build your own internal defense system, because in most cases you expect this from the outside world in vain.

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You are the one who was entrusted to you at birth, and you are primarily responsible for yourself throughout your life. And the sense of responsibility for others in the first place - although it looks like goodness and altruism - is a cunning devil's trap that diverts you from your primary work on Earth.

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Here, biographies and Hungarian history are rewritten every thirty years. And no one takes responsibility for anything. The Tatars, Turks, Germans and Russians did everything here, so we are neither jointly nor individually responsible for anything.

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There is only one possibility: one should love one's own story with all its follies and disappointments, because it is one's own birth.

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Love without a will is empty sentimentality and crocodile tears. Will without love is violence and cruelty.

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Don't have a hysterical attack if the ship of your life sometimes capsizes on a sharper breaking wave. You've been scared of sinking a hundred times and you're still sailing on high water.

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He who is never asked is already half free of lies. Because you're allowed to listen. (...) Those who are asked tend to answer. And then the question is whether he answers truthfully.

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As long as you live, forever choose and decide whether you go right or left, look up or down. (...) Don't have any doubt that one of two contradictory (...) judgments is definitely true and the other is definitely false.

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We can only ascertain (...) our sympathies or dislikes, but we cannot change them by making a decision.

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We have to lie because they expect us to, because they don't really tolerate the truth, and we don't tolerate ourselves with all our contradictions either. We have to lie because we fear the consequences of telling the truth.

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It is not possible to decide that from tomorrow we will hate the person we love, or we will love a hated person. Whether someone is attractive to us (...) or repulsive does not depend on the intention.

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You are not responsible for your feelings, desires, and thoughts. They are like a flock of birds flying over the house. But if they nestle under your eaves, build a nest, hatch chicks - that depends on your consent.

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We believe that our peers and relatives love us, we believe in friendship solidarity, in the durability of our love and in the fact that there are certain things (...) that "only happen to someone else". (...) Much of it is obviously an illusion, or at best a confusion of intention with reality. And whoever does not join our illusions, and even destroys them, is the enemy.

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If our memories change, we change with them. In fact, it is worth lying to ourselves for this hope. (...) And when we think we have been saved, our unconscious is still running with us, that part of us that preserves everything we want to get rid of.

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A lie is an untruth presented with the intent to deceive.

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A person has a right to have secrets. You have the right to preserve the intimacies of your life that belong only to you. This is not deception, this is not mistrust. And if someone evaluates it this way, it is the party, he does not trust the other when he wants to keep an entire life under control.

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The exposure (...) is one of the greatest humiliations and humiliations. He who lives in even a little love will not expose his partner to it.

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The change is brought about by the attitude of rejection, the fact that we do not accept something in ourselves, we want to get rid of it, or at least we want to reshape it. The psychological reality is that all change is inherently hopeless if its starting point is not acceptance, the inner saying yes to the wholeness of ourselves.

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Man is not property. A relationship doesn't mean you can't be happy without me. You can't keep secrets from me.

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You paint your loves, for example, how great they are, and then it ends up like this and you ask: did I love you? Fraz, I put my own ornaments on you and fell in love with my own ornaments.

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A grown man who can tolerate the diversity and contradictions of his emotions.

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Perhaps the three most difficult human tasks are to be a tolerable teenager, an acceptable patient, and a pleasant old man.

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Attachment and freedom are opposites. Complete inner freedom can only be achieved when one renounces all attachments.

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As with eternal peace, the attempts of many thousands of years prove that what doesn't work, doesn't work. In other words, there may be individual good solutions for male-female relationships and long-term cohabitation, but there are none on a social scale: there is tolerance, tolerance, compromise and tolerable compromises. The only important thing is that the compromises made are tolerable, so that giving up is worth staying together.

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European culture has four roots: it was born from Greek philosophy, Roman sense of law, Jewish knowledge of God and Christian morality.

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As much as a person who is seized by spiritual restlessness and searches for his master either without leaving his room or wandering around the world can be credible, a master who runs after disciples and recruits the faithful through advertisements and posters is so unreliable.

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Buddhists have a good little practice: every weekend they write down in a notebook what brought them out of their rut during the week. What were they afraid of, why were they angry, what were they upset about - only briefly, in reminder words. After a month, they go through the list and observe themselves, what still hurts and upsets them, and what is no longer important to them. They are pulled out. In such cases, one is sometimes shocked to see what kind of nonsense he has excited himself about. Things that don't matter after days or weeks have passed. In this way, things that are really emotionally important emerge over time.

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Good does not mean obedience, but acting in accordance with one's own convictions.

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Be that as it may, every relationship is valuable and should be preserved as long as possible in this harsh and increasingly harsh world.

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Do not hate youth because it is gone, and do not hate old age because it has come.

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If two people can no longer discuss important things, then writing does not help either.

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Don't be a jerk! People say a lot of things in anger that they don't mean, but they can still hurt a lot and leave an eternal mark. Don't give away the values ​​of your life lightly, out of anger!

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During the period of intoxication, everyone plays the role of the most beautiful, tries to live up to the fantasy created about him. And when, during cohabitation, it turns out that it is not like that - he attracts his partner's angry disappointment and hatred.

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In anger, people often say things that they don't even believe, and can only regret afterwards. Regrets must be accepted. Moreover, after a while you have to forget the grievances. They should not be seeded again and again every day.

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In modern society, the majority of people devote all their energy to acquiring the necessities of life. There is no time left to live.

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A devil is more interesting than an angel. Sin is always more interesting than good. Disorder for order, zigzag space for smooth modernity, obscurity for transparent light, nook for room.

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In love, in any male-female, parent-child relationship, in friendship, in the relationship between master and student, one can hardly commit a greater sin than if someone forges power for himself (...) from a better understanding of the world, knowledge of secrets, beauty, intelligence, from suggestiveness, or from the other's weakness, reluctance, feelings of inferiority, humility, admiration, and the search for security.

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A person's home can be in many places, there is only one country.

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A person commits a crime when he causes senseless suffering to others or fails to alleviate suffering when he has the means to do so.

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The root of jealousy is always a lack of self-confidence, the feeling that I am worse than others, that I am a pore when compared, that is, I prepare in advance for defeat.

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We run through our lives, looking for happiness, searching, as if there is something in the book of Fate that we must be happy.

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We soon forget about other people's problems, difficulties and failures! How we glide over the successes and joys of others! (...) People are not as concerned about our problems, shame, and failure as they are about us. So are our joys and achievements.

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"Acceptance" does not mean acquiescing to what cannot be acquiesced in, nor does it mean non-criticism. Acceptance means calm and analytical acknowledgment, respect for reality.

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The descent into hell never happens alone. There is usually a leader who moves more comfortably in the underworld of the soul, but in the end he cannot spare the hell-walker from any distressing, frightening or suffering experience.

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In Arthur Miller's play A View from the Bridge, one of the characters says that maybe our problem is that we hate one hundred percent. We are satisfied with fifty percent love, eighty percent fatherhood, motherhood, sixty percent faith. In other words, we never live through our things. We always leave a loophole through which we can slip. That's right. One hundred percent is scary. Because if we fail, we fail one hundred percent. But is it worth living in this lukewarmness? In other words, is it worth living in such a way that one is constantly busy trying to save oneself from pain and suffering?

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Every person has the right to keep a door or two closed in his soul, and this right must be respected in the name of human dignity.

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Honesty is therefore a double-edged sword. Sometimes it connects, sometimes it destroys. Sometimes it just serves to shift a portion of one's life burdens onto the other's shoulders. Sometimes we have a moral obligation to remain silent, if honesty would result in humiliating or insulting the other person. Sometimes we have a moral obligation to speak, if silence would mislead the other about the burdensomeness of our relationship, or hide the approaching end.

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Don't be afraid of upcoming adventures, loves, travels, changes, defeats, failures, don't always want to do well! Anyone who can't stand being punched sometimes, even knocked out, can't be a boxer, can't enter the ring.

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It's actually quite nice to be a coward. You can endure so many burdensome situations with cowardice! The cowardly man doesn't even have a good turn. Self-fear is a heavy shackle.

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What justifies a life today? Only success! Just the momentary recognition, the momentary compactness of the box. And when success fades away, when one's chest becomes thin, then whoever one was before, one also dies in the memory of one's contemporaries, former friends, and business partners. Nobody remembers him anymore. True greatness usually remains hidden.

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Don't be afraid of silence. All important things happen in silence. The plants sprout in silence, the fetus develops in silence, thoughts spin in silence, love overwhelms you in silence.

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Is the language that is degraded into slang and blasphemy by the tyrants of the entertainment industry and politics sacred? Are the words that were so guarded, cherished, nicknamed - regardless of their Serbian, Slovak, Jewish, German, Romanian origin - the greatest sons of the Hungarian people, writers, poets, actors, real statesmen? Do words that have been stripped of their meaning remain sacred? (...) Is it a coincidence that the Greek and Latin high cultures put the artists of language, the masters of rhetoric on a pedestal, and chased away from the public the corrupters of language and style. They knew well that when they protect the purity of the language, they protect their country, they protect the culture that they loved and respected as their motherland.

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Is it possible to live without lies? You probably can't. And yet we cannot settle for that. Someone lies to us, and someone is angry about it. Shall we have two?

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You have to grow up to be an adult. The man wearing the adult mask with the soul of a child - "little boy in big shoes" - undertook to play a difficult role. You have to be very careful that the mask does not slip off. The fear of being exposed makes him a perpetually anxious or angry, gloomy person. He no longer dares to play, be silly, laugh at himself. Later he won't even know. The mask burned onto his face. He can't shake it off.

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All my life, I could only get the light and warmth from women, without which I could not have lived.

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Anyone who sets off on a road always gets guides who show him possible directions for a while. Then they leave him to light his own candle, if he has one, or to wander in the darkness of the spirit.

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There is only one way to forgive: forgetting. And when a competent person says that I forgive, but I don't forget, then he is making a fool of himself.

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We cannot meet everyone's expectations, we cannot serve everyone's needs. People are so diverse, and their demands are so diverse and contrary to us, that we would have to tear ourselves apart to the point of destruction if we wanted to meet them all. We cannot be good in everyone's eyes (...). This cannot be the measure of our conduct. We have to pick and choose between expectations. The measure of this is our own conviction and conscience. Therefore, we must be able to say no when appropriate. Only the characterless, conformist person has no enemies.

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My speech will be one with me if I speak the truth and important things with good will to those who deserve it.

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We ruminate on our old grievances or yearn back to our past states; we scare or console ourselves with the imagined future. Meanwhile, we are gliding over the actual reality, the present.

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Those who love, those who hate, those who are indifferent act according to different aspects. The reaction is different for men and women, for winners and losers.

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It must not be forgotten that all fear, anxiety, and bitterness are calls, as well as serenity, cheerfulness and confidence. And what you call consistently will eventually come to you.

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We are solely the cause of our lack of self-knowledge. As the Buddha says, there is nothing in the world that is hidden or withheld from the beginning, including in the human soul. We don't know what we don't want or dare to know about ourselves.

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The spiritual life of a self-adoring narcissist (...) can be put in order a hundred times more than that of a partner whose self-esteem is broken, who has lost self-confidence and who is drawn into the eternal spiritual shadow.

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He who does not love himself cannot love others. A person who hates himself will usually hate people.

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From time to time, most people have a feeling that they have something to do with the infinite, with something mysterious and beyond human. This has nothing to do with dogmatic religiosity, but it is the basis of all religions. Anyone who does not know this feeling is at most formally observing cultic regulations, but is not a believer or religious in the full sense of the word.

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Changing (...) is difficult because everyone who lives with you, is around you, or just knows you, demands that you don't change, that you be the same tomorrow as you were yesterday. Because if you change, you disturb their routine with you, you generally threaten their trust in the stability of things.

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We experience all kinds. And we either adjust and correct our opinions according to what we have experienced, or we analyze our experiences in such a way, reevaluating and falsifying them, until they seem to confirm our previously formed opinion. In the first case we get to know, in the second case to prejudices.

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There is no bell whose tongue swings out only to one side. Little joy, little sorrow, great joy, great sadness always go together.

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Preservation of youth is done exclusively by spiritual means, which prevent the aging of the soul. Getting rid of negative feelings, emotions and thoughts is most important. You have to believe in happiness, friendship, love, providence, good, moral order and the possession of good.

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Neither your path nor that of others is the only path to salvation. Those who climb up often injure themselves.

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If we pay more attention, we can realize how much we fear unnecessarily. Because very often we become victims of our imagination. Imagination can magnify situations into enormous significance, blowing them up into terrifying mumbo jumbo.

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The real internal damage is caused by cowardice, when we escape from embarrassing situations with the help of a lie, and especially when we don't even admit to ourselves.

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We have to choose and decide, but not under the illusion that we are managing our destiny according to our desires, but because the fact of choice and decision keeps people together spiritually and protects them from avoiding difficult situations forever.

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Whoever repeatedly lies about his past, denies his former self, sooner or later becomes a pitiable and ridiculous cat, because he loses the importance of his personality, his life falls apart into mosaics.

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If a person does not choose, does not accept the stress of the decision, then he lets go of the control of his life, he drifts.

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No one should be harmed either by lying or in any other way. So far, and only so far, lying is a moral issue. And this is beyond human measure. Despite our best intentions, our hearts will often grow cold. But even the effort means a lot.

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No one can jump beyond their own intellectual limits, there is more hope for reduction.

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It's great if someone can listen well. Listening is power. He forces the weaker to speak.

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Being chosen is suffering (...). Not joy and happiness. The Lord praises His chosen ones with torments. Because they are strong enough to bear it.

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Love cannot be measured. Either there is or there isn't.

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There is no faith without doubt, because faith without doubt is fanaticism.

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As a result of a change of government, existences collapse, someone easily becomes one of the "bad" among the "good", and vice versa. Autobiographies have to be rewritten again and again, the continuity of life falls apart into tendentious episodes, and in the end no one knows who they once were, who they are now and who they will become in the years to come.

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If my mother really loves me, then I am lovable. If my mother deceives me with her kindness, then I am a disgusting creature who can be misled, and by mimicking hysterical fake love, I also deceive those around me. I like it when everyone pretends to love me. And if he doesn't value you that much, then I start with big circuses to force love, which usually leads to hidden and then open hatred.

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Eternal life was not given to us. Instead, we were given the illusion that as long as we live, we will remain the same people we have always been. And we chew ourselves deeply into this lie. That's why we can't age well. Aging for us means that God will plunder us without mercy. But God is hard to be angry with even in our imaginations - he is too powerful for our anger to prevail. So it's easier to deny him. Or replace it with Satan. And it is easiest to make the loved one - woman or man - responsible for the fact that our relationships burn out, go bad, the beloved soul becomes a disappointing curse, becomes an unpleasant witness to the inevitable failures of our departure.

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We will always have ambiguities, misunderstandings, and illusions in relation to another person, where we ourselves are disordered, lie to ourselves, distort reality.

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The objectivity of our insight and judgment depends on whether we deceive ourselves in the area of ​​our own (...) problems, or accept the real situation.

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Total faith is the source of all evil. He who cannot doubt is a bad person.

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Our existence is governed by the great law of paradox, which teaches that the more forcefully circumstances push us down, the more the buoyancy increases and sooner or later prevails. Just like when you push a cork under water.

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We can handle everything until death anyway, it was a shame to scare yourself so much!

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Big money and big power can make character distortions so big that there can even be something impressive about it. True greatness, even in its negative, destructive form, is a rare phenomenon on earth.

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Discipline must come from within...a person needs internal discipline to stay mentally healthy, but if there is no internal discipline, the external is better than nothing. And no matter how paradoxical it sounds, the dictatorship disciplines people because they are afraid, terrified. They learn the discipline of language, the discipline of speech, that they cannot say anything, at any time, in front of anyone, so an internal control of speech develops.

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- Look! The difference between us is the different perception. If two kids laugh out loud in my class, I'm happy that they're having a good time. And they themselves think that they are undisciplined. That's the big difference. - How do I know they're not laughing at me? - Please, paranoia should not be cured at school, but at the psychiatric ward.

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A person - if he feels his responsibility - is free to say a blessing and wish him well. But you shouldn't curse. On the one hand, because he has no right to judge his fellow man's actions, let alone his intentions. He knows almost nothing about the latter. It may be that, from a moral point of view, the intention is more important than the action.

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What is important must be quietly kept awake within us day by day; not let go for a moment. One day it will be a reality.