Quotes by Márai Sándor
All Quotes (1046)
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The angel from heaven, hurry to the frosty, frosty Budapest. To where the bells ring among the Russian tanks. Where Christmas does not sparkle, There are no golden nuts on the trees, There is nothing but frost, shivering, hunger. Tell them in a way they understand. Speak aloud from the night: Angel, bring news of the miracle.
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You know, every person has someone who is their prosecutor, inspector, judge, and at the same time somewhat of an accomplice in the mysterious and terrifying trial that is life. This man is the eyewitness. He is someone who sees and knows you completely. Everything you do is a little prepared for him, when you are successful, you think: "Will he believe it?..." The eyewitness stands in the background, for the rest of our lives. Such an uncomfortable playmate. But you can't get rid of it, maybe you don't even want to.
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Desire speaks to us in a thousand languages. I understand all that. But only free men can throw themselves into these overflowing deep waters... Everything else is vile fraud, worse than conscious cruelty. People who are related to each other cannot live with secrets in their hearts. This is the meaning of cheating.
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How long does it take for a person to learn that all peoples are "special"!
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How pure, how never repeated, what an adventure that cannot be replaced by any other relationship, is the first friendship with a boy! (...) Jealousies, ambitions and interests pervade the affections within the family, the awkward-celebratory, sickly, improbable and feverish state of love does not give that gentle peace, the touching feeling of disinterestedness, benevolence, and lack of intention. idyll, which is the first friendship between two boys.
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Unhappiness is not given for free either. The work of writing - regardless of its quality - requires that the heart, nerves and consciousness be kept at a temperature that is more scorching than the average feeling of life. There is no bargaining, and there is no question of whether it is "worth it" - one cannot bargain with one's obsession, which others may consider a "calling" and label it with attractive symbols; its naked and rough name, I think, is still the obsession... "Happy" people do not create; a happy person is simply happy.
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I want to write the truth here. I accustom myself to the truth like a seriously ill patient to life-threatening, bitter medicine; it might kill me, but it might help; I really have nothing to lose. The truth is that I cannot blame anyone for my mental makeup and the turn of my fate.
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"Big things" don't happen in life. If we later look back and look for the moment when something decisive and irreparable happened to us - the "experience" or "accident" that made up our later life - we usually only find such modest traces, or not even that much. There really is no other "experience" but family; and there is no other "tragedy", only the moment when you have to decide whether you will remain in the family and its wide-ranging versions, in the "class", in the world view, in the race - or on your own path, and you know that now you are alone forever, you are free, but everyone's prey, and only you can help yourself.
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Children's "social" sense is dull and underdeveloped. Every child is ambitious and an undisguised supporter of unlimited private property.
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You have to love someone, and in my uninformed confusion, how could I have known the great secret that loving is not enough? - you have to love humbly if you don't want to suffer too much from your feelings.
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Create and nurture your soul like a garden, take care of the seasons of life, when it is time for weeding, weeding, fertilizing, and the other, when everything blossoms in your soul, and becomes fragrant and lush, and the other again, when everything withers, and this is all right, and again until the next time, when death covers and buries everything with its white shroud. Bloom and perish like the garden: for everything is within you. Know this: you are the garden and the gardener at the same time.
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Hebehurgya's business is to derive the disease of a lifetime from a single injury, as if from some infectious source, and to prove that all evil sprang from it.
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Tell me, because this is a miracle of the world: A poor people's Christmas tree began to burn in the Silent Night - And many are now making the cross. The people of continents are watching, watching, One understands, the other doesn't. They shake their heads, this is a lot, for many. They pray or they are terrified, Because something else hangs on the tree, not candy: People's Christ, Hungary.
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The history of every family tells of such a period of crisis, when nothing tangible "happens", and yet the relationship of family members to each other is fixed at some emotional temperature for decades, sometimes for the duration of life.
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What remains in life as a great gift, from which we collect the reserves of our faith and goodwill, is most often just such an unexpected, insignificant gift.
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What is the material made of that people tear when they "tear"? The words of the Hungarian language are precise and perceptive; it is always worth paying attention to their inner and symbolic meaning; therefore; two people separate from each other, "break up", and in these moments some fine wire, yarn, woven from feeling, affection, stimulus, curiosity, sadness, desire... astral fabric, which has held them together until now, breaks. It was torn apart because they broke up, and now it doesn't hold them anymore... In a way, the Earth was torn away from the Sun, Thought from Feeling, and in the end from Jancsi and Juliska. Now they stare at the sky and think that breaking up is a lonely thing. But at this time, something happens in outer space as well.
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Write down and pronounce every word in such a way that it can withstand the test of worldly reality. Perhaps this is the secret of writing and life. Because the word is useless in the literary volume if it cannot withstand the atmospheric pressure of reality in the worldly volume.
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I may not be a hero, but I'm not a coward because I have the courage to follow my passions.
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One feels alone among people for a long time; one day he arrives in the company of his dead and notices their constant, tactful presence. They don't bother much water.
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For a long time, we think we know the nature of our desires, inclinations, and emotions. In such moments, a deafening explosion warns - because the pianissimo of silence can be as deafening as the fortissimo - that we live in a completely different place than where we want to live, our occupation is also different from what we really mean, we seek the favor of other people or provoke their anger, and we live indifferently and at a deaf distance from those whom we really desire, with whom we have anything to do with all the consequences... He who remains deaf to this warning, lives forever on the sidelines of life.
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Only reason clothed in precise words can guide a person in the darkness of life.
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Don't want to fix for all time with an oath, nails and hammer what night and morning change something, your heart and mind are forever polishing, changing, shaping something, today, tomorrow and forever.
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Nothing is as special as a person's character. When our interest reaches the knowledge of human character while observing the things of the world, we feel at once that this was our real task in life. Everything else we learned only enriched our knowledge. But our soul will only be richer by knowing the characters.
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Don't just complain, but finally believe that everything, everything happens differently. One day life will touch you; in a different way, at a different time, with a different intention than you ever imagined. It will touch you and your ordinary day will be filled with the wonderful.
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The road that leads from the world to ourselves is long and complicated, and full of such embarrassing detours, the meaning and significance of which we only recognize after a long time.
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You can't love on purpose. You can't love convulsively and madly. You say it can only be like this?... Well, that's how I loved it.
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But this feeling, friendship, is much more subtle and complicated than love. It's the strongest human feeling... truly disinterested. Women don't know.
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I sleep badly, I lie in bed with my eyes open for half the night, in the dark, like a beginner practicing dead.
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Only the hero who acts according to his character, even if fate demands otherwise.
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There comes a moment in every real life when a person plunges into a passion as if throwing themselves into Niagara Falls. And of course without a life belt. I don't believe in love that begins as a trip to the majas of life, with backpacks and happy singing in the sunlit forest.
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One day, the soul sets off, and the world only bothers me. Unintentionally, unprepared, involuntarily, we go on expeditions that look like a weekend trip to India.
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Now you can't turn back, you can't leave anything to time or chance, you can't wait for something to happen, and you can't settle for the fact that until something happens, I'll just keep living like this.
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Satisfied reality, no matter how terrible, can never hurt like unsatisfied imagination.
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I learned about love that it has a kind of new nuance for me, something I didn't know until now, which is more interesting than adventure, more exciting than escaping from the seraglio. That something is tenderness.
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The world only forgives for a while those who are humble and humble in heart.
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Music is the biggest fence, the most dangerous seducer. The mind starts narrowing when you hear music. Music is counterintuitive. It doesn't want to understand, like reason, but to spread, to upset, to disarm, to seduce, it touches the secret and the painful in us, it reveals what we have so carefully hidden from ourselves, we have disciplined with all means - it is like spring wild water, it upsets with concern by reason parceled, cultivated and worked, regulated and disciplined areas. Wherever music flows, the laws of reason no longer apply. In the beauty that the music gives, the sick feelings of the lustful destruction of the death wish ripple. The music is an attack.
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For thousands of years, great and small writers have been experimenting with the teaching of love. The result is deplorable. Still, one must not tire of it; people must be taught that everyone is a prophet sometimes, in his private life: a prophet if he honestly recognizes his desires and duties.
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A person lives as long as there is some personal task, something to be done, which no one but him can carry out.
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People only remember things like that later. Decades pass, they pass a dark room in which someone died, and at the same time they hear the roar of the sea and the old words. As if those few words expressed the meaning of life. But later there was always something else to talk about.
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Humanity is used to poverty and cannot do otherwise; powerful individuals then occasionally explain to him the purpose for which he is poor in time, and most of the time he gratefully believes it; but that's all.
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Most people are cowards when it comes to love. He is a coward, in the secret and mean sense of the word: he believes that love is weakness. This is fake love. The real one is different: self-aware, purposeful, active, yes, sometimes frighteningly sober and brave. It is not enough to love: you have to love wisely and soberly.
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Being Hungarian is not a state, being Hungarian is an attitude!
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You are forever moving between cities, goals, ages and changes.
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One must live and write fatally, so calmly, very attentively, paying equal attention to the world and ourselves, our intellect and passions, the intentions of people and our relationships with the universe.
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You live like a man if you live justly. If the intention is at the bottom of all your actions and words: not to harm people.
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Everything is still together: you and me. We ran through many, many people until we became one: you and me, tell me what this secret solution is, we are alone, there has never been another person on earth.
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You don't ask my secret, your two hands are an explanation, you explain existence with your being, you listen and answer at the same time: I love the world in you!
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There is such a gentle summer world, with raspberry syrup, sleeping milk, lemon water. Then there is another kind, with fire, blood, lust murder. I live somewhere between the two worlds, sipping raspberry syrup while waiting for the firefighters or the detectives.
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Dusk casts a shadow over your cool hair, I slowly fold our memories like a shepherd's flock. Thank you for the earth, existence, you, and how I am.
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It is no wonder that Hungary is the way it is; it's a wonder that there is. But let's not feel sorry for ourselves. To this historical destiny that shaped us, we added our own: a snake man can only be made from someone whose bones are soft and flexible enough. Every other bone breaks.
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There is no sadder and more hopeless emotional process than when a friendship between men turns cold. Because there are conditions for everything between a man and a woman, just like a bargain at the fair. But the deeper meaning of friendship between men is precisely altruism, that we do not want sacrifice or tenderness from the other, we do not want anything but to keep the unity of a wordless alliance.
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In the end, at the end of everything, he answers the question that the world so stubbornly asked him with the facts of his life. These questions sound like this: Who are you?… What did you really want?… What did you really know?… What were you loyal and disloyal to?… What or to whom were you brave or cowardly?… These are the questions. And the man answers as he knows how, truthfully or lying; but it is not very important. What is important is that in the end he will answer with his whole life.
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It seems that finding the true meaning of things is more difficult than one imagines. It may also be that things have no real meaning; they just exist, like the count and the lake. God does not explain, but creates.
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He who flees from fear into death is not necessarily a coward. (And if he's a coward too!...) To rest, to relax in the tangle of complicated and hideous misunderstandings: that's what death is.
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For a long time, we believe that Fate comes in like thunder, with Greek fire, divine arrow, horns and oboes. Then one day we meet him and find out that he has much better manners. Lung cancer, misery, humiliation, deadly love appear quite quietly, knocking as if, asking in a low voice: "Are you free?" And then they enter.
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It's a big role, being a citizen. Perhaps no one pays as much for education as the citizen. It's a big role, and like all truly heroic roles, you have to pay full price for it. The courage, the courage to be happy. Education is an experience for the artist. For the citizen, education is the miracle of education.
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The fullness of the human spirit is yours too. Live with it, everyday, as you breathe.
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No one is as cunning and dangerous as the beneficiary of a fallen idea, who no longer protects the Idea, but his naked life and booty.
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Have you suffered most and most cruelly from vanity? Have you always wanted to prove yourself? Your intellect, your spirit or other, more suspicious and ridiculous abilities, your social security, your acting or your skill in knowing human things? You roamed the worldly market, and you were as ridiculous as the clown on the sawdust stage of the circus, when he imitates the dangerous stunts of animal handlers and strength artists. And why didn't you ever think that the approval that you can get in this way is only the occasional approval of a bored crowd with children? (...) A single gesture of humility is a greater feat than any greedy production that people applaud. Think about it before it's too late.
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Man grows old slowly: first of all, his love for life and people grows old, you know, slowly everything becomes so real, you get to know the meaning of everything, everything repeats itself so fearfully and boringly. This is also old age. When you already know that the glass is nothing but a glass.
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You can't just live for reality, what's expedient... life also needs something superfluous, something flashy and shiny, something beautiful, even if it's such a cheap beauty. Most people cannot live without the dazzle of beauty. You need something, if nothing else, an effective postcard that - in red and gold - depicts the sunset or the dawn in the forest. That's how we are.
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You're such a weird card player...someone who plays passions and people instead of cards. I was one of the checkers in the game. Then you got up and walked away... why? Because you're bored. You just left because you were bored.
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Don't think that tenderness and selfishness make you love animals. They are our brothers, and they were made in the same workshop as humans, and they also have meaning, sometimes more complicated and subtle than most people. Let others call your love of animals a weakness, make fun of it - just walk with your dog. You stay in good company; and God knows that.
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Is it possible to imagine that lovers, beyond the point where the desired personal dissolution in lust and union ceases, do not keep some physical secret from each other, in the dark or in the light?
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This is the greatest pain in life, when you love someone and cannot live with them.
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Maybe the moment will come when you can say that you wanted it all. The whole, the real thing, not the substitute, the similar, the incidental: the whole, happiness and the truth, the truth, no matter how fearful and down-to-earth. You didn't want something that resembled life instead of life.
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Don't push away the sadness. He comes unwisely; maybe you grow old in such moments, maybe you understood something, you say goodbye to something in a quarter of an hour of sadness. And yet, sadness makes life beautiful.
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People who don't know death mistake it for dying and therefore fear it; as if someone were to mistake childbirth, which is blood and screams, with life! Death is quite different. It can fill a person like grace, or like mustard gas fills the lungs: every pore is filled with it. Death is complete. There are very few things in human life that are as complete as death.
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Because a child is the greatest miracle, the only meaning of life, but at the same time, let's not deceive ourselves, never and in nothing, and that's why I'll tell you right away, I don't believe that a child can solve what is a latent tension between two people, an unsolvable complication. But it's a shame to talk about it.
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One of the main meanings of the lives of the saints is that one day holiness begins to radiate from their being with unbearable power, and that is why people cook or bake them. This force, which compels the saints to leave their homes and resist the people, is insurmountable. It is very rare that a saint is depicted in an armchair, at the age of ninety, in the age of the patriarchs, with gray hair, sitting meekly among his great-grandchildren and reading a picture newspaper. The saint is always fighting.
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There are two types of laziness: horizontal and vertical. There are people who are lazy only in the big horizons of their lives; in the plans; in that he postpones his determinations and decisions; he lazily builds his life's work, builds everything in time, in the great distance. Then there is the other, vertical laziness, when we remain lazy before the big moment, when we don't think, say or do what could be done at that moment. We don't reach out for something that we can get without much effort, and maybe later we can only get it with great sacrifice, we don't go to the phone, write that letter, or jot down that thought, right then, at that moment . This last kind of laziness is the most dangerous. Life depends on such missed, lazily neglected moments.
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Anger at God (if there is one) because he did not help, and anger at God (if there is none) because he is not there when help is needed. It's anger at people because they didn't help. And for myself, because I couldn't do more. Angry at him because he died.
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Bear with the fact that you are not a person there, just a class stranger! Bear with the fact that you are not a person here, just a number in a formula!
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There is no need to repeat beautiful ideas because they wear out and lose their charm.
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"Masculinity" (...) is not that we are ruined by something we cannot bear - perhaps a bargain, a solution, is more masculine.
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Words cannot deal with the real situations of life, they are compact and hard, like ancient rock groups.
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A kiss is always virtuous; a word that talks about kissing is always shameless.
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Something is in the air; as if the world were sulking. It's enough to say a good word and it will fall on your neck.
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Strangers who no longer have a country really live with the old tension of their lives only in these moments: the moments when they wait for the morning mail. (...) They know that homeland was not just a geographical phenomenon that can be defined on a map, but a circle of experiences, like love. Those who once left this circle of experience return to what or whom they loved in vain: they do not find a country, nor a lover, but a country, or a woman who in the meantime has gained a little weight or married someone else.
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Smart people are never wise, they are too excited for that, they are constantly drunk with their cleverness, as it were; but the wise are always clever, and at the same time they are more than these, because they do not want to prove anything. Avoid the company of smart people, because they excite you and eventually hurt you. Seek the company of the wise. You can talk to the smart ones. You can listen with the wise.
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If you are very punctual and attentive, if you get up on time and go to bed late, if you are around people a lot, if you travel here or there, if you enter certain rooms, you will eventually meet the one who is waiting. Of course, you know that this hope is quite childish. You just trust in the endless possibilities of the world. Where are you looking for? And then, when you find him, what do you say to him?... And yet you wait.
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If you are defending a good cause, what can you be afraid of? What can happen to you? Are they defamed, slandered, robbed, defamed? Are they accusing you, judging you falsely? All this does not change the fact that the cause you defended was good, and therefore what you did was good when you set out to defend the good cause. In such cases, do not care about anyone or anything, only the truth of the case, which you must protect. After all, they are helpless against the truth. They can crush you, but they can't convince you, they can accuse you, but they can't lie to you, they can take your life, but they can't take away your justice. You are not alone in life unless you defend a good cause.
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"Platonic love" is just as foolish and a blatant lie as the fact that there are no vegetarian tigers: love is not meant to be platonic.
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For a long time, women think it's about their bodies. When they start to get old, they scream, call the beautician, then rush to the surgeon and hairdresser, light a candle in the church, travel to Lourdes, have new clothes made, and before going to bed rub their face with greasy ointments for a long time. It takes time before they begin to suspect that it was not about their bodies after all, but about service, which was their role in the world. At such times, they quieten down, look alarmedly into the air, frown less, and don't ask strange men: "Have you read the new Huxley?..." - instead, they listen and organize their accounts. Aging is observed by scientists as a new kind of disease. Many women fall in love with men at this time.
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I sometimes hear the sea in my dreams. At such times, an insurmountable longing seizes me, a homesickness so deep and painful that in my sleep tears flow and run down my face. At these dawns, I wake up with a salty taste on the edge of my mouth, as if - in the strange reality of the dream - I had really dipped my face in the sea.
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It took me some time to learn that poverty is not around me, but within me, and there is no escape from it. It took me some time to learn that the atmosphere of poverty is like the stinking cave of Torda, and the sulfurous air it emits makes the colors of the surrounding flora fade, and the chlorophyll fades from the vegetation when the poor person looks back.
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In general, people know exactly about all the lies in life, they just don't dare to make themselves aware of this feeling in words.
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Life seemed to have thickened, calcified around them, like the tissues of their veins; we shamelessly talk about money and - more shamelessly - about our stomachs, digestion and literature.
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If a friend fails because he is not a true friend, can we blame him, his character, his weakness? What is the value of a friendship where we love virtues, loyalty, and perseverance in the other? What is the value of all kinds of love that want a reward? Is it not our duty to accept the unfaithful friend just as we accept the self-sacrificing and faithful one? Isn't this the true content of all human relationships, this altruism, which wants and expects nothing from the other person? And the more you give, the less you expect in return? And if you give all the trust of a youth, all the sacrifices of a manhood, and finally give the other person the most that a person can give to a person, blind, unconditional, passionate trust, and then you have to see that the other person is unfaithful and mean, you have- e right to be offended, to demand revenge? And if he is offended, if he cries out for revenge, was he a friend, the one who betrayed and abandoned him?
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You can't live without me because you're a man. For I have within me the more secret power, without which you are not a complete man. You can't live without me because I'm a woman. My breath gives wings to your soul, strength to your arms and a smile to the dead stone.
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Man was always alone, only you were loyal, death. (...) You are always behind me. You are loyalty. Good buddy, smart friend. The others all wanted something: the lover, the sweetheart, the boy. They were all selfish in love. Only you are selfless, death. You accompany me through the short path, and one day you put your hand on my shoulder.
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How miserable man is when he fights with God! God just breathed on the material, and the human face began to smile.
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I had to learn that sin is also power and can create and shape, at least as well as virtue.
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God is neither good nor bad. God is not human. Look into your soul and listen.
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Beware, it is not good to look deep into a soul. I attempted it, and became dizzy, like one carelessly leaning over a precipice.
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I asked God, but he did not answer. Maybe the answer was in the question. God is tight-lipped. He can also listen cruelly in difficult hours.
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You can set the world on fire with one torch and one person's temper.
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You are arrogant and show off your good conscience like a rich miser shows off his gold. Know that there is no safety for man on earth. Age, role, experience, all this does not matter much when the temper starts to flare in the hearts.
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Know that everything that is beautiful, humanly useful and smart belongs together. In churches and workshops, the same spirit speaks to God and the world.
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Light and the world are truly known only to those peoples who have been given the sea by fate. The sea is the other home, the infinite.
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I'm human. I can't promise anything that needs to be redeemed on time.
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No one in the world understands our words. We have a secret because there are few of us.
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There is no more grateful audience in the monkey theater than the people at a people's meeting, where it is explained to them why they have been poor until now, and the distant goal is flashed before them, in order to achieve which they will have to eagerly endure new misery and suffering.
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Man slowly understands the world, and then he dies. He understands the symptoms and the cause of human actions. Did you notice the sign language of the unconscious... because people use sign language to communicate their thoughts? It's as if they were talking about important things in a foreign language, Chinese-style, and this language must then be translated into the meaning of reality. They know nothing about themselves. They always talk about their desires and hide themselves in despair and ignorance. Life is almost interesting when you've learned people's lies and you start to enjoy and watch them always say something different than what they think and really want... Yes, one day the truth will come: and that's like old age and death . But then it doesn't hurt either.
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I don't believe that spouses can remain good friends even after divorce.
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To be a child is to know something very important and terrifying about the world directly, without aids.
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Don't be afraid of the world. Only he who once bent over the world knows himself. He saw depth, height and was not dizzy.
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I wanted to live as someone who serves people. But they did not allow me to serve them: they always demanded servitude, which is not the same. I can serve, I cannot be a servant. That's why I got out of their way, I failed.
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What is there between people?... You don't even know how many kinds of relationships there are, people think with four or five concepts, there is friendship, love, sympathy, trust... But there are others that don't have a name. There is also a more secret and incomprehensible relationship, which is neither friendship nor love, and yet it is so hot and alive that it is impossible to avoid it.
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It seems that life, everything that lives, has no other purpose than to remain and be renewed until the end of time.
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Childhood is a distant continent. Those who once left its shores think about it forever, but deep down they don't really want to go back to this wild world. Looking back on my childhood, I can't tell if it was "good" or "bad"? All I know is that I would never, at any cost, be willing to return there.
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Build something with your work every day, every day. Sometimes just improve a detail, sometimes, when you are weak, just organize, put the messy lines and pages in their place. But build it in one move every day.
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You have to know that people are not only bound by words, oaths and promises, not even feelings and sympathies decide the real relationship. There is something else, some harsher and stricter law, which dictates that this or that person has anything to do with another.
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There are three ways of life: Jesus', Faustian's, and Ulysses's. The other taxpayers.
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We don't love someone because of their qualities, not only because they are beautiful, or whatever their characteristics are, not even because they are ugly, hunchbacked or poor: we simply love them because there is an intention in the world, the true content of which we cannot fathom, which it wants to express in an idea-like way itself, so that the world can be renewed in its eternal rotation, and according to incomprehensible aspects, it touches souls and nerves with its terrifying power, makes glands work, and dims radiant brains.
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Women should be admired: if not always the creation and the result, at least the intention with which they create. If an average artist, painter, or writer were to carry out all the intellectual tasks of his life with such care as women put together every day, sometimes several times, from rice powder, hair, nail polish, rags, and jewelry, if every artist were to take care of the nuances , the subtlety of expression, as a store cashier looks after the line of her eyebrows, or the traces of blackheads on the skin of her face, or the delicacy of the skin of her hands: every painter could be a Murillo and every writer a Proust. Women are great artists; unfortunately, their work is perishable.
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A person never talks about what hurts, but tolerates it without saying a word.
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Learn modesty, enjoy beauty, and don't expect anything from it other than what it can give. And look for the warmth of life elsewhere; beauty is a cold flame, you can't get warm next to it.
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Only he has the right to solitude, and only he has the right to withdraw from people who can better serve the people's cause in this way.
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Experience, which teaches us that all exaggeration, lies and impure intentions lead to disappointment, misery, humiliation and illness, does not protect us from being victims of these temptations. Only loyalty to our character can keep us from falling, not our experiences.
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Between people who once loved each other and then left each other, there remains some kind of cruel bond, stronger than any written contract and solemn oath, against which they cannot sin, even if they want to.
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Doubt is worse than sin. You can believe, you can deny someone. But he who doubts... will end up a traitor. There is no forgiveness for betrayal.
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Time burns everything out of us, all lies. What remains is reality.
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We must live with humility, because between waking up and falling asleep, we are guided by a foreign hand, an unknown intention.
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It seems that man can do anything, as long as he has a purpose in life.
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Friendship is the human relationship that is nobler than that between living beings born from a mother.
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The coat of arms of Hungary is held by two floating angels. I only trust these two angels. True, this is no small thing.
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The world has no meaning for you without your country. Don't expect good things from your country, and don't be bitter if you are hurt in the name of your country. All this is uninteresting. Don't expect anything from your country at all. Just give the best in your life.
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And never forget that you were also a son of the world. It is related to Negroes and stars, reptiles and Leonardo da Vinci, the Gulf Stream and Malay women, earthquakes and Lao Tzu. You had something to do with all of this, you are made of the same material, created by the same soul, the same soul welcomes you back.
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We are human, and everything happens to us through our understanding. Our feelings and emotions will be tolerable or intolerable according to our understanding.
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It is not true that fate enters our lives blindly, no. Doom enters through the door that we opened, and we made doom in front of us.
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Intoxication is more of a skill than a consequence... a skill like singing. One day, quite late, one finds out that one has a voice and begins to sing beautifully... One day, one realizes that one has a talent for intoxication.
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He felt that goodness was not some permanent human ability and quality; it's the most a person can do if sometimes, rarely, he doesn't defend himself against his own goodness and ability to do good. Everything else is inhuman, a lie.
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Do you also think that the meaning of life is nothing but passion, which one day permeates our heart, soul and body, and then burns forever, until death? Whatever happens in between? And if we lived this, maybe we didn't live in vain? Is passion so deep, so evil, so great, so inhuman? And maybe it doesn't even refer to a person, just to desire? This is the question. Or does it speak to a person, forever and always only to that one and mysterious person who can be good, can be bad, but whose actions and qualities do not depend on the inner passion that binds him?
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Wine is a man's thing, you have to talk about it quietly. Best with a glass of wine.
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I always have a slight disdain for reality, the primitive reality it is commonly called. Reality is not only what it appears to be: houses and people; reality is also the past, reality is also a refraction of light that is no longer there and yet belongs to the inventory.
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Man lives and knows only so much about God as a distant, very powerful ruler whom he must respect, but he has no personal relationship with. One day you will meet Him. In our civilization, this encounter can sometimes take place on the side of the road, in a coffee house or on the underground railway, because God appears in profane places perhaps more often than in the church.
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It's not worth being with people who, with their guts, still hungrily think about something they are already forced to condemn with their intellect.
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What is it to love someone? For a long time, I think that getting to know... getting to know perfectly, getting to know all the secrets of the other body's reflexes, all the moods of the soul... getting to know is perhaps the same as loving. But that's just a theory. What is getting to know each other? How well can you get to know someone?
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You listen and listen. Know that the little jackal is already alive, which claws at your African grave with ten claws. The wild cactus is already sprouting, which hides your name on the Mexican head tree, so that they don't even look for it.
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When I go out into the world, when I talk to people, I cease to be me and the role begins - only the paint and guest hair are missing. Life will be staged at the same time. Everyone is like that; only the counters deny it, even to themselves, the bad actors. We know a text that we wish to make the world understand, either pleasantly or tragically, but in any case effectively. This role is not us. But sometimes character and costume, individuality and foreign text become blurred.
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You have to learn that what you don't care about will be taken and overtaken, what or who is not so important to you, you will be both important and precious to him, the woman you are cold to will roll her eyes at you, the money you won't stoop to , one day he will come into your life... Yes, life is just like in bad novels. But also somewhat like in good novels. (...) Then you notice that the woman you love whistles at you, even though you charm her with coldness, the money you worked for doesn't come back to you, even at the expense of judges and lawyers, the success you didn't reach for, but you deserve, arrogantly he drives past you with some kind of bag in his lap. That's when you blink, you don't understand. This is difficult.
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You know, man wakes up in the night gasping for air... He reaches out in the dark and looks for a hand. He cannot understand that the other person is no longer there, not around, in the next house or on the street. No matter how he walks down the street, the other person cannot meet him. (...) In this potty, luscious, magical state, in the mental state of the waiting and needy lovers, there is something of the ecstasy of the hypnotized; their look is also like that of patients who wake up from a deep sleep with a dazed look, slowly raising their eyelashes. They see nothing in the world but a face, hear nothing but a name. But one day they wake up. They look around, rubbing their eyes. They no longer only see that face... more precisely, they also see that face, but dimly. It's a strange feeling. What was unbearable yesterday, it hurt and burned, today it doesn't hurt anymore. You are sitting on a bench and you are calm.
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People always tend to think in scribbled symbols when they encounter the phenomena of the world. Man is willing to see his destiny in everything.
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I noticed that I have to find what I need, and for the most part I have to find it myself.
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Love is not an idyll, it is not eye-rolling happiness. Love is a bond for life and death, love is service. To love is to lose everything and gain everything at the same time.
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A man falls in love with a woman twice: first when he meets her, and then twenty-five years later, after the silver wedding. Most of the time, what lies in between is confusion and has no emotional significance.
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They lived together from the first moment, like identical twins in the womb. For this, it was not necessary to "make friends", as young people of the same age used to do, between ridiculous and solemn ceremonies, with an important passion, as desire appears between people, in an unconscious and distorted form, when for the first time they want to take the body and soul of another person from the world, to be his, only his. This is the meaning of love and friendship. Their friendship was as gloomy and wordless as any great feeling that speaks to life. And as with all great feelings, there was shame and guilt in this too. One cannot take one person from others with impunity.
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Your opportunities for good are limited on this earth. Life must be beautified, otherwise it is unbearable.
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Sometimes you have to answer in life's unpredictably occurring and irrevocably fatal moments: you have to answer for everything. Who am I? What I want? Against whom, for whom do I want to live? Why? With what abilities, tools, preparation? What is more important than anything: with what intention?... And to answer the whole thing: where am I? Do I still have a reserve of selflessness and selflessness, or do I just want to protect and save remaining supplies? This is the moment in life when you have to answer. They are waiting for the answer, the silence is big, dramatic. But then you learn and notice that these questions cannot be answered with words, but only with life.
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With its eternal, superhuman and mysterious power, love eliminates loneliness, dispels the distance between two people, and breaks down all kinds of artificial barriers that society, upbringing, wealth, the past, and memories have erected between us. Like someone who is in danger of his life looking around and looking for a hand that, with a secret squeeze, says that there is still compassion, there is compassion, there are still people somewhere.
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When we were children, on the first day of this month, we drew a Christmas tree with blue and green pencils, a Christmas tree with thirty-one branches. Every morning, with beating hearts, we marked, as it were, broke off a branch of this symbolic tree. This is how we approached the holiday. With this method, it was possible to increase the excitement of waiting to an almost unbearable level. Towards the middle of the month, as soon as the holiday was approaching, I was already constantly feverish, I misspoke in the evenings, and told my nanny about my desires with a cold stutter. What did I want? A steam train and a ticket puncher, a real theater, with boxes, actresses, limelight, and probably even critics and those dressmakers who show up at dress rehearsals and say bad things about the play. In addition, I wanted a Polish jacket, as well as India, America, Australia and Mars. All this, of course, in tissue paper, topped with angel hair. In any case, in my childhood I always wanted my universe, the life that was at the same time a bicycle, a trip to the Tatra Mountains, my mother playing the piano in the dark lounge, Wiener schnitzel, apple pie and victory over all my enemies.
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There is something about winter that reminds you of your childhood, more directly and painfully than other seasons. In the blue-gray color of the snow, in the twilight of the rooms, in the raw, nose-squeezing smell of the stoves, there is something confidential and forever lost in all of this. The memory makes me shudder. The memory of childhood in winter is like a bleak, abandoned apartment from which everyone we loved has moved out, like an apartment from which the furniture has been taken away and which can no longer be heated.
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The meaning of an apartment is not the furniture, but the feeling that fills the people there.
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I learned that what appears to be a person, his words, opinions, actions, sympathies and hatreds, is not him at all - most of the time it is just a reflection of something or someone who is irreplaceable; seven veils hide it from the world, and it lives there in every person, deep behind the tangible surfaces.
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Happiness is never an act. A happy man does not act, but is; therefore he is happy.
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Character cannot be replaced. Morality cannot be artificially transferred from one person to another.
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I hate nothing so much as sentimental patriotism, I despise nothing so much as that belching patriotism which appropriates and patents its feelings for an earthly landscape, professed with suspicious loudness; such bondage is shameful, yes, it is the most shameful feeling of all.
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I don't believe in chance encounters. The law of the world is that what is started must be finished. It's not a great joy. Nothing comes in time, life gives nothing when we are ready for it. This mess, this delay hurts for a long time. We think someone is playing us. But one day we notice that there was a wonderful order and system in everything... two people can't meet even a day before, only when they understand for this meeting.
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This is the most important thing in life: to leave behind something that benefits the world and people.
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Because a person - I believe this more and more - is only worth and only human to the extent that he can keep the eternal child in a corner of his soul. I look at final adults who no longer believe in any kind of miracle with suspicion, and this suspicion and aversion grows stronger with experience and years.
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Only conscience can be your judge, executioner or patron, no one else! If you write, you are only accountable to your conscience, to no one else. It doesn't matter what they expect from you, it doesn't matter how they punish you if you don't give them what they expect from you or what they want to hear! Prison and shame, pillory and torture, false accusation and tongue-in-cheek humiliation, poverty and misery, all these do not really affect him. Only your conscience can punish you, only this secret voice can say: "You have sinned." Or, "It's fine." The rest is fog, smoke, nothingness.
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One day I woke up... and I smiled. Nothing hurts anymore. And at the same time I understood that there is no real one. Neither on earth nor in heaven. He's nowhere, that's for sure. There are only people, and every person has a grain of the real thing, and none of them have what we expect and hope for from the other. There is no complete person, and there is no certain, unique, wonderful, blissful and unique person. There are only people, and a person has everything, dross and rays, everything.
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No one can help him. No one can help anyone. I travel between love and death, like in a poem. Maybe only love can help.
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You know, one day I understood that no one can help me. Man longs for love... but no one helps, ever. When a person understands this, he becomes strong and lonely.
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Yesterday you wanted revenge or redemption, you wanted him to call, or to need you, or to be taken to prison and executed. You know, as long as you feel something like that, the other is happy in the distance. Until then, he still has power over you. While you cry out for revenge, the other person rubs his hands, because revenge is also desire, revenge is commitment. But there comes a day when you wake up, rub your eyes, yawn, and suddenly realize that you don't want anything anymore. You don't even mind if you meet him on the street. When he calls, you answer as appropriate. If you want to see him and you have to meet him, please do. And it's all, on the inside, quite relaxed and honest, you know... there's nothing convulsive, nothing painful, nothing extraneous about it. What happened? You do not understand. You don't want revenge anymore, no... and you will find out that this is the real revenge, the only one, the perfect one, that you don't want anything from him anymore, you don't wish him bad or good, he can't cause you pain anymore.
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My house. Two of your vowels are identical to the vowels of death. Because you are a deadly force, my country, a force that will not let you go. You are everything, everything is in you. I surrender.
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What was the meaning of this power? In all human power there is a little subtle and barely perceptible contempt for those over whom we rule. We can only completely rule over human souls if we know, understand and very tactfully despise those who are forced to surrender.
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Behind women, role and world, there was a feeling that was stronger than anything else. Only men know this feeling. It's called friendship.
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Those who get divorced, later, even years later, when all memories are ash and cooled lava, talk about the event a little excitedly. (...) They talk, with suppressed enthusiasm, as if the relationship still lasts without bed and table and cohabitation, as if they still have the right and the means to hold the other accountable for something that they didn't return, that they hid or stole, that wasn't enough gavalér... they still demand something from the other. What do they demand? They don't know exactly, they look away, they grumble. Then they remember: they demand happiness.
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There is also a crowded coffee house as interesting as the Atlantic Ocean or the Sahara or the pine forests of the Carpathians. Yes, a single man, when he shows his being and reveals his secret, is more interesting than Mont Blanc.
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And peoples and orders of all kinds ask why this was necessary. Why wasn't it destroyed as requested? Why didn't you quietly wait for the end? Why did the sky split, Because a people said: "Enough is enough."
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Friendship, gratitude, affection, love, passion, interest, hatred, curiosity, desire for revenge, indolence, the law of difficulty, indifference connect people to people. Or: these are lovers, these are friends, these are bored with each other, these still respect each other. But in addition to these possibilities, there are countless other relationships between men and women that bind them inextricably, and cannot be called by name, there is no reason why they are together, even though, visibly and according to all signs, they would move away from each other, hands and feet, if I could do it. There is also some kind of ultraviolet scale of contact between people, there are human conditions for which the poverty and dullness of language has not yet given a name. The relationship between a man and a woman is usually described as love. But there is more between a man and a woman than love and friendship.
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It probably takes greatness, extraordinary human greatness, to endure the success of a close relative. Most people are incapable of this, and are fools who get angry when they see that the family turns against the successful family member with some subtle alliance made of mockery, anger, and resentment. Because there is always one person in the family who has money or fame or influence, and the rest, the tribe, then hates this one and loots it.
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I know that there is no small and large sea, no small and large distance. There is something infinite and unbound within us.
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I am more intimately interested in a single man than a world city or a world empire; it is true that it is more difficult to discover, walk around and approach a single person.
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You can achieve everything in life, you can overcome everything around you and in the world, life can give you everything, and you can take everything from life: you just cannot change a person's taste, inclination, pace of life, that otherness that completely characterizes a person who is important for you, with whom you are related.
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Now it is very difficult to approach people's conscience precisely because the individual escapes from individual, conscience responsibility behind communal slogans. Today, individuality is enough to participate in something.
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What did the books give? Experience. But no amount of experience helped. Now, in the twilight of the last days of life, he stared almost hostilely at the books, which always answered only the details. No one could answer that.
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A person commits something, even if there is no benefit or pleasure from it. When you look back on life, you realize that you did a lot of things just because you had the means to do them.
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People are comfortable and it will be difficult to explain to them. They have some ready-made concepts, friendship, love, marriage, adventure, affair; and they believe that life can fit in these ready-made concepts. It doesn't fit.
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Death is within us, just as a small child is within its mother's body. It develops just like a fetus. From death, even the strongest men become feminine - the moment they first notice that they have become fertile and have embraced death in their bodies, their facial expression changes especially. Even Mord faces will be soft; like women's faces when they find out they will have a child.
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It is strange, in the Hungarian language these two words rhyme and follow each other: killing and embracing.
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People kill each other with love, as if with some invisible ray. They want more love, all tenderness to be theirs, only theirs. They want the full feeling, they want to suck the life forces from their surroundings, with the thirsty greed of the big plants, which mercilessly suck all the strength, moisture, fragrance, and rays from the bushes and plants of the area. Love is very selfish. I don't know if there are many people alive who can endure the terror of love without being mortally wounded?
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There is some divine substance in man that cannot perish, and there is human substance in him that can suffer horribly.
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All patriotism is suspect. Whoever loves the state loves an interest. He who loves his country loves a fate. Think about that when you're screaming on the podium and beating your chest.
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When you are young, you believe that the world is extremely exotic. He later learns that it is, but in a different way than he imagined; he notices that Baross Street is as exotic as the Red Sea, and the letter carrier as a Negro king.
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The truth is a concentrated poison, the smallest dose of which can be fatal. That is why writers and thinkers - those writers who can think and those thinkers who can write - dispense the truth in a very dilute solution. (...) But just as there is no healing and healing without poisons, so there is no health without justice.
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Just as only people belonging to the same blood group can help each other in moments of danger, when they give their blood to a fellow human being whose blood formula is related, so a soul can only help another soul if it is not "different", if its outlook, reality is more secret than conviction similar.
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For a woman, if she is a real woman, there is only one real home: the territory occupied by the man to whom she belongs in the world. For the man, there is the other home, the big, the eternal, the impersonal, the tragic, with flags and national borders.
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Anyone who acts loudly and a lot is always suspicious of not having real passion in their heart.
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There are women who serve constantly: they serve a man, a family, a monastery, a child. These women are quiet. Everything that is essential in life, that "has to be done by someone", is done by them. Their work is noiseless. They don't form associations: they wash diapers or iron in the drying chamber in hot air, in August, when the skin burns, the fruit dries on the trees, the dogs hide under the bed.
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The saint, unlike the poet, is not born, but becomes. It is rare that someone is born a saint. True saints are conceived in sin, born and live in sin, and will only become saints through great effort.
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They didn't understand what drove them to each other in the confusion of life, and even less understood why they finally had to break up, why they continued to live, lonely, lonely even in the company of new lovers, lonely even in the flow of billions of people and endless time - why they had to to break up?
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If you love someone, your heart always beats later when you hear about him or see him.
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You can't trust anyone. The world is full of unknown, lost paths, if you start down one, you never know where you will end up. The world is a series of surprises, everything is waiting for you, in Africa leopards are lurking behind the bushes, and here the tram can hit you at a bend at any moment. Or a car. Or a person at night if you take yourself home. You have to keep saving yourself. Because they keep attacking. I'm not afraid of life.
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First, once upon a time, I wanted to be happy. Then it's perfect. But the time is not far off when one just wants to be, unhappily and imperfectly, to be, for a little while longer, because the sun is shining or the rain is falling.
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After all, man is only responsible for what he plans, what he wants. Man is only responsible for his intentions... Action, what is it? Always some arbitrary surprise. One stands there and watches him act.
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Is it surprising that meanness springs from a man like poison from a toad? But just think, what kind of man is this? How distorted, how weak, how only hate and envy is his strength? Wipe off the secretions that splashed on your face, don't step on the toad, because you will stain your shoes with blood and pus.
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Love has no degree like tenderness, no temperature like love. Its content cannot be communicated in words; if they say it, it's a lie. You can only live in love, as in light or air. An organic being may not be able to live in any other way than in heat, light, air and love.
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There is something that can hurt, injure and burn in such a way that perhaps even death cannot resolve such torment: when a person or two people injure that deep sense of self in us, without which we can no longer remain human. Vanity, you say. Yes, vanity... and yet the deepest content of human life is this sense of self.
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If someone does not come to the meeting at the agreed time - be it a woman or a man, a friend or a stranger - you can wait fifteen minutes. Then go away. And if you can't save yourself with a legitimate excuse, don't seek the company of such a person anymore. Do not harbor anger or resentment in your heart, because that is unworthy of a person.
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Two billion and a few hundred million people live on earth, so they say. So know: there is a two billion and a few hundred million chance that your words and actions will be misunderstood. As many people live on earth, there are as many chances and opportunities for misunderstanding. (...) Human life is the cycle of an eternal series of endless misunderstandings. The sum of these misunderstandings is the colorful, complicated, terrifying and magnificent miracle whose collective name is man.
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Friendship is not an ideal mood. Friendship is a strict human law. In the old world, this was the strongest law, and the legal systems of great civilizations were built on it. Beyond temper and selfishness, this law lived in human hearts, the law of friendship.
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It is very rare for a person whose words completely cover the reality of life. Perhaps this is the rarest symptom in life.
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Our character, our basic nature, whose faults, selfishness, and greed cannot be changed by experience and insight. We have to accept that our desires do not fully resonate in the world. We have to accept that the ones we love don't love us, or they don't love us the way we hope. Betrayal and infidelity must be endured, and what is the most difficult of all human tasks, one must endure the excellence of another person's character or intellect.
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Walking expresses the most human rhythm of life. Those who walk do not want to get anywhere, because if you set out with a purpose and a destination, you are no longer walking, you are just driving. The walker arrives at the goal of the walk along the way, at every moment, which is never a house or a tree trunk or a beautiful view, but just this airy and direct contact with the world. A person who slowly blends into the landscape, becomes part of a forest or a field, gradually surrenders himself to the eternal reality, the timeless worldly space among the great scenery of nature, feels at every moment that he has returned home while walking. Walking is complete solitude. In a room, there are books and objects around you that warn you about the tasks and duties of your life, work or profession. He who walks is freed from his work, he is alone with the world, he surrenders his soul and body to the ancient elements.
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A first-rate person is one who is punctual without interest. A lazy, lazy, frivolous person is always late. After all, such a person misses the great meeting of life: getting to know oneself.
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Just think, what would a human life and the world be like without the chance of an accident? How self-confident he would be, how shamelessly arrogant and overbearing! No, the possibility of an accident lurks in your every moment, the objects, the situations, the people, the chemicals, the static and physical formulas: all of them are against you. So be careful. Do not watch out anxiously, but in a manner befitting your human rank, seriously and objectively, very attentively. And always know that it was not the wealth of the world that arbitrarily came against you when the accident happened, but that you were weak, lazy and petty. There is no "electrical accident". It's just you and the tram and the world order.
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Know, with all the strength of your heart and consciousness, that you cannot count on anyone in moments of crisis. There is no relative, friend, loved one that you really know; at the big moment, everyone drops the mask, shows their raw selfishness, and you are left alone when you most need someone to stand by you and help you with a kind word and an encouraging look. You don't expect more from anyone; but you don't get that in danger either. Live gently and patiently among people, but do not rely on anyone's help. Raise yourself to be lonely and strong. Know that no one will ever help you. And don't sweat it. You are human, so you cannot expect anything from people; and this is natural.
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Joy, of course, this is not a very accurate word... One day you will be quiet. He no longer longs for joy, but he doesn't feel particularly wasted or cheated either. One day a person clearly sees that he has received everything, punishment and reward, and that he has received as much of everything as he deserves. He didn't get what he was cowardly or just not heroic enough for... That's all. This is not joy, only acceptance, understanding and calmness. This too will come. You just have to pay a lot for it.
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Nothing is as dangerous as unconscious and lying self-pity, the wellspring of all disease and human misery, which is, in any case, clearly related to stupidity, this common well of human wretchedness.
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Life cannot be endured in any other way than with the knowledge that we accept everything that we mean to ourselves and to the world. We must accept that we are like this or that, and know when we accept this that we will not receive praise from life for this wisdom, no order of merit will be placed on our chest, when we know and tolerate that we are vain or selfish, or bald and pot-bellied - no, to know we must not be rewarded or praised for anything.
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When we demand loyalty, do we want the other to be happy? And if one cannot be happy in the delicate slavery of loyalty, do we love the one from whom we demand loyalty? And if we don't love the other by making them happy, do we have the right to demand something, loyalty or sacrifice?
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Our character is the master, our intellect commands; the body is only a servant. (...) He is a servant and quite childlike. The inclinations of our organs are as rudimentary as the demands of a small child. The body wants everything, all pleasure, all kinds of satisfaction, and it wants it all the time. (...) But the character should not tolerate any kind of slave rebellion.
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I desire love only conditionally; if no conditions are attached to it.
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We can wear fake beards and fake clothes for hours and hours in life, but in a moment all the costumes fall off us and the reality is revealed. A movement, a word, an action reveals our true character after all: the masquerade ball can only be occasional. And meeting the true characteristics of a character is the greatest human experience we can have.
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We lived, we didn't live, who really cares?... We will be wise as the wine we drank, and we will talk about the judgment of posterity with a shrug. Because the bottom of all wisdom, which the Hungarian learned from domestic wine and education, is this: you have to love life, and you don't have to care about the judgment of the world. Everything else is vanity.
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Soda is already civilization, it is true, but it took generations and centuries of ingenuity until the Hungarians learned and invented the spritz, which is the secret of a long life.
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Among Hungarian wines, Riesling is like a commonplace in human thinking: it connects the deeper meaning of human things.
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There is no person who is strong and smart enough to avert with word or deed the evil fate that follows from his being and character with an iron law.
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Are you still happy and excited, because for a moment the sun has shone over your life, a warm current runs through your nerves, smiles fly towards you, human words comfort you?... You still don't know that by tomorrow it will all be rubble and laughter, because life is made with precise movements do you take back everything you give, break what you build, trample on what I give you as a gift?
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Life passes in obscurity, unspoken words, movements that we discard in time, silence and fear, that's all life is, the real thing.
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In the eyes of the world, you can fail as many times as you like. We must not be weak in front of ourselves; because this is the real downfall.
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If people don't like the fact that you live this way or that way, differently than they want or imagine, or differently than you once promised them due to some compulsion or misunderstanding: don't worry. You don't live for people.
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Two divine medicines can only help us endure the poison of reality and not die prematurely: reason and indifference.
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In truth, we are the sin, the weakness, what we hide. The virtue that is visible from us is only the surface of the iceberg that we are deep inside.
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I regard myself with suspicion, this strange adversary, whose every secret thought I know, and yet I cannot calculate his steps and actions.
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Love is not freedom, but slavery, just like any other human relationship. (...) A lover is only in love as long as he lives in slavery, in the insane slavery of a spell or spell. The moment he is freed from slavery, he is no longer in love.
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It is clear that one either loves or is loved: this alternating current has been organized by nature with relentless consistency. The most perfect and most fortunate form of harmony is when one tolerates being loved by the other without much rebellion. After all, nature is kind: it is true that it never allows us to be loved by the one we hope for, but it gives us a way to love unlimitedly even the one who does not love us.
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You are the woman! You are not human and not one of us. We invented new words of nickname and adoration for you, new forms of death, and tore the frames of life so that you could live more. We've broken down mountains so you can see further. We invented the telephone so you can call your loved one from your bed. We made a ship so you could stand in the evening wind on the yacht, in purple veils, squinting your eyes a little. We built the Siberian Express, just in case you ever feel like going there. Serious nations have created a legal system for you to trample on. We carved gods and believed that we would deny them for you, and beyond all images of the Deity, beating our breasts, we held our lips to you: You are the Light!
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I don't believe in anesthesia. Neither in cocaine nor in morphine. I don't believe in painless death either. I don't believe in the afterlife either. I don't believe in hell, heaven, or the Holy Trinity. I believe in life.
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Those who resisted knew why they were defending themselves, and those who defended themselves already wanted what they were running away from.
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Man does not sin by what he does, but by the intention with which he commits this or that. It's all about intention.
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A person remembers the beginning more strongly and more precisely when the end is near.
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Never see the duel between man and woman as anything other than a hopeless struggle fueled by the cruelest selfishness and unbridled vanity.
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Desire to be different from who and what we are: no more painful desire can burn in a human heart.
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One day you wake up and rub your eyes: you no longer know why you woke up?
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People always know the truth, the other truth that is obscured by roles, costumes, and life situations.
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One day we have to lose the one we love. If you can't stand this, it's not too bad, because you're not a whole person.
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His photo is on his desk. Who was Ady to him? What was a people? What a thousand years? Poetry and music? Gold's word?... Rippl's color? Bartók's wild spirit? "It can't be that many hearts..." Keep calm. May.
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Now I'm making a point, and like someone who survived a lost battle as a messenger and blew his rhyme: I want to remember and listen.
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But now I'm not afraid anymore... I live in peace. As if I knew the magic word... But the magic word is just that I love someone.
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What do you hope for, poor naked slave, when lust's barbed whip snaps at your back?
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Bodies, once mingled in the solution of passion, are remembered forever.
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Fortune smiles upon you cruelly, and if you tremble and turn away from it, it rushes after you, only to be humiliated and robbed by fate.
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Creation requires something else... some kind of strength or discipline or both, and I think this is what is usually called character, and you lack this ability or quality.
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Loving someone is not enough. You have to be brave to love. One must love in such a way that no thieving intention, no law, divine or worldly law can do anything against this love. We didn't love each other bravely... that was the problem.
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A woman can be thrown away like a matchbox because someone is passionate, because this is his nature, because he cannot commit himself to a woman, or because he is ambitious, because everything and everyone is a tool for him. I can understand... It's vile, but there's something human about it. But throwing someone out of fun is more than mean. There is no excuse for this, because it is inhuman.
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You have to know that people cling to the mediocre, the confusing and the buttery, the illusions and the clean half-knowledge, that is, the uneducated, for a reason. Because education is the discovery and tolerance of truth - the true knowledge of all things. And the truth is always very hard to bear. Education, that is, knowledge of reality and truth, requires extraordinary courage.
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Always evolving and changing, smoothing over and sacrificing something, always giving when you get, always passing on what you've got, one way or another... Just not "living in safety". Always expect storms and fires. And when the storm and the fire come, don't be surprised and don't complain. Feel free to say "it's here". S to vaccinate and defend.
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Always changing the rhythm of life. Consciously and attentively to exchange work, rest, fasting and plenty, sobriety and intoxication, yes, even trouble and joy; to consciously stand up from the table of life, when abundance is at its best, to consciously engage in problems and tasks that have an educational power. Do not trust yourself in any situation.
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Just like the wanderer, who got to know a complicated mountain system during his wanderings, and upon reaching the highest peak, sees the structure of a landscape, reviews the geological regularity of the connected series of mountain peaks, so we also see the system in everything that happens in our lives and in the lives of others with the passing years. This overview, which comes only with the passage of years, is the greatest satisfaction we can get while learning about human and worldly things.
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There are such dizzying moments in life, when a person sees everything more clearly, feels his strength, the possibilities, sees what he was cowardly or weak for until now. These are moments of life changes. Such things as death or conversion come without transition.
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The sympathies that developed between people before my eyes always drowned in the swamp of selfishness and vanity.
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And the lesson of the songs is always that broken hearts can no longer be glued together. That's the lesson in life too. If a person once approached someone with trust and unconditional feelings, and his feelings were hurt, "his heart was broken", he can never again feel true trust and unconditional devotion towards another person. There is no substance on earth more sensitive than the human substance. He is unable to forget an insult to his soul or feelings. And no matter what kind of friendship or love encounter life brings him, he remains suspicious, every relationship becomes a distorted and evil game opportunity for him, he always wants revenge. That's how you are. Be careful when you come face to face with such broken hearts: you cannot reconcile them. And there is no patience, wisdom, generosity, or passion that can soothe such disappointed hearts.
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Now that he had gotten over the first surprise, he was suddenly tired. A person spends a lifetime preparing for something. He is offended at first. Then he wants revenge. Then he waits.
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And because he was everywhere he needed to be, they never saw him. And because he was always cheerful, they never asked how he could be cheerful.
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Important things between people are never handled by words, only by behavior and actions.
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Every human kiss (...) is an answer, in its own twisted and tender way, to a question that cannot be expressed in words.
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In the end, everything will be so simple - everything that was and could have been. Everything that was once a fact will be less than dust and ashes.
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There is too much tension in human hearts, too much anger, too much revenge. Let's look into our hearts and what do we find? Temper, which time only dimmed, but could not extinguish its embers.
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A person is not necessarily the most guilty at the moment he raises his weapon to kill someone. Sin comes first, sin is the intention.
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It was a big stove, a hundred years old, and the heat emanated from it like the goodwill of a pot-bellied, thin man who wants to alleviate his selfishness with some kind and inexpensive good deed.
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The big question is not what tomorrow will bring. The real question is what yesterday will bring.
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A single moment of solitude, of self-knowledge, when you overcame vanity, gave more to you and to the human world than all the stunts with which you displayed yourself in front of the world.
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We can no longer dream of concrete paradises, where a half-stupid, civilized, educated to the level of newspaper literacy, controlled and intimidated by volunteer secret police hidden in families, incapable of real and courageous pleasures, forever hungry for fun, half-educated, tempers with cheap drugs indifferent society.
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Only those who are somehow deaf to the sounds of the world stumble in life.
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People want nothing more than selfless friendship. They desperately want it.
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Human affairs cannot be finished prematurely, but neither can they be left unfinished... there is some order and discipline among people that cannot be escaped. (...) It is much more difficult to escape prematurely from a feeling that we have not dealt with, than from the lead chambers, at night, on a tightrope!
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As long as you believe that somewhere there is a heart beating for you, forgive people. A human heart that feels selflessly towards you is enough to forgive all those whose selfish and selfish hearts you have come to know; it is enough to forgive the totality of people.
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The burning question of all ancient wisdom was: What is in man's power? And they all answered in unison: Only his soul.
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There is another reality - the reflection that the world shows in you when you are an artist. And after a while, when you realize your craft, all you care about is this other reality.
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Certain people, ideas, situations that belong to your life, your character, your worldly and spiritual destiny, are constantly on your way. Books. Men. Women. Friendships. Knowledge, truths. It's all heading towards you, with a slow trickle, and you must meet one day. But don't hurry, don't hurry their way and their approach. If you rush towards them, you can avoid what is important and personally yours. Wait, with great strength, attentively, with your whole destiny and being.
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Everything remains in time, but it will be as colorless as those very old photographs that were still recorded on metal plates. Light and time wash away the sharp and characteristic shades of the features. The image has to be rotated, and a certain refraction of the lighting is necessary in order to recognize on the blind metal plate the person whose facial features were once absorbed by the mirror. This is how all human memories fade over time. But one day light falls from somewhere, and then we see a face again.
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One day I woke up and noticed that she was missing. It's the most miserable feeling. When you miss someone. You look around, you don't understand. You hold out your hand, hesitantly looking for a glass of water, a book. Everything is in place in your life, the objects, the people, the usual schedule, your relationship with the world has not changed. There's just something missing.
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We should not be ashamed of our feelings, even if we waste them on unworthy things.
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And in general, are these so-called big meetings and decisive moments conscious?... Is it that someone enters the room one day and we know: aha, it's him?... The real one... like in the novels? ... I can't answer that question.
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You need the beautiful right away. We're actually getting some sleep. The image is enough for our soul. The body also needs a frame.
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The friendship could not be disappointed, because he did not want anything from the other, the friend could be killed, but the friendship that was forged between two people in childhood, perhaps even death will not kill: its memory lives on in people's consciousness like a silent heroic deed his memory. And indeed, it was an act of heroism, in the fatal and silent sense of the word, that is, without the clanking of sabers and daggers, an act of heroism, like all human behavior that is selfless.
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Life's greatest secret and gift is when two "one-of-a-kind" people meet.
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The world is like a still life: small and crowded with all its details.
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If you are hit by a big blow or mental pain, first of all, think that this is natural, because you are human. What did you imagine? You are human, so your loved ones die, your friends leave you, and everything you collected and loved flies away like dust in a windstorm. This is not miraculous, but according to the order of nature, this is simple and natural. What is more admirable is that great calamities do not befall you every day. You are human, so you must suffer; and your suffering will not last forever, because you are human.
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Many people don't understand this, What flooded here like the sea? Why are world orders shaking? A people shouted. Then there was silence. But now many people are asking: what happened? Who made the law here out of flesh and blood? And they ask, more and more people ask, Hesitating, because they do not understand at all - Those who inherited it -: Is Freedom such a big thing?
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The meaning of your journey is not the destination, but the wandering.
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Never be afraid to say what you know with all your heart to be true.
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Every sage whose thoughts I have managed to get to know has taught me that we should live and write as if our every action were the last in life, as if death would put an end to every written sentence.
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I could never imagine God, probably because he is not human and earthly, but divine.
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Is there still friendship in the world? Young people think there is; but then they find out that what they thought was friendship was just camaraderie. Friendship is a much more complicated, painful and violent relationship than love. Love wants to give and receive. A friend can only give. Friendship, narrowly speaking, in the sense that two people, without handshakes or promises, vouch for each other for life.
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I don't believe in tears. The pain is effortless and speechless.
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Learning about the world is interesting, useful, delightful, frightening or instructive; getting to know ourselves is the greatest journey, the most terrifying discovery, the most instructive encounter.
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It takes a lot of courage for a person to allow themselves to be loved without reservation. Courage, almost heroism. Most people cannot give and receive love because they are cowards and vain, afraid of failure. He is ashamed to give it away, and even more ashamed to reveal himself to the other, to reveal his secret. The sad, human secret that he needs tenderness, he cannot live without it.
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You can't talk to God from five to six in the afternoon if you've been living like a pig night and day.
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There is no human relationship that is more moving and deeper than friendship. Lovers, yes, even in the relationship between parents and children, there is so much selfishness and vanity! Only the friend is not selfish; otherwise not a friend. There is no more secret and noble gift in life than narrow-minded, understanding, patient and self-sacrificing friendship. And there is nothing rarer... Friendship is a service, a strong and serious service, the greatest human test and role.
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Love can be given and received. There's only one thing you can't do: blackmail love.
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The temporary rebellion of our senses must be endured as one of life's great trials.
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There are two ways to defend yourself against the body: with debauchery, or with cowardly, vain and insulted asceticism. He can't stand either, defiantly and fatally responds to both insults. The body can only handle honesty.
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Life decides, surprisingly and beautifully... and then everything is so simple and natural.
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Old, autumnal and greyhound thin, Still, it's good, it's good, it's good that it's summer.
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According to Valéry, Leonardo da Vinci was a man who "thought of a bridge when he saw a chasm" - but I lived in an age when the genius immediately began to wonder about the realization of the chasm at the sight of a bridge.
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A man, poor man, nothing but man and mortal, whatever he does... then your body grows old; not at the same time, no, first your eyes age, or your legs, or your stomach, your heart. This is how you grow old, in detail. Then all at once your soul begins to grow old: because the body is fallible and perishable in vain, the soul still longs and remembers, seeks and rejoices, yearns for joy. And when this desire for joy passes, nothing remains but memories or vanity; and that's when you get really, fatally and permanently old. One day you wake up and rub your eyes: you no longer know why you woke up? You know exactly what the sun shows: spring or winter, life's scenes, the weather, life's agenda. Nothing surprising can happen anymore: not even the unexpected, the unusual, the horrible surprises you, because you know every chance, you expected everything, you don't expect anything anymore, neither bad nor good... and this is old age.
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Embrace this wild bonfire, the world, There is infinity when there is a moment.
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War is the greatest misfortune not only because it destroys millions of human lives - an epidemic, a change in the weather also sweeps away hundreds of thousands of human lives - but much more because of the terrible destruction it causes in the field of the human soul and education.
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The "revelation", the eternal, inevitable revelation between two people, this dramatic climax of life, when the role falls from the other and you finally find out who he is - and then whether you accept it or not, the consequences are private matters! - it finally happened between us.
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This was the moment when it "began", when my life separated from everything that was its condition and meaning, when something in me died at the same time, and I myself was reborn, as it were, I died to life and was born to death.
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Thanks to the women. Thanks to you who gave birth. And to you who were my wife. And to you, the third, tenth, thousandth, who gave me a smile, tenderness, a warm look, on the street, when I was leaving, you comforted me when I was lonely, you rocked me when I was afraid of death. Thanks to you for being blonde. And you because you were white. And to you, because your hands were beautiful. And you, because you were stupid and good. And you, because you were smart and cheerful. (...) Thanks to the women, thanks.
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The truth must always be written. But can the writer always write the truth? After all, "spending" is his profession, he invents stories, embellishes details, adds, adds, perfects. You cannot write the registry truth: this is not literature, only repetition and boredom. But he always writes the truth if he stays true to his vision. To his vision, which radiates from the poet's tale. This is the writer's truth: loyalty to the vision. Everything else can only be news and reports.
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An autobiography is only valid if the writer feels that personal existence is an integral complementary microcosm of universal existence. So, he does not report on what happened to him and around him, but records how the world happened inside him.
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The noblest qualities of Hungarians live in Somló wine: Eastern wisdom, Western education. It has something of the tranquility of Asia and the curiosity of Europe. This is the most fortunate mixture in wine and people.
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There is no more beautiful death than under a walnut tree, in front of the wine cellar, in the fall, right after the harvest, when the new wine is dormant and fermenting in the barrels, the nuts have been plucked from the tree, and the sun still has a gentle power, like the love of the old man.
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This was the moment when the night separates from the day, the underworld from the upper world. And maybe others also split in such moments. This is the last second, when worldly and human depth and height, brightness and darkness are still in contact, when the sleepers wake up from their heavy and tormenting dreams, the sick groan, because they feel that the hell of the night is over, and more transparent suffering follows; the system and lighting of the day reveals and dismantles everything that in the dark confusion of the night was a convulsive desire, a secret desire, a squeamish temper.
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Very fine, deadly stabs don't hurt right away; just as we do not feel the pain caused by very rough, life-threatening blows at the moment of the blow. A person gets hit and goes home, only to notice a blue spot on his chest or a swollen knee only the next morning.
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The only meaning of mass scenes is Flesh, which devours itself.
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God does not tell man what to do, because this is man's destiny: he has free will. But the forbidding voice is always heard by those who are not yet completely deaf.
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This is the most important thing, it is above all else: loyalty to ourselves. Tragically, most people don't know themselves, so they have nothing to be loyal to.
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Only the departure is certain, the hour and the minute when you get on the train... this is still the most important thing in travel. What a broken thing to arrive somewhere - what an uncomfortable, dirty and boring moment! But to leave...
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Asceticism, under certain conditions, definitely gives something that makes a person stronger.
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Maybe if I look into your face at that moment, I will know everything. But I didn't dare to look you in the face. There is a kind of shame that is more embarrassing than anything that a person can experience in life, the shame that the victim feels when he is forced to look into the face of his killer.
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Man cannot live without the Creator. But in Creation there is not only earth and sea and moon and stars. It has ugliness, torture, blood, gore and silliness.
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You have to live closer to yourself. Seeing everything that is happening to me and around me now as the last reflexes of an exploding education.
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A person lives next to a person and does not know anything about him for a long time. One day he senses that he no longer has anything to do with her.
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People age differently after ninety than after fifty or sixty. They grow old without resentment.
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The world also happens inside me, not only in space and time. I'm a volume too.
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Man copies and repeats his sins, mistakes, misdeeds and reckonings over time with manic consistency. History has no imagination.
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The artist does not depict reality, but the vision created by the experience of reality in the human soul. This excess is art.
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When I entrust my fate to God, I feel that God does not give me an absolute right to do so. I have to believe that "a bird's feather does not fall out" without His will, but I have no right to put everything in His hands with blind trust; God entrusted it to me to do and adjust my destiny. And it only helps if I take on this task.
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Man is stronger than fate, and everything can be endured if we have a good conscience.
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Beyond the wonder of nature, there is something extra. Man added something more to nature; only he, man, topped the Creation with works, the collective name of which is art. The sea, the valley, the forest, the river, the plain, everything is unconditional. But a fugue by Bach, a poem by Rilke, a picture by Cranach or Goya, a building by Palladio, a thought by Goethe, a statue by Phidias or Rodin are the gifts that man, alone among all living beings, has added to the world of his own free will. for his wonderful work. And that's all that matters to people: art. Everything else is just a rhythmic compound of the interaction of existence, matter and force.
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In the old days - in the days of youth and manhood - the exciting moment of the journey was the arrival: getting closer to the unknown, the surprising, the adventure, the version. In old age, the big moment of the trip is the take off, the departure: leaving the routine of old age with a single movement, this is the "experience". The arrival is indifferent, since the same is waiting everywhere.
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In old age, everything, including travel, is a necessity. A person does not travel towards something, but walks in place, and thinks he is getting there, away from something he does not like.
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Literature anticipates the tempers and changes brewing in human nature.
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The barometer cannot do anything about the storm, which it predicts hours in advance.
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If one conception is prevented, it might be one less genius. The counterargument could be this: it is still better to have one less genius than to have seventy million more people every year, among whom geniuses are rare, but there are many idiots.
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The perverse threat of Christian teaching is "eternal life". It can be terrible.
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Right", "Left" is only where there is "Middle". There is no right and left in the Universe, because there is no middle: every point is both a center and a peripheral unit that merges into infinity.
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Mankind went to the moon, split the atom, extended human life by decades, wrote symphonies, masterpiece books, created pictures and sculptures, and in the process remained the same stupid child that fits the dedo as it was five or ten million years ago.
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The patriots brag, sing, recite, and swear. But there is only one kind of true patriotism: if someone, where he is, does his job with complete loyalty and unconditional effort. This has a retroactive effect on the country. Everything else is just show-off and plate-making.
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"Writing" is very rarely anything other than vain self-showing, offering self-fulfillment. Sometimes more and different, but this happens very rarely.
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Categories of emigration: those who emigrate from their home country to a foreign country. Those who stay in their home country and emigrate there hide in inner nervousness. Those who emigrate in emigration emigrate from emigration, into solitude.
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A man, if he wants, can really endure more than the body, if the will is not fueled.
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What else do people expect from religion? They already feel that the cosmos has become permanent. A timeless plot. We come from the unknown nothing, accidentally, we disappear into the unknown nothing, accidentally. As for "time" between the moment of existence and non-existence, it is only conscious to the extent that we assume a Cosmos, which is not only a blind and deaf act, but also a conscious process, and our consciousness is part of this consciousness. But that's just hope. It is not certain that the Universe has "consciousness".
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Not death. It is always suffering that has no answer. Stupid and unnecessary.
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Death - like the universe - cannot be approached with reason. Does not make sense. "It just is", like absolute facts, without meaning.
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It is not true that one "knows more" in old age. He just remembers differently.
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Death is an absolute certainty. Until then, life is a scary bumpy road. And sometimes the reassurance that everything is in order.
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The "beliefs" into which the human race fled during evolution, the magical, grotesquely distorted experiments, then the dogmatic tenets of religions, the anthropomorphic conceptions of God, were all more make believe than faith. Man can only be satisfied with sense, he can only be stunned by illusions.
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The emigrant, like the astronaut, learns that there is no fixed point to cling to. He is equally at home in homelessness and homelessness.
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Evolution. Where, when, and what was the threshold moment when a living being passed from the animal form to the human form? No answer.
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There are smart people who are untalented. And there are talented people who are not smart. And then there are an infinite number of people who are neither smart nor talented. They always win in the end.
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The human species, for as long as its lifespan known as history can be known to some extent, has always been bestial and vile in all religious and secular civilizations. But thanks to modern means of communication, the media, we now know about this vileness and bestiality, which happens every moment somewhere in the world.
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Punctuality is not only the courtesy of kings, but the duty of every responsible person who knows his rank.
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You can't take a trip into life every now and then - everything and everyone asks for a whole person, life and work too.
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Horthy, by all accounts, was a completely uneducated man, - he had what they call a sliff, but nothing else. He was surrounded by murderers and adventurers (Héjjas, Gömbös), he himself was a career-hungry, adventurous gentry.
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Is there any feeling that makes the human heart beat hotter and more suspiciously than the excitement of celebration and anticipation?
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how are you living What are you doing? What's your name? Why did you come to earth? Do you think that's the only way to walk through and review a life? I weigh you and find you easy. You weren't good enough. It came back raggedly and painfully: no - you - were - good enough. You were vain and cowardly in goodness. Yes, you have to make a program out of it, out of goodness, if you are already vain and cowardly about it, and if there is no other way. It's not that nothing is left behind, it's that it's bad. You will be neither good manure nor tiresome. The celebration could end at any minute. Now, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow. Start again, differently. Now, immediately, every minute is precious. Even if you're fifty years old, every minute is precious. What are you doing here? A world is buzzing around you, and your heart is empty.
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Life requires not only virtue (...) and cleverness, but also patience and pious intention (...), a kind of smiling and admiring resignation, without which there is no harmony in the hearts.
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The writer's job is not to take care of his lungs and heart, the writer's job is to take care of his soul and spirit, and the coffee house is that special, not at all healthy in the medical and gym teacher sense of the word, but only useful in the literary sense of the word an atmosphere where writers are somewhat sheltered from the temptations of the world, the trappings of office, and the harshness of money; their lungs and hearts wear out from nicotine and black, but their spirit blossoms, and that's what's more important. (...) There is no literature without a coffee house. Mr. Petőfi did not go skiing, but to "Pilvax", and Mr. Vörösmarty did not go to the beach, but to "Arany Ökör". Those are huge differences, please. (...) Literature should be faithful to itself, its laws, its atmosphere, its food, drinks, lifestyle, and everything that goes with it, so that people sometimes think of something that no one else has yet thought of, and then come out in perfect artistic form can finish it.
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People complained about politics, the tax press, their old wives' complaints, or they explained their unhappiness with the stiff arbitrariness of the head of office. But in reality, the real cause of most human accidents was that they were cowards of their feelings and overestimated them.
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Waiting and hoping lurked at the bottom of human hearts, like a cougar escaping from a menagerie in a grove in the Gödöllő forest, and no matter how gentle and disciplined the human exterior was, one could never know what kind of expectation was hidden in its depths.
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Goodness, something like a big mineral water, is good against everything. The audience has already heard about it. There are world articles that are sometimes forgotten. This is when advertising comes in, which stirs the audience's interest. "Do you sleep badly? Are you tormented by troubles? Are you pale, do you eat disorderedly, are you consuming your life force? An excuse is close to you: take Goodness, the excellent life elixir recognized worldwide, proven and successfully taken by millions. Available in original packaging at all major denominations and in better bookstores and at the source."
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It was impossible to regret anything that a person did on the inspiration of his heart and inclinations in his incomprehensibly short life.
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Pleasure hurts Sorrow is lustful With a strong current It flows forever If it carries you far It will return once Its deep river body will not let you go anyway.
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The moon stopped in the sky then, that was all: My head slowly bent over your head.
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How hard it is to be separated from people! We think we are free, and when we want to be free, we find out that we can't even move. Someone smiles irresponsibly once and immediately falls into a person's friendship. He doesn't know what friendship is. Imagine friends differently; he understood friendship as an easy and cheerful walk, an irresponsible sympathy that does not oblige you to do anything. People walk together, exchange thoughts... And for the first time, he thought that there can be a strong and unbreakable bond between people, which can only be broken at the cost of injuries.
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There's no help for men, don't you understand? We are men, we have to live alone, we have to pay for everything exactly and fairly, we have to be silent, we have to endure loneliness, our character, the male law of life.
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The hometown (...) is not a church tower or a square with a fountain, but a flourishing trade and industry; the hometown is a gateway where you thought about something for the first time, a bench on which you sat and did not understand something, a moment under the river water when you fainted back into the memory of some old existence; smooth sanded pebbles that you find in the old desk drawer and you no longer know what you wanted with it; the religion teacher's hat with a brown stain on it, anxiety before a history lesson, strange games that no one understands and you dream about the consequences for the rest of your life, an object in a person's hand, a voice you hear at night through an open window and you can't forget it.
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You have to know all the details, because we can't know which is important, when a word shines behind things.
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I don't defend myself, because I want the truth, and whoever is looking for the truth can only start the search by himself.
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In the end, the world doesn't matter. Only what remains in our hearts matters.
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Man does not know everything with words, but he knows everything with his heart.
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A great poet cannot be wrong. He listens to his instincts and writes, lives and dies as he sees fit.
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We were friends, so we weren't buddies, we weren't comatose jerks, we weren't comrades. We were friends, and there is nothing in life that can compensate for a friendship.
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They were taught that there is a weapon against every danger. And the most powerful are law and conscience.
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But what is the word? Sometimes it lives longer in time than stone.
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I don't like to talk about feelings. I have experienced that what a person says changes a little right away.
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Perhaps, without noticing, a person spends the divine treasure that his destiny once entrusted to him.
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If a person realizes a dream, it is obvious that it will soon become junk.
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I never loved this person, but now I realized with fright that I am no longer really angry with him, from the heart, as it is appropriate to be angry with an enemy... It hit me in the heart, as if I had lost something precious... You know, there is a moment, two between people, when it is no longer worth getting angry. This is a great sadness.
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Did I love you? I do not know. Do you love your feet, your thoughts? It's just that nothing makes sense without legs or thoughts. Without him, nothing makes complete sense. I don't know if I "loved it". That was different. I don't "love" my kidneys or my pancreas either. I am just as he was me.
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The key to a successful relationship is that one tolerates the other loving you more.
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You don't have to say I love you, you don't have to lie in bed to have a relationship with someone, you don't have to be young, and it's okay if the person is old... Many kinds of compliments are possible between people, many kinds of relationships.
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Things finally started speaking to me on this day, something happened, life spoke. And in this case, you have to pay close attention, I think. Because life's strange sign language speaks to us with everything on such days, everything warns, every sign and image, you just have to understand it. Things will one day mature and answer.
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There are many kinds of power among people, and people kill each other in many ways. It's not enough to love, my soul. Love can also be very selfish. You have to love humbly, with faith. All of life has meaning only if there is true faith in it. God gave people love to endure each other and the world.
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There are moments in life when we understand that the impossible, the impossible, the incomprehensible is actually the most ordinary and the simplest. At the same time, we see the structure of life: figures disappear in the sinkhole, whom we thought were important, figures appear from the background, about whom we knew nothing for sure, and we see at the same time that we were waiting for them and they were waiting, with their whole fate, at the moment of their appearance.
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Love is like electricity: it only appears under certain atmospheric conditions.
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By the age of fifty, a person is finished with his work, or with his life.
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The world of the masses is only greedy, but not demanding. You remain moderate and demanding. The world is becoming more and more like a kind of Woolworths store, where you can get everything for a sixpence, in shoddy design, which can satisfy the daily desires of the pleasure-minded masses quickly, cheaply and with excellent quality. The dangers of this mass gratification are already showing themselves, in all areas of life and spirit. A culture is destroyed not only when barbarians appear with hatchets in the fine squares of Athens and Rome, but also when these same barbarians appear in the public squares of a culture and carry out a large demand, supply and exchange of goods without need. You choose. Don't pick and choose with squeamishness and snot, but strictly and ruthlessly. You cannot be demanding enough in moral and spiritual matters. You cannot say consistently enough: this is noble, this is tinsel, this is value, this is crap. This is your job if you are human and want to maintain this rank.
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To read with reverence, passion, attention and relentlessness. The writer may babble; but you read narrowly. Listening to each word, one after the other, forwards and backwards in the book, seeing the clues that lead into the thicket, listening to the secret signals that the author of the book may have failed to notice when he progressed through the vastness of his work.
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You cannot "conquer" the world. There is no such thing. But you can bear it. And that's almost a win.
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Even their intellect cannot guide what their hearts cannot agree on.
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Books, like people, only give you their secrets and trust if you surrender yourself to them. I don't like to read books other than those that I own. It is not enough to possess the thought and knowledge contained in the book, the book, the earthly dust pod of the thought, must be mine - just as they want a lover.
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It is not enough to read according to catalog, fashion or tradition. You have to instinctively find the book that can tell us something personally. It should be read regularly, as one sleeps, eats, loves and breathes.
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Reading is not enough. Rereading - according to all the consultants - is more important. And it is not just the book that needs to be reread, the memory of which is fading, or which we did not understand perfectly on the first reading: the sentence must also be reread, the noun, verb and adjective, which fatally determine something in the book. What does a book want? To understand yourself. But this sort of thing is slow, almost as slow and complicated as life itself.
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Artists deserve respect. They are God's children who have chosen the hardest part.
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He knew this, even without words, and secretly, from the inside, I also knew it, without words, because at that time I didn't have words for the symptoms of life. The real words come later, but you have to pay terribly for them.
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You're such a jerk. About private matters, real ones, he is willing to believe that they are world events.
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What people prepare for a long time, with great will, perseverance, foresight and prudence, finally happens.
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In every real man, there is some sort of restraint, as if he shuts off an area of his being, of his soul, from the woman he loves and says: so far, dear, and no more. I want to be alone here in the seventh room.
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And what is the content of our power, the power of women? You say love. Well, maybe it's love. I sometimes doubt this word. I don't deny love, no way. This is the greatest force on earth. And yet sometimes I feel that when men love us, because they can't help it, they look down on it a little.
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I never loved him. There was a time when I was in love with him... but I was only in love because I hadn't lived with him yet. The two don't go together, you know?
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Somehow nothing can really be said in words, nothing that is very important in life... You know, what is as important as birth or death. You can't even say that with those certain words. Maybe the music will tell, I don't know... Or if this person is lustful and touches someone like this... Don't move. This other friend of mine hid the dictionaries towards the end for a reason. He searched for a word. But he didn't find it.
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I imagine that every person has some internal limit, within which there is a measure of good and bad. Absolutely, to everything that is possible between people. But you have no limits.
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Sometimes the one who stays at home will be more homeless than the other who goes out into the world.
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A person who, in the middle of the last century, was able to assert his individuality in society with perfect development, today truly asserts himself when he can cripple and hide everything that is inherently individual in him more and more perfectly.
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We are cowards to our desires. (...) The world's table is set; the stock did not run out, only our desires dwindled. What a person longs for very much and with ordinary strength, he already has a little.
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Everyone is waiting for their fate to turn for the better: but believing is not so easy. (...) In the past, people believed with a light heart, in a demanding, cheerful manner. The problem is that we are already quite smart, learned, careful and initiated and we don't dare to wish. These improbably educational years taught me to be careful in our desires, as if we rationalized our dreams.
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One afternoon, in autumn, my father died. He died with strength, dignity and example. It was as if he had shown me how to die. - He died in my hands, and from that moment my fear of death changed; I'm not afraid like that anymore, and I'm not afraid of death, not of that unknown, horrible thing; rather, I only regret leaving life here, I demand the taste and smell of life on death; but the moment my father closed his eyes, I understood that death is neither bad nor good, it has no character.
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A strange sense of security pervades his entire being, as if everything is finally free and permissible for him: no need to be polite, no need to follow rules and forms, no need to rush, compliment, play the civilized gentleman. This is one of those moments when life throws up agreements, when the rules of the game don't apply.
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The citizen of Nárs believes that art is cultural material. A more or less normal person knows that it is an experience that takes away the joy of life.
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If you were to ask a few thousand people now, how do they imagine the solution, the solution to their lives and the lives of the countries, what would the crowd answer? He would probably listen, cautiously, with a hundred thousand years of practice. People, deep down, do not want "big solutions". People want bread, and I believe more and more that they want something beyond bread, the condition of which is material well-being, but without which material sustenance in itself is insufficient: people want decency and respect.
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After all, the experts got the world where it really was. What would happen if the private person finally spoke up and intervened on the whole line? He would speak up and say, "Please, it's about me, too." (...) What if private individuals Péter and János finally intervened? The specialist replies: "It would be a huge problem." But this is not at all certain. Because the current picture of the situation in Europe proves once again that a huge confusion has arisen worldwide even without the intervention of private individuals.
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There is no other weapon against the world but humility; not the flattering and breast-beating humility, but the other, which calmly and without movement looks wolf-eyed at the world.
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What hurts the most in life is not what is bad and painful, but what is good and what is not.
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Life requires patience. But a miracle takes courage. The simple, silent miracle is when someone is brave enough to be patient in life. But it is very difficult.
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Love does not need ideal figures. Love is like... but no, there is nothing like love. No reason, no explanation. Love, it seems, is for its own sake. Sometimes it builds up in a person and spills out.
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I don't regret anything that happened, and I only feel "guilty" about what I missed.
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Anyone who starts to squirm during a fight loses the battle. If someone is emotional and reflects on the past during the fight: time will kill him with a single hook.
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I walked happily in the fog and thought: finally! Finally, for once it is possible to take a few steps without a goal or direction in this civilized life, which is otherwise worryingly goal-oriented. Finally, a few minutes in the life of a big city, when an unknown force dissolves everything that is material, and the city surrenders to this strange game, which is a little scary and dangerous. We live too regularly. People must be taught to dare to love and take on danger and the extraordinary. A few dangerous steps in the fog give a different feeling of life than a thousand and a thousand sure, purposeful steps in the daylight. In moments like these, when you can't meet anyone on the street because people have lost their personality traits under the fog cap, we finally meet ourselves.
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Home is destiny, not a trick and stunt. And patriotism is the most disgraceful behavior, a kind of binding and command, the display of which should not garner applause. But how many people and under the pretext of what impossible occasions live from this gimmicky, extravagant patriotism - they live and have lived, because it is the surest stunt number on all kinds of podiums.
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Tell me, why don't they teach the relationship between men and women in schools? I'm asking this seriously, I'm not kidding. After all, this is at least as important as our country's landscape of mountains and water, or the basic rules of correct conversation. People's peace of mind depends on it at least as much as on honor or spelling. I'm not thinking about any frivolous subject... I'm thinking that sensible people, poets, doctors, should talk to people about joy, about the human possibilities of men and women living together... So not about "sex life", but about joy, about patience, modesty, satisfaction...
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Between two people, a man and a woman, in the end, the "why" and the "how" are always so pitifully the same... This is a despicably simple formula. Always because it could and happened, that's the truth. It's not worth digging into the details at the end.
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Dreams don't mean much. They have no formative power, no reflection on life... at least it rarely happens that they are exposed to the light of day. There are examples in science, art and literature.
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A dream is rarely the cause of something; then always just a consequence.
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We fear everything about the one we love, because in the final sense we are perhaps jealous of death.
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Somewhere far, far before the visible events, the war begins; of course, it starts in people's souls, and by the time it becomes a battlefield, with dead people and cannons and smoking ruins, people have already calmed down in spirit.
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War begins when people, all over the world, sit in rooms, talk about their daily worries and ambitions, and then suddenly someone utters the word: "war" - and then they don't shut up, they don't stare in speechless horror, but everything in a tone of voice, with natural emphasis, they answer: "war" - and they talk about whether it is possible, when, and to what extent? This is how it starts.
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The body is a coward, it flattens itself like a rebellious beast when it is shown a whip. The soul is everything.
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Life really happens to a person (...) until he is forty or fifty-five years old. Then you already know something tangible, real; this knowledge is not wise, nor "deep", it does not satisfy; but by then one has seen the dead and the living, life repeats itself wonderfully, nothing happens as we expect, nothing is so surprising.
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Despite all caution, tact, and emotions breaking through the forms of coexistence, one day the flock splits into black and white sheep, and the shepherd feels helplessly that the white ones are closer to his heart.
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Life is a duty that must be fulfilled; of course, it is a burdensome and complicated duty, which sometimes has to be endured with self-sacrifice.
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Do you think you've built a house and can look out on the world from the proud perch of your career? Don't you know that you will remain a wanderer forever, and that everything you do is the movement of a wanderer on the road? (...) If you rest, you rest no more securely or permanently than the wanderer who rests in the shade of the roadside apple tree for half an hour on the way. Know this when you draw up plans.
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And if you are left alone with the pain, say this: "Here, pain. But no matter how you hurt, I know it's okay because I'm human."
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The great, truly fatal dramas of life begin so quietly that we are already up to our necks in the dramatic situation and still do not understand. Cancer, shame, failure, great disappointment don't start like in literature: one day we notice a pimple, or someone calls and speaks so peculiarly into the phone, we don't even really understand what they're saying, or the woman we love , turns his head once, amused. This is how it starts. No. This has already happened. Doom is silent. Only the accident roars, screeches and jingles.
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You have to look in the mirror for a long time, many times and for a long time, until you finally get to know a person's true face. The mirror is not only a smooth sheet of silver, no, the mirror is also deep, like the eyes of the sea in the mountains, and whoever leans very attentively (...) over its surface, sees at the same time into the depths, and always sees new and new depths, and always looms further away a face that bends over the mirror, and every day a mask falls from the face.
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Goodness and experience, practice and pity are the only tools with which we can discipline our hearts from time to time; but at the bottom of the intention, which directs our steps, there is also a more powerful command, the spell power of which cannot be provoked with impunity.
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There is a kind of fire and passion, which is not fueled by the charm of the moment, not by the senses and curiosity, not by selfishness and ambition, no, there is a kind of fatal smoldering in human life, which is not extinguished by habit and boredom, not extinguished by fulfillment, nor flirtatious curiosity, the world cannot quench it, yes, we ourselves cannot quench it either.
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Life, my dear, is wholeness. Life is that a man and a woman meet because they fit together, because they are related to each other like rain to the sea, one always falls back into the other, they form each other, one condition for the other. Out of this wholeness comes something that is in harmony, and this is life.
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Franciska, love has touched us. This is a great gift and a great sadness. It's a great gift, because I really love you in my own way... within the possibilities of adventure, and great sadness, because this love will never be cheerful and easy, it won't have wings like a dove... it's a different kind of love, ours .
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You know that there is no "everything and nothing" in reality, there is always only the mediocre, between "everything" and "nothing" is "something", which can sometimes be a lot.
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To command is... to be responsible, and only those who are relentlessly consistent, but at the same time tactful and polite, really maintain discipline.
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The flame and embers that the divine fate kindled and kindled in the human heart cannot be extinguished by human hands and skill.
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Words have a magical power, they can illuminate the past and the future at the same time.
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I understood your being, I know your life and destiny, I think I know who you are, as far as a stranger can descend into the depths of another's soul.
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The love text is a bit like the sacred writing on the walls of pagan tombs - it directly represents Eternity.
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Knowledge and desire begin with sight, man begins with sight, (...) the world begins with sight, and of course also love. It's a magical word, it contains everything, longing, the hot secret, the hidden meaning of life, because the world is only as far as we see it.
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We all become wise, in the unexpected and true moments of life, when we recognize the surprise and change in life.
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There is nothing worse than expressing yourself in an unmistakable way, especially when the speaker knows that his words are final.
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I can't shake my head and marvel at the blind faith of lovers who believe that this mindless feeling destroys mountains, stops time and the like. Every lover is a little Joshua, who stops the sun in its course above the collision of life, intervenes in the world order, and thus awaits victory, which is always defeat.
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The reason we humans are great even in our misery is that we can understand the secret power, even if we can't decipher its intentions.
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A special element, the meaning of life, time, which cannot be measured by its own measure.
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Words (...) must be used accurately in life if we want them to have any value.
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There is a phase in life, and I, by the wise decree of fate and time, am now living the days and years of this phase, when everything falls away from us, vanity, selfishness, false ambition and false fear, and we no longer want anything but reality, at any cost let's get it.
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There is a kind of sadness that cannot be comforted, as if someone has missed a divine moment forever and then no longer really cares about anything.
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Because of this, life is shorter, the more time we can devote to memory and theory.
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I have little faith in human oaths and vows: human words fly more easily than ox saliva in autumn.
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The great duel of life, even in moments of crisis, must be fought only with the weapons of politeness.
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There is a kind of virtue which is nothing but unconditional loyalty to our being, destiny and inclinations.
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Behind the written law there is another, unwritten law, and it must also be served justice.
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Everyone lives alone, makes mistakes and dies alone: advice and wisdom that we don't get ourselves (...) doesn't help much.
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Is there a type of man who cannot be given happiness? (...) Is there a type of man whose all his virtues, charms, and charms are such that he lacks the sense of happiness, is completely deaf to happiness, and just as the deaf do not hear sweet music, so does he not know about the sweetness of happiness?
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Human emotions are nourished by the same deep water, regardless of whether the surface expresses itself with angry waves or gentle ripples.
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It is in the nature of the adventure that it ends in a short time: such is the genre, such is its proportion and its rules.
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Words, no matter how accurate, only name and reveal a person's mystery, but do not solve it.
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Revenge never sleeps in my heart. Revenge must be nurtured like a captive lion, it must be fed bloody meat every day, the bloody cafatas of memories, so that it does not lose its bloodthirsty tendencies.
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Selfishness... wanted everything, and thought it was giving everything, when it wastes time and money, passion and tenderness on the woman or man it loves, it just doesn't make that ultimate sacrifice, it can't provide that simple and secondary skill, that he renounces everything and gives his soul and life to the other and expects nothing in return.
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There are many ways to write. Some people sit in a room and write, doing nothing else. These are happy. (...) Then there are those who wield the pen like a dagger and a sword, writing with blood. (...) These writers, for whom writing is only a tool because they want to change the world, are these unhappy writers who are powerful because they have spirit and strength, but they lack silence and reverence, and therefore they are unhappy. These are the ones who can knock down a king or the world order with one word, but cannot express what is the more secret meaning of life, the rapture that we live here on earth, the happiness that we are not alone.
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When a person is in trouble, he even clings to the rope of the gallows.
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The (...) strange rocking carried them slowly in the element of the kiss, just like the sea, whose rocking is both lullaby and danger, fate and adventure at the same time. And like someone who has drifted off the shores of reality and realizes with amazement that he can live and move in the new element, the unknown element of destiny, and perhaps it is not so bad to move away from the shore with such a slow swing, to lose all contact with reality and to move slowly, without will or intention towards annihilation.
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Everything is equally important, because everything becomes important only from the feeling with which we look at the world.
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At night, while I was sleeping, something happened: summer is over. I wake up, listen to the wind, look at the dark brown foliage in front of the window, and I don't feel any autumn sadness. I'm glad summer is over. I'm glad you didn't bring anything. I'm glad I didn't waver in my belief in unhappiness. I am glad that I no longer have any illusions about the solution. There you go, autumn, on! - I think. Lay out your props, lower your rotten stage walls from your rotten rope ceiling, fall leaves, moan your winds, curse and bury! Welcome, harbinger of winter and doom. I'm not defending myself. I agree. I'm waiting for you.
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A person can commit infidelity, meanness, yes, even the worst, murder, and remain pure on the inside. The act is not the truth. It's always just a consequence.
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Isn't loyalty, selfishness and vanity some kind of terrible selfishness, like most human things and needs in life?
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There was a grain of truth in every book, and every memory answered that one is useless in getting to know the true nature of human relationships, one will not become wiser from any kind of knowledge. And therefore we have no right to demand unconditional truth and loyalty from someone we once accepted as our friend, even if events have shown that this friend was unfaithful.
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I have sometimes thought that perhaps friendship is a bond similar to the fateful bond between twins. A special identity of inclination, sympathy, taste, education, and temperament binds two people to the same fate. And it is useless for one to do anything against the other, yet they share a common fate. And even though one is running away from the other, they still know everything important about each other. And even if he chooses a new friend or lover, he cannot escape this community without the other's secret, unwritten permission.
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There is a kind of sacrifice and service in love that is more and more real than confession and robbery, more than "Only-You-and-forever" - (...), there is a kind of love that does not want to take away, but to protect , he doesn't want to hurt, but to save, and perhaps this is the only real and honest one.
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I am beginning to suspect that there is no coincidence in everything that is important and unchangeable. (...) There are moments when life plays with us and slightly changes everything that we thought was final.
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It is not possible to accept life's gifts humbly enough, patiently enough, but it is also not possible to be careful enough not to give our hearts completely and unconditionally to the living. Those who unconditionally attach their feelings to the living will suffer and perish. I don't preach indifference, or Pökhendi superiority, or callousness. Just this: love, but in your own way. Do not believe those who demand flame, annihilation, total devotion. These are usurers, if you fall into their clutches, they will drain your blood and feelings, and then you will perish. Enjoy the light, love it, you can be grateful, but keep something for yourself. Not much needs to be said about it. You have to smile, enjoy life, and give exactly as much as you get.
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You see, this is how old age will come, politely. (...) Old age is not a drama, don't be afraid. One day you get news, that's all. You look up from work and life, amused, and then willingly say: "Yes, yes. You have to grow old. Just a moment, I wanted something... What? Yes, to live. I know, it's too late now. We can go."
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It's high time you lived useless. You've just lived a useful life long enough. Just remember: you got up early, and with an anemic head from lack of sleep, rubbing your temples and eyelids, you hurried to the workbench to do some work in the morning hours, a task that people rated as useful; but neither they nor you got any real pleasure from this work. (...) You have always lived as if you were waiting for the order that calls you to perform even more useful tasks. You knew you had only one task, life. What have you been doing with your time, unhappy? Live useless at last, against their law, according to your own law. Then maybe, in the end, you will use something.
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We should live like in the Stone Age: without a calendar, between life and death, only in time.
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What was it about this woman that was so amusingly, so bribingly and disarmingly insignificant that you immediately had to pay attention, among all the interesting, beautiful, loud and flamboyant women? There was something about him, something wordless and radiant. The man looked at her and suddenly understood that he had been shivering until now, but now it is enough to sit next to this woman, and then he won't be cold anymore. It's true, it won't be particularly hot around you; this woman is not on fire. But it warms, like an old tile stove, which was once warmed by the flame of fragrant logs at the beginning of winter, and then smolders quietly until spring. So I sat beside him, without any particular hopes or demands; and I warmed up.
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Twenty year reunion. They know exactly everything about me, but during dinner they act like they haven't heard from me in twenty years. (...) There is some sort of mysterious ranking that is formed in childhood, and it cannot be jumped over later. The world is much easier to convince than a classmate who knows something about you. What? (...) He doesn't know exactly. He just looks at you suspiciously, blinking and with eternal - perhaps justified - doubt.
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Don't want to be a hero. Remain unbiased and considerate. That's enough.
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Where did the dream of my days go? (...) That other dream, the living room, which accompanied me through the street and salon, workshop and crowd, is the real one, that dawning and conscious dream, on the bus, while changing tickets or under the trees, on a garden path, that dizziness , when I went from one room to another, the realization without purpose, object or image that I live, between two nothings, this stubborn dream about life: where did it go?
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One day I found myself sitting across from my lawyer in a room arguing about tax matters. Then I kept quiet, looked around and felt terribly ashamed. At that moment, I understood that everything that was before was just a dream and a transition. At that moment I understood that I had grown up shamefully, irredeemably and hopelessly.
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There is a kind of humility, which is also a weapon, there is a kind of bowing, which can only be answered by bowing. I'm not telling you to drop the sword. But don't mess with it. (...) Do you want to be strong? Stay calm, considerate and humble.
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One day you will have to know that everything you planned and wanted was unnecessary and incidental, and what you were running away from has caught up with you and is forcing you to take a stand. The world won't let you go, don't be afraid. Get some rest. Breathe. It is not enough to remember. Learn to forget at last.
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Don't stay loyal to the subject; rather and more relentlessly to yourself.
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It's enough if you resist. The world is what it is; but don't add your blessing. This resistance can be fruitful and noble. In any case, it is necessary to leave your mark on the world.
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How differently, how much more warmly and intimately we are identified with our sins and disabilities than with our virtues and abilities! How much more characteristic of me is what is weak in me, what I desire and know is harmful to me, what I want, and for which I am not strong, wise and disciplined enough, than the fact that sometimes and still I pull myself together, I do something for my health, incidentally I fulfill my duties.
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One should never go back to someone from whom one has once permanently left. This is a rule of life. There are very few rules of life. This is one of them.
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Only man can help another man. Only one person can give strength to another when they are in trouble.
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Life is poison if we don't believe in it. Life is poison when it is only a tool for vanity, ambition, and envy to explode with it.
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Don't be afraid to be happy. (...) Perhaps this is the great affliction of humanity: it is not pain, but fear that prevents you from being happy.
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Action overcomes the dullness lurking at the bottom of life and everything.
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Man always suffers (...) when he wants to save someone and knows he is powerless.
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Almost everything will be a cliché, which you have to know with the strength of your heart and then say it with words.
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If the state of grateful and humble knowledge of (...) reality does not resemble happiness, then I would not even want to know this state of mind.
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No excruciating pain. He can be horrible, but never unbearable. When it really is, we no longer feel.
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There is order and order to everything. By the time a person sinks into a situation, a lot of time passes and we get used to the change.
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There is no road more hopeless than that which leads to perfection; every step opens up to new, unfathomable distances: and one is horrified at the sight of these horizons and knows that one must not back down, nor rest, because one will fall.
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What can a person do when his life is split in two, as if the earth were to open in the middle of a landslide and tear a peaceful family home in two? (...) You can't do anything.
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I have never, on any human encounter, felt such a special closeness as this evening, at this moment - I cannot tell you the name of this feeling, I only remember that I was overcome by some extraordinary excitement of anticipation. It was one of those rare moments in life when one person, through the power of passion, obsession, or faith, reveals something of the hidden meaning of the world to another person.
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What do you know about life? Nothing real. We live among idealized, postcard-like images.
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Death does not come with a deep sigh and death. Death is some kind of serial symptom... first one reflex is missing, then the other.
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In moments of crisis, people understand the essentials without words or with very few words.
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I know for sure that life still has something in store for me, which will be medicine and sweetness, intoxication and grape sugar at the same time. I stop, look around, wait.
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You like it, I surrender. But I warn you that this attraction, this love, will last exactly twenty-four hours. The awakening following the first dream banishes your face from my memories like the sunlight the morning fog. Sweet face, you are made of mist. While I'm talking about you, I see you more dimly. When I put a period at the end of this sentence, I sadly (...) notice that I don't even see you anymore.
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A great talent - kind of "real" -, harmonic. There are always, in every age, indifferent masses, presumptuous connoisseurs, puffed-up critics, untalented partners, counter rivals. Real talent solves all this by itself.
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The day dawns in the life of every person and every nation, when it is necessary to understand that we can count on nothing and no one in this world: we are alone. (...) This is the moment when every person - sometimes gritting his teeth, against his will - becomes a hero.
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What do we humans mean to each other? Nothing. We don't even understand ourselves. Everything is different than we think, everything is different.
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You have to express things in some form, this is very important. I definitely feel that if I could talk about it, a lot of things would be alleviated.
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Sometimes, for moments, I feel as if everything that happened and didn't happen to me in my life, everything that I wanted, that I was cowardly or comfortable or weak for, is now under the roof. In such moments, I see myself and the flow of my life as a big system. (...) I feel like someone who wakes up from a deep, sick dream and wakes up and sees that he was beaten on the head long ago and robbed and was lying unconscious; and the robbers run far away with the treasure.
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I need that feeling of being home alone. That no one is watching. No one checks my habits. No one is staring. One needs complete solitude sometimes.
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In love, you can behave "naturally" just as little as in art. Feeling and desire are only expressed in a certain language of form. There are smiles, glances, half-words, politeness. There is no other way.
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When I got sick, he sent me an unknown organ. Lilac and rose. The flowers were brought in the evening, without a name or address. I still don't know who sent it. These were wonderful organs. (...) And it was as if they had said something, not much, just one word.
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To record the moment when beauty, this fragile and enamel-like phenomenon burnt out of matter and soul, breaks into pieces in a woman's face, because the spiritual and character composition of which external beauty was only a consequence has broken down. "It's strange, it's ugly!" people say and shrug. Yes, he got ugly because he was rotten from the inside. To be beautiful is to be innocent, in the heroic sense of the word. Everything else is just cosmetic.
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There are those who live with a stopwatch in hand, always running towards goals and counting the seconds. Others live like a tree, very slowly and tenaciously, and they know that they still have many, many years, decades.
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Love me casually and mildly, even a little absentmindedly, just the way you breathe, or the way you live on a Tuesday when "nothing happens". I don't like it anymore when they love me like in the second act of an opera performance, when all the horns are blaring, the spotlights are playing in all the colors of the rainbow. (...) Love like a not very important private matter, without attention. Then, maybe, I'll pay attention.
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Why is it that in a foreign country, every time I hear a child speak Hungarian, I feel insurmountable sadness, and I have to hurry away, to some abandoned side road, to wipe away and hide my tears from the strangers?
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The shell is opened, the snail is wounded, a grain is placed in its slimy substance, and it is thrown back into the sea. The injured animal begins to create in its agony: it creates pearls. This is the Japanese pearl. Most artists are such aggrieved animals. Foreign material falls into his soul, and he begins to create for artificial excitement. What he creates in this way is exactly like the real thing in terms of material and structure. Only the origin is different. Only an exceptional and chosen specimen can extract a genuine pearl from itself, without artificial intervention. This is the rarest, most valuable phenomenon. But only the specialist can perceive the difference.
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Time passes, and life is filled with intense content these weeks. The way people look is different. They are carrying something, looking at the sky with shining eyes, then at the ground with a downcast look. (...) What is this feeling, this concentrated, this dense, this painful and fearful search and wonder? What's in the air, in people's eyes, in women's smiles? The farewell.
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We are wanderers and adventurers, we travel the world even without a passport, we wander on footpaths, in a life whose true boundaries we do not know exactly.
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I spent a long time choosing in the flower shop, and in the end I bought a bunch of roses, because they are the most elegant and the cheapest. While the plant was being packed, I said: - You live on love and death, like novelists. Tell me which is the better deal? (...) - Nowadays, death. Your lordship also brings a rose to the living. If the lady had died, he would send her at least ten dahlias.
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Remembrance also has a climate, flora and fauna. This climate is not temperate at all. It is saturated with extremes. The real autumn is never the one we are currently experiencing, but the other, golden, ripe for death and wonderful, which we remember in a spring.
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The joy came differently than I expected, it had a different taste, a different meaning than I imagined.
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How terrifying everything turns out after the first time together! There is just as little deception in the fatal matters of the body and passion as in the fatal matters of the soul.
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Youth begins by wanting someone to protect them. Then comes pre-manhood, when we start to attack. But a man only becomes a real man later, much later: when he no longer wants to be protected, he no longer wants to attack, and all his ambition is to be able to protect someone or something without being noticed.
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Do not expect humility from me; I'm not a humble person. I am unlimited and attentive, unfaithful and curious, sensitive and cruel.
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The young woman walked past me in the snow and smiled at me. I accepted the smile with thanks, took it with me, and took care of it for a while so that it wouldn't melt. It was a snowy smile and it slowly melted. In the end, only a little moisture was left of it in the soul; a tiny puddle, no bigger than a teardrop.
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Oh, the fools who do not believe in fate! They do not know that in spite of all ambition, intention and skill, the sunny landscape of life is filled with shadows at dusk; what yesterday came together in a regular form under your hands, today falls apart. (...) To know about fate as a counterweight to the pace of life! That terrifying and dizzying moment when the balance of life is upset, without "cause" or "fault", and there is nothing left around you, only a pile of smoking ruins.
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How certain the poor are! Only the rich jump. At every moment, they fear something, want something, want something different. The rich live under the forced law of change. But the law of the poor is simpler and more certain.
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The meaning of life is the truth. Behind the wondering and the doubt, the research and the satisfaction, the errors and the delusions, the phenomena and the multitude, there is some common sense that radiates and penetrates everything.
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Sometimes I stop on the street, reach into my pocket, I feel like I've lost something. At home, I open drawers, read letters, search the pockets of old clothes. (...) I lost something. I wake up around three in the morning and suddenly understand: I lost the dream! Not the dream of the night, the by-product of sleep, that messy, sweet unbakedness, (...) but the dream-like feeling that there is a meaning behind reality that cannot be expressed in words. What was this dream? Why does it hurt like it's not there anymore? Why are you looking for it? Was it the youth? I do not know. All I know is that I was robbed.
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I have noticed that a hasty conclusion drives a person into a certain state of mind, which may not have started out so decisive. A person says: "I'm waiting for something", and from that moment on, he really expects something.
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The love that a man can feel for a woman entails complications. I think you can't just love a woman. It takes more.
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If they ask, "How are you?" - I can't answer: "I'm sad". This is not an answer. But this is the truth. (...) When I think of Timár, this sadness eases. As if this terrible emptiness in me and in my life would be filled with something. There isn't much to fill it with: the memory of one person. I never knew what a big deal it was.
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I have to think that... the greatest, the rarest thing that can happen to a person: to feel trust in someone like this, without any reason. People live, one person next to another. Like the blind. One day, through a thin slit, I begin to see. It's not much that I see, and yet the impact is huge. This emptiness inside me seems to pass away.
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All life explodes at some point. All life. You have to love someone, otherwise everything is in vain. (...) What should I do? I tried to love people. All, all of them. But it's hard, very hard. People waste time somehow.
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In truth, a person is not only a personality, body and soul, but also a type of mental illness, which has taken on a form that can be qualified histologically.
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It is certain that the meaning of every true journey is to return home, and one begins to return home the moment one sets off.
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You shouldn't be indifferent and quiet: sometimes you have to bend down and pick up the "lots of things" lying on the road.
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Day by day, step by step, I will continue on this strange path... does this step lead up or down? I do not know this. But I won't stop.
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In life, there are indeed some grim surprises, just like in a dream.
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Reason can be used to rule over the rebellion of emotions and instincts - up to a certain limit. And this limit is not as low as is generally believed.
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Anyone who is offended will rightfully fail. No offense. There is only result.
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A person not only acts, talks and listens throughout life, but also dreams throughout it. At the bottom of everything lies the dream. And this is life just like the reality of the doer, the speaker, the listener.
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Man, in his immeasurable pride and vanity, is willing to believe that he can live against the laws of the world, violate them and rebel against them with impunity. It is as if the drop of water is saying, "I am different from the sea." Or the spark: "The fire won't catch on me." But man is nothing more than a simple part of the world. (...) Stone and metal also live longer than humans. Therefore, everything that we represent in the world through our body is insignificant. Only our soul is stronger and more permanent than stone and metal - therefore we should never see ourselves in any other way than in the volumes of our soul. The power that expresses itself in the perishable bodily tissue is not only a component, but also the meaning of the world. This force is the human soul. Everything else we mean and show in the world is ridiculous and pathetic.
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Something like... nervousness like thirst. Or, as if one is cold and cannot find warmth anywhere. Or like insomnia. Or like hunger. I do not know. Sometimes I don't feel anything for days, as if I'm lying somewhere. Then, unexpectedly, it erupts.
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I didn't cry, but tears flowed from my eyes. Of course, whoever saw me could easily have thought that I was crying. What I did was strikingly similar to crying: tears flowed from my eyes. (...) One does not cry without a reason. Even if he has a reason, he still takes power.
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To put it that way, nothing happened in my life. I must have been the cause of this and not "fate". I don't believe in fates. Man makes his own life. If I could do it over again, maybe I would do it differently. I would definitely do it differently. I was cowardly and comfortable. That way you won't get anywhere.
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To be stronger than the situation created by external forces around us until the last moment. Not to give up anything in spirit, not to let go; this is the secret.
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Fates are always interesting. A person gets used to his fate, within it he finds the attitude to everyday life and the possibilities... and this ability is almost limitless.
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Human destiny is also made in the world, world forces also do it - and sometimes these give a signal. You just have to pay close attention.
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Somehow, the writer is not really a writer with his virtues, but rather with what is flawed, scrappy, imperfect in him - this flaw is really him.
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The world is a great gift. It must be accepted as it gives itself: in its entirety.
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Over time, people's shrewd meanness and engineered dishonesty no longer angers them, but amuses them, sometimes amazes them. Apparently, this is the real human genre, this is where man is truly great and human: in meanness and dishonesty.
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Little and big complications multiply in our lives; nothing takes shape, there is resistance in everything, strange, regular obstacles obstruct everything, everything... These seven tests, which in reality are seven times seven, must be endured; and not to believe that "it will be better later"; maybe nothing will get better. But change is certain, this is the law.
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I never "courted" anyone. I don't even know how to do it - either a meeting speaks for itself, at the very first moment, or all talk is in vain.
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Nothing good happened. It's true, nothing bad happened... and that's already a big gift. Maybe nothing is the best thing in life. And that inner light that sometimes breaks through situations, people, and life.
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Just as personality is deeply hidden behind an individual's appearance, manners, (...) self-awareness, so the people also live in their secrets.
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I play chess with Semmi, he is my partner, Semmi leans over the pieces on the other side of the board. I don't know if a person can be a stronger, more cunning, more learned opponent than Nothing?
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Tenacity is perhaps a kind of talent. Not to compromise, even in the midst of danger, misery, illness, failure; to start all over again every day, with the stubborn violence of a bulldog, purposefully, with implacable consistency.
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You can't talk to the world in the same way and in the same voice as you do to home.
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It is not enough to see clearly, you also have to act. And action is sometimes not what is useful or expedient, but what is a task.
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The series is a series of (...) fate: human and natural law. You should not snort if one of the blows hurts more than the previous ones.
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There is something mad, insanely heightened in life, something that Reason cannot approach.
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Only intoxication is infinite, when lust (...) dissolves the obsession of individuality and personality in the soul. Everything else is finite.
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People are not only evil and cruel, but also messy, careless, indifferent. And this is almost the cause of more trouble than evil and cruelty.
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You can't "help" people. But they can be tolerated. This requires a lot of experience. And superhuman patience. And humor.
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Everything that reaches me from the home radio, letters, newspapers (...) starts a feeling process in me that is very difficult to define. This is not anger, nor is it resentment; more and more. My conscience responds to these news with some kind of frightened introspection - the deaf and cold emptiness of helplessness.
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There is something unchangeable in man, which (...) neither milieu nor time can transform. The idea is what lives in him, what makes him a person and a personality, which does not change.
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It doesn't hurt to remove from our soul the waste accumulated during the year, superstitions, compulsive neurotic fear fixations, sweep out the year's junk... Fear remains at the bottom of the soul - but life without the accumulated spiritual garbage is more human and simpler.
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Man is a stubborn creature; he loves his fate, even if that fate is lava.
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You have to spend the day on your mind, minute by minute, hour by hour, otherwise aimless time will tire you and make you nervous.
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According to the French, only those who can see reality have a real imagination. This ability is rare. People think that fantasy is clear by dreaming up some phenomenon that never existed. But phenomena that never existed have neither hands nor feet, they are like griffins, and what has no relation to reality is boring and childish. Real imagination builds the new, the wonderful, the surprising from reality.
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The homeland is not only land and mountains, dead heroes, mother tongue, bones of our ancestors in cemeteries, bread and landscape, no. Home is you, skin and hair, in your physical and mental qualities; he gives birth, he buries you, you live and express him, in all the miserable, great, blazing and boring moments that make up your life. And your life is also a moment of the life of the homeland.
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And yet, today, still, forever, how much life gives! He quietly gives, with both hands, the morning and the afternoon, the dusk and the stars, the sultry smell of the trees, the green wave of the river, the reflection of a pair of human eyes, the solitude and the noise! (...) This is a gift, a wonderful gift.
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All secret human relationships - friendship, love and those strange ties when adversaries meet and cross paths, for life and death! - it begins with this magical touch; with the dream-like perception, which really is as if a person perceives reality in a dream: in a crowd, among strangers, a pair of eyes, a voice touch you at the same time, and it is as if you are dizzy, as if you have already experienced the present once, as if you know in advance everything that will happen, words and movements too; and all this is the most serious, fatal reality; and at the same time dreamy.
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I think of Timár, I think of him with love. Something with warm friendship and a good feeling. He was the first person I trusted. One day he saw me, rudely addressed me, and it was as if something had happened to me. I have to think that this is the greatest, the rarest thing that can happen to a person: to feel trust in someone like this, without any reason. People live, one person next to another. Like the blind.
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You have to love someone - maybe that's too strong. (...) It is enough to find someone who is sympathetic, and at the same time the days feel more meaningful.
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It often happens that a relationship forged by love transforms into friendship, less often that a spark of love flashes from a long friendship.
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He took my hand and sat by my bed without saying a word. The touch of a human hand felt good. The pain subsided, and in the buzzing peace that greeted me, I calmly felt this human hand, which in the foreign world, in the misery that unexpectedly fell upon me, warned me without sentimentality that human compassion and help work even in the midst of all horrors. (...) That sad smile appeared on his face that I can't forget: as if he was smiling so sadly in his helplessness, as if he was admitting... that this is about the limit of his knowledge and willingness to help, this is all that a person can do for another person in the last need .
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The peculiarity of slander is that it can turn into reality by itself, even if it has no basis in reality.
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"Gyönyörde", the row of trees under whose leaves the heroes of Vörösmarty's story, the "Füred heart fishermen" walked after their chosen lady, the ruins of the Kisfaludy Theater, the footprints of Jókai and Blaháné in the forest: this is the purest Hungarian Biedermeier. But the landscape is also gentle, as if the patients who seek healing for their sick hearts under these trees, at this source, under this light blue sky, have tamed nature. The landscape has softened to the patients; he was a little pale and nobly limp, like all who have known death's first light, polite touch. Gentle landscape, inviting. This is what he says: take your time. Rest. Can you hear the rustling of the trees? They are saying something. One stops, listens to the noise, and at the same time understands that it was a shame to hurry.
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Is it possible to annihilate emotions with the help of reason?... To this, I answer unequivocally that no. But I can take solace in the fact that sometimes, in lucky cases, feelings can be tamed and can be atrophied.
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Emotions do not take place in the soul. They have a different career. But they also pass through the soul, like a flood in a flood plain.
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It is much more difficult to preserve something than to acquire or destroy it.
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I went to church and prayed. God help! - I said. But God knows that only we can help ourselves.
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It is very difficult for a person to rest in hopelessness, in the fact that he is alone, deathly and hopelessly alone. Very few people can bear the knowledge that there is no solution to the loneliness of their lives. They hope, they hurry, they run away into human relationships, and they don't bring any real passion or devotion to these escape attempts, they run away into preoccupations, artificial tasks, they work a lot or travel according to plan, or they buy a big house, or they buy women with whom they have nothing to do, or they start collecting fans, precious stones, or rare insects... But all this does not help. (...) Therefore, above all, in their pain and confusion, they keep order. They put life in order around them in their every waking moment. They are constantly "arranging" something, a case file or a social gathering, or a shepherd's hour... Just not to be alone with yourself for a single moment! Don't see this loneliness for a single moment!
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A person stays silent for a lifetime about what was most important. Sometimes he dies listening to this. But sometimes there's a way to tell... and in that case you can't, you shouldn't listen any longer.
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It seems that there is a moment in life when you have to hit someone with all the consequences. And there is a moment when you have to hug someone with all the consequences.
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It is not true that a person is cleansed of suffering, becomes better, wiser and more understanding. The person becomes cold, initiated and indifferent. When a person, for the first time in his life, really understands destiny, he becomes almost calm. He is calm and so special, fearfully lonely in the world.
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I couldn't enjoy the world like this before. I had other things to do, I was paying attention to other things. I was paying attention to one person, I don't know how to care about the world. Then I lost the person and got a world instead.
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Perhaps this is the most difficult: not to be ashamed of our feelings.
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Thank you for being (...) patient and generous. And to you, because you covered my face with your hair when I failed and wanted to hide from the world, and to you, because your body warmed my body when I was cold in the loneliness of life.
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It seems that everything in life happens according to the minute hand of some invisible clockwork: you can't "decide" a moment ahead, only when things and situations decide by themselves.
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Between people who once loved each other, there is and never can be real anger. It can be anger, a desire for revenge; but anger, that tenacious, calculating, waiting anger... no, that's impossible.
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Sometimes I already feel that a lot, maybe everything, depends on the words that a person says in time, or remains silent, or describes.
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At Christmas, people always believe a little in miracles, not only you and me, but the whole world, humanity, as they say, because that's why the holiday exists, because you can't live without miracles.
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The Ideal is a pole star, a Greenwich platinum bar, to which we can adjust our desires and hopes, but it is useless in practical life.
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Only the butler consciously and deliberately creates a masterpiece. A true artist creates immortality even when he is assigned occasional work...
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What is Beauty? Where does it come from, what do we find on it? Nice hand? A look? A move? It's beyond that, I feel something far behind it. Something infinitely good and peaceful. What is beautiful about me? Nothing. Only those who are good with the world can be beautiful.
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There is always something encouraging about new things. In his old clothes, it is as if he irresistibly carries his old troubles and worries.
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Everyone has some ability. There are those who can feel the water in the ground. Or metals. Some people see through objects. There are people who can love another person. All secret. Ability. I have it too. Sometimes I cringe in front of people. I have to stop. I want to talk to them. Right away, without further ado, about the most essential. About what happens to them. I can always sense when a person is facing a crisis.
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Millions of beings live on earth, who are filled with joy of life in their whole body, in their whole being, when they say this word: love. And they begin to radiate with a blissful consciousness when they pronounce: God. I can pronounce both words, I feel nothing. I repeat it until my mouth gets tired and I start to cry. (...) Both words remain dark. There is no electricity in it. They don't even ignite when written down.
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This is the biggest secret. As a man goes bad. He stays alone. He speaks almost in a vacuum: his voice cannot be heard. They do not understand. He goes on roads like the others... and gets nowhere. Always around, always around you. There is something disturbing about it.
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Life is neither good nor bad; how is it It's like cheap literature: it smells like life.
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Our opponents can never be convinced of who and what we are like - it is more effective to wait with great consistency for the moment when our opponents reveal who and what they are like in reality.
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If only the world weren't so beautiful! The dawns! The water, the forest! The plants, the animals! And meanwhile, with all their misery, people wouldn't be so interesting!
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But why do I want to be carefree? By what right? I'm pregnant, so I'm human. So I am.
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A woman who truly loves someone gives a man a way for him to gift her with all his strength.
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It's not impossible. There is hardly an upper limit for man. There is only one thing that is impossible: for what is alive to live without desires.
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It is hideously difficult to know the truth about ourselves: about our nature, our inclinations, our desires. It's almost impossible. There is some deep, dense fog here, into which the ray of reason cannot shine.
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You don't just have to listen to the outside. Also inside, with our feelings. This is not easy.
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War is the greatest test and examination; everything that man has only vaguely suspected or thought he knew about himself and his fellow men is revealed; everything is shown in its most naked reality.
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Life is either dangerous or boring. Let's choose. A truly mature person is one who learns to be bored without being offended by this condition.
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Everything still hurts a lot now. Life will come and it will miraculously guide you through everything that you think is unbearable.
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There are men who are feminine and who need to be loved for that. But then there are other kinds of men who can only tolerate love, as it is.
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There was so much sadness, bewilderment, yes, despair in his face that I had to stop and look back. I watched and thought my heart would break. Maybe I've never loved like this moment.
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He attempted the most difficult thing a person can undertake in life. Do you know what he did? He wanted to neutralize feelings with reason.
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Communists are willing to sacrifice Communists at any moment if at this price they can save a great fraud and lie: Communism.
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A person always hates what is a fault in himself and what he cannot fix and ignore in himself.
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One day I realized I loved it. Why? I was interested in the question because it was stupid and, on top of that, unanswerable. I struggled to answer the question. This is how I answered: I love him... differently than the others, differently than everyone before him... There is something in him that is indescribably familiar to me. It's as if we were once together among snakes and Lucifers, a long time ago, in Paradise.
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Man sins not only by what he commits, but also by what he does not commit, because he is careless or indifferent.
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I'm not good. I'm selfish, I want to keep you, I want to get you back. There is only one way to do this: I will set you free. Go away from me, look for him in the world, which you think you did not find in this house. You are free. Only free people can know themselves and their true desires.
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Now I understood that I never felt at home in this environment, in the framework of the cool writing. I was looking for something, something I was missing forever... What? To breathe in my own world, my own air. I missed that and maybe that's why I traveled from here in these years whenever possible; always, for decades. Well, I've finally arrived, I thought. And I looked intently at the airy nothingness that remained.
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Most of the time, real, big undertakings in life are not heroic deeds, but games of patience.
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I wanted to say that Hungary can live and survive in the new Europe only by demanding quality; there is no way we can be mediocre. (...) But this country fears nothing as much as quality and true education, which is truly heroic.
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You must not look back, with that gaze, the meaning of which you cannot yet know, which is at the same time a call and a greeting, which sends a message, in the confusion and loneliness, as if at night, when everything is completely dark and hopeless, a light suddenly turns on somewhere. You don't yet know that looking is an act like movement.
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There is nothing as interesting, surprising, unpredictable as the process by which a person reveals his character traits.
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Truth is constant and unchanging, like the great laws of nature. But you, the person who believes in the truth and confesses it, are not permanent or unchanging. Even the weather can change your intentions, even the snowfall can divert you from the (...) path, even a woman can influence you: you are so changeable. What can you expect from yourself?... Proclaim the truth, but it doesn't hurt to smile sometimes.
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You have to say goodbye to youth cheerfully, with full lungs, with a roar of laughter, like someone who gets rid of an unreliable travel companion. That's what needs to be said. (...) It wasn't so good to be young. There was confusion, fog, longing, ignorance, false notions, even more false notions, desire and fear that we would be left behind in the great race. And when we held someone in our arms, how many misunderstandings! And the fear of missing the Other, who is more real! (...) No, you can say goodbye to youth without regrets. It was a feverish state, a touching and tender self-absorption.
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Love (...) is not only the bed and what and who belong to the bed, but also the moments of searching, waiting, and hoping that push two people towards each other.
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Man has a soul that can believe and fly, and this soul is immortal and sees the world as a wolf.
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Cleverness is not wisdom. Cleverness is a skill, nervous system and intellectual agility. Wisdom is truth, composure, forgiveness, objectivity, and consent.
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A person listens or talks about something not only with his mouth, but also with his soul.
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It is not important that you write down the beautiful and the true, it is more important that you get to know each other.
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One thing does not change: human nature. There is no morality, reasoning, or miracle that could truly and profoundly change human nature.
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See, smell the miracle, right where it is. It's always around. Most of the time, it is so close, so close at hand, that you can't even think of reaching out for it for the life of you.
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We have to educate our consciousness and our outlook so that we can see the unique, the wonderful and the visionary in the ordinary, the surrounding, the everyday.
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A man of sense, without special talent, can be of more use to the world than a man of talent without sense.
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You have to burn like a bonfire. Like someone who knows that they are going to be burned for something, and they can't or don't want to do anything about it. It is not enough to know the truth, it is not enough to write it down, it is not enough to say it bravely: you also have to burn for it.
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The content of life is the moments of great tension and creation, not the calendar period of existence.
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Everything must be carried out and accepted in turn: joy, sorrow, vocation, task, fall and death as well.
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Most hermits (...) know exactly the departure time of the trains, the trains that can take them back to the world!
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Everything human is hopeless. Only the divine is complete, only the soul is not hopeless.
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Experiences themselves do not have much educational power, as we can see everywhere in life: people, even with certain tragic experiences, make the same fatal mistakes, even if they know the consequences in advance.
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Seeing reality is a much more surprising and imaginative undertaking than building dream castles from clouds that crumble at the first whiff of reality.
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People are completely unpredictable. Even if you know a person for thirty years, you cannot predict how they will behave in success or in bad luck. You know a person's character, his everyday habits, his mind, his heart, his reflexes - the person remains wonderful and mysterious.
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You cannot expect that there is a single person in the world who will understand, understand and explain your words and actions exactly as you intended. Only you always know what you really wanted: the world only understands and sees so much of your intentions, which the mysterious, distorting mirror of the human mind perceives and reflects back.
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If your heart beats eighty at a willing rate, don't want to live like a marathon runner. We must constantly hear the secret morse signs of our body and character, these subtle and powerful messages that dictate the true measure of your life. Those whose senses have been dulled by ambition and passion will no longer hear the voices. Such a person's body and soul live against the rhythm of the world; he lives in a way that is not worthy of a human being, so he sins inhumanly.
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Love can only express itself in capital sentences. When love begins to explain itself, refutes or persuades, it is no longer love, but a human transaction and a sad fate.
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It's also not true that big pains are unbearable... What you can't bear are the small pains, they're not even pains, you can't even feel them separately, only the whole thing together.
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Beware of solitude, for there is that gentle and true solitude, which is an attitude towards men; and that's good. And there is the tragic thing, when the world starts to freeze around you, the roads that lead to people and humanity are covered by the ice. Then you get lost and have to freeze.
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I cannot believe that there are passions that smolder in the soul for a lifetime, with suffocated flame and smoke, like those underworld fires, like mine fires... Maybe there is this too; but I think life puts out such fires. Perhaps some passion is stronger than life, reason, time. Are you scorching everything, burning everything?
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You wanted the whole thing, not some installment. Your wish was not fulfilled. You failed. But lying on the ground and in the mud, a defeated warrior, stammer this: "At least I wanted it all, at least I wanted the real thing, at least this much, understand and forgive me."
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He who loves without humility puts a great burden on the shoulders of the other.
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And because you are a wanderer, every day you have to continue on the path that leads to your only goal, that is to know your soul (...). It's not easy. (...) You are a wanderer and you have to go further every day. You do not know how long you will live, and whether you will have time at all to reach the final goal of your journey, to get to know your soul (...)? Therefore, go on every day, with fast feet and poor. Because you are a wanderer.
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How many times in life have we heard this plea, this command, this desperate cry, as if it had been shouted from the gates of death, as if it had been lifted up to heaven from the pits of shame and destruction. "Love me!" As if someone, out of stinginess or with evil intent, refuses some kind of alms from a dying soul, as if we are really powerful, but we do not want to use our power, as if loving someone depends on some consideration or determination! "Love me!" As if a damned man were begging, "Save me!" As if a mortally wounded man were to cry out: "Help!" But since I want, I want to help... come on, a glass of water! Bring money! Come on, tenderness! Only you can give me the rest of what I need to love you.
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You have nothing to be ashamed of in life. Only cowardice is shameful, with which one cannot give or dare not accept feelings.
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He who does not attack, who only defends himself, is no longer alive, he just exists.
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Don't think that you are the stronger one. I'm the only one who's weaker.
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Passion lives and waits somewhere, it won't let go. And that's good. It is not true that your life and work are completely aimless. Life wants something more from you.
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You only get something from books if you can also give something to your reading. I mean, if you bring to them a soul that is willing to receive and give wounds in the duel of reading, willing to argue, convince and be convinced.
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Sin is not only what we do. It is also a sin to do what we want, but we are not strong enough.
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Man is the only living creature on earth who wants to know if there is a "meaning" to "being".
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The moments of bribery, the gentler life situations, the occasional softening should never make you forget, when you are facing a woman, that you are a warrior, whose skin and life the opponent wants. Fight chivalrously, but fight. If you sometimes meet with generosity, pay with generosity; if you receive tenderness, give back, without emotion, with tenderness what you have received; when you encounter passion, respond with unconditional passion. But never, for a single moment, forget that naked selfishness and vanity smolder at the bottom of every emotional encounter. He lies on the embers, who lies in a woman's bed. You can burn your skin there; he must save his human rank and honor. Listen and fight. Opponents stand around, with feathers in their hair and paint on their faces, like wild warriors.
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It would be smarter to just live, enjoy and play. But what should I do if this desire, the desire to know and decipher, fills my life so hopelessly?
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Everything the world could want from you is a bargain and a half solution. The only thing that matters is what you have contracted with yourself and your character. There is no negotiation in this contract.
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A lifetime of consistently disagreeing with what people lie about is more heroic than occasionally loudly and breast-beatingly protesting it.
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Maybe it wasn't even ready yet?... - only God hated it and stopped it on the seventh day.
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And then there is the enemy. He is not an opponent, more than that. It's as if fate has chosen the two of you for a duel that has no reason or meaning. You know about him, just as he knows about you, even though you have not crossed paths with him in any area of life or career. He hates you, he wants your bread and your life: you have never sinned against him. You spend a lifetime avoiding and looking for each other.
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Make sure that you are never in a hurry and obey the strict consistency of facts and situations in your work, social life, yes, even in everyday actions. (...) There is a kind of dexterity at the bottom of human tasks; it doesn't hurt to learn that. If you catch something; hold it with both hands and firmly, if you let something go, let it go consciously and with all the consequences, if you speak, let your word stand in time like a stone, if you are happy about something, be happy without reservation.
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To judge with fairness in your own case as well as you train yourself to be fair in the case of others. You have no right to be impatient, unworthy, or overly demanding of yourself. If you want the world to recognize your human dignity, recognize your own dignity. And behave accordingly, patiently and generously. Do not demand of yourself more, nor anything else, nor worse than what you deem fair to others. We cannot make unconditional demands on ourselves. Try to be more modest, know that your powers are woefully limited. In work, in ambition, in human effort, you dedicate yourself, not only to others. It's not enough to feel sorry for people, feel sorry for yourself. You are also human: and it is so easy to forget this in the worldly competition. It is not only others who forget him; most of the time yourself.
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If some rule of life has been established in our life, we must stick to it at all costs; because the life of an adult is made up of rules and ways of life, like a building made of solidly laid bricks, and it is not advisable to shake this structure by moving one or another brick out of place. Over forty years of age, our lives are filled with rules that others may consider frivolous, but we know that their true meaning is defense against anarchy. Getting up, going to bed, having fun, working hours, relationships with people, all these are regulated by strict laws over time.
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Sadness is a great power. You see everything from further away, as if you had reached the top while hiking. Things will be more foreboding, simpler and truer in this noble mist and pearly glow. You feel more human at the same time. It's like hearing music without a melody. The world is also sad.
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You were born human, so I don't ask you to forgive people. Understand them and listen.
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Most of the time, we don't remember the face of the one we loved. Only details remain in memory: his smile, his voice, the twinkle in his eye.
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I know that youth is not a period of life that can be measured by time, it is simply a state, the beginning and end of which cannot be marked with years. Youth does not begin with puberty, and it does not end on a certain day, say when we are forty, on Palm Sunday, at six in the afternoon. Youth, this strange, not at all "stormy" feeling of life, can happen to us when we haven't prepared for it, and we don't particularly expect it. This is a sad, pure and selfless state.
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In old age, we have to decide what to do with loneliness. Perhaps it is better to be lonely alone than in company.
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What was waste yesterday is today an object of respectable value. What was junk in a drawer yesterday is spare today. We appreciate reality at the same time. War teaches not only suffering, generosity and heroism.
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The real tragedy is when we have no way to live for something that we have come to know as great, true and precious. This is the most terrible fate.
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It is very difficult to endure life without intoxicants; and the people who can keep their balance even without aids still inspire me with extreme respect, and at the same time I look at them with suspicion, almost with frightened suspicion; what could be their secret? Undoubtedly, there are "healthy" people; only very few.
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The greatest heroism is to stick to your work, no matter what the world says about it. And it is even more heroic to destroy your work if you feel that you could not do perfectly what you contracted yourself to do.
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Sometimes I think I'm waiting for love. This hunger is probably insatiable: once you have tasted it, you want to taste it until you die. In the meantime, I learned that you can't get love, you always have to give it, that's the way. I also learned that nothing is more difficult than expressing love.
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Common interests sometimes create human situations that resemble friendship.
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The word we give to ourselves means that we have made a contract with our character, which does not change, and therefore we have no way to change the contract we have made with it.
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Only one cannot change, the truth and dignity of my soul. Look at the rest with compassion and impartiality.
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Do you know what my husband was? The rarest symptom in life. He was a man. But not like that, in the theatrical, amorous sense of the word. Not like boxing champions are called manly. His soul was masculine, pondering and consistent, restless, searching and suspicious.
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What can scare you if your soul is calm? If you overcome vanity, lust and greed? What kind of powers can torture you if you don't torture yourself? What is prison if your soul is free? What is death, if you have gotten to know the world and your soul, and you do not long for unnecessary and embarrassing details? Indeed, you were like the child who is unhappy because he did not get this or that. Always think this: "I have no power, no wealth, maybe no health. But how powerful, how rich, how superior I am, because I adjust my desires to the truth and reality of things, and my soul is free!" No one can take that away from you, no one can give you more than that.
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You don't believe in miracles, do you deny it? Look, I can't convince you, because the main characteristic of a miracle is that it's wonderful - it can't be proven, like a physiological fact, it can't be photographed, nor can it be predicted and calculated in advance according to quantitative laws. The manifestations of the miracle are not always easy to perceive either: it does not always walk on two legs, it is not possible to take photographs, there are no land registry or registry data. The miracle, quite simply, manifests itself - and sometimes only much later do we understand what the miracle was, how it intervened in our lives, and what was supernatural and wonderful about this intervention.
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To live with a secret, like the old people who told, wrote or confessed everything, except the one thing that burned in their hearts. To live like the old poets or guardsmen who went to a duel to die because of a misunderstanding, but did not even admit that one name on the torture bench (there are many types of torture benches). To live, with a seal on our hearts and lips, looking at the sky, talking about everything, but keeping silent about that one, until death.
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There is always an attraction and a spell in danger. When fate directly addresses our personality in some form, calls us by name, as it were, a kind of attraction always radiates beneath the anxiety and fear, because it doesn't just want to live, at all costs, no, people want to fully know and accept their fate, at all costs, even at the cost of danger and destruction.
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The people whose foreheads reflect the heavenly sign, which shows that they are patronized by the gods, really feel like chosen beings, and there is a certain vain security in the way they step before the world.
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Details are sometimes very important. It's as if they tie the whole thing together, glue the raw material of the memory.
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Youth always feels homesick, forever yearning for a suspicious, indifferent and fearful homeland, whose name is the world.
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Only tenderness is human. Passion is inhuman and hopeless. But the judgment that condemned all living beings to passion is merciless. The living world is built between desire and satisfaction, with such inhuman will as the pharaohs built the pyramids with naked masses.
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This human face, in which there is no anger or desire, everything is burned out of this face, it knows everything and wants nothing, neither revenge, nor forgiveness, nothing, nothing... it should be like this. This is the ultimate human perfection, this holy indifference, this complete loneliness and deafness to pleasure and pain.
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Marcus Aurelius says that by the age of forty, a man in whom a spark of reason shines, has experienced and knows everything that happened to people in the time before him, and everything that can happen in the time that follows. The details may be varied and different, but the basic experience - the common basic experience of all human lives - actually happens to all people in forty years. He has lived the passions, experienced the constancy of natural laws, and knows with absolute certainty that he is mortal. Neither Caesar, nor Antonius, nor Marcus Aurelius knew more, and man in time will never know more about himself and the world. Everything else is just repetition.
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The roads you walked with him, the bridges you crossed with him and stopped for a moment and looked at the roaring water in the depths or the moon covered with rags of clouds, the trees whose leaves brushed your face when you looked into his eyes, the roses whose fragrance he once inhaled On the island, all these traces, witnesses, signs of sin remained in the world, and they prove that you really loved me. But then, one day, this love was lost. Where did it get lost, on which road, on which bridge, did it fall into the depths, into the roaring water or into the sky, into the moonlit night or did it mingle with the scent of roses, and that's why this scent is so pregnant and thick now, in June?... I can't answer . I just walk the roads and bridges with my head down and wonder and remember.
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One does not understand the roads for a long time. You just walk on the roads and think about something else. Sometimes one of the roads is wide, asphalted, sometimes bumpy, rutted, steep. For a long time, we see the roads as just an opportunity, an opportunity, with the help of which we can go to the office or to our loved one or to the roaring, spring forest. One day we will learn that roads have meaning: they lead somewhere. We are not the only ones on the roads; the roads also move with us. Roads have a purpose. All paths eventually converge in one common goal. And then we stop and wonder, we stare with open mouth, we admire the mysterious order in the tangle of many roads, we admire the multitude of boulevards, country roads and paths through which we finally reached the same goal. Yes, roads make sense. But we only understand this at the last moment, right before the finish line.
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Just waiting. For the day or the hour when everything that forced you into solitude, you can once again discuss with all those, or with the one who drove you there.
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There are people whom everyone loves, for whom everyone has a forgiving and cherishing smile, and in such people there is indeed something self-sufficient, something lovable.
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At the bottom of every human relationship there is some tangible substance, and no matter how much argument and skill, this reality does not change.
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I'm not afraid anymore...or, more cautiously, maybe I should say I'm not so afraid. Sometimes I'm almost curious. And deep down, at the bottom of all our intentions, sometimes I think at the bottom of all our actions, this curiosity, this desire, the desire for annihilation lives and acts... oh, it's very strong. Stronger than lust. Stronger than love. This is the strongest, this desire. But you shouldn't talk about that, I know.
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When does a soul close? (...) Its reclusiveness is as complete and unconditional as that of a plant, which closes its calyx with instinctive skill and complicated intelligence in some vague sense of danger, it can be destroyed, perhaps it can be destroyed with a simple touch, but it does not voluntarily give up its secret.
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There was something unmistakable about the man, something that almost shouted, you just didn't have to follow the order. But "not defending" is almost the same as acting, as doing what we are lazy or cowardly to do, perhaps this is the most difficult, this consent to the other's will, which is not commanded by our consciousness, but rather by the internal, immutable law of our personality.
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Something broke in him, and the wounded man was only a defense, a sabbatical, an unapproachable presence.
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And is this feeling with which a man turns to a woman really personal? Isn't it for desire, forever and only for desire, which sometimes, for temporary periods, takes shape? And the artificial excitement in which we live could not have been the goal of nature when it created man and added woman to his side, because it saw that it was not good for them alone.
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This age seems to just want to live, without a role or a mission. I think you can't live like this.
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But then time turns, a year, or three years, or two weeks - have you noticed that love, like death, has no time that can be measured by a clock or a calendar? it turned out exactly as they imagined. And then they separate, with anger or indifference, and they hope again and start over, looking for other companions. Or they are already tired and stay together, drain each other's zest for life and vitality, and become sick, kill each other a little, die. And at the last moment, when they close their eyes, do they understand?... What did they want from each other?
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When someone emerges from the past, announces in an emotional voice that he wants to fix "everything", one can only pity and laugh at his intention; time has already "fixed" everything, in that strange way, in the way of the only possible arrangement.
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There are incurably damaged people who are so deeply infected by greed, vanity and envy that there is no way to approach and reconcile their sick souls. Aim for these, but avoid them. There is no generous act, selfless behavior, brave and noble approach that can help these people. In particular, envy torments these people. They throw up bile, scream in their sleep, toss and turn on their bums like scumbags, and spit foam when they see that someone has earned or achieved something in life through work or the benevolence of fate. These are patients, infectious patients. Avoid their company, don't believe that arguments and proof can ever convince them. It's as if you want to prove to the leper that the healthy are sinless and innocent! He doesn't believe it. If you reveal to them the real cause of their illness, they will hate you. If you try to affect their feelings, they will blow the whistle. They live as deeply in their emotions as in the fate of the exile: they know no other solution but revenge. Don't bargain with them, avoid them and endure their existence on earth as a stroke of fate.
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Sometimes I fear that in the end he is the stronger one, the other me, the familiar and incomprehensible one, who has no business card, no body, and who is at least as strongly me as my hands or my eyes. I'm afraid that he's still stronger, because he treats me superiorly, like a fencer who might even underestimate his opponent: he inflicts wounds, carefully and playfully, and maybe he doesn't knock me down because - for the time being - he's amused by this disproportionate sparring. Should I apologize to him? Then it all makes no sense. Run away from life? Then he won. I can't do anything. It is not enough to convince and defeat the opponent. You have to put up with it. This is the harder one.
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If the holiday comes in your life, then celebrate to the fullest. (...) Cleanse yourself inside and out. Forget everything that is the ceremony and task of ordinary days. The holiday is not only written in red letters on the calendar. Look at the ancients, how devoutly, how absolutely, how circumstantially, with how much wild joy they celebrated! The holiday is the difference. The holiday is a deep and magical disorder.
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As I write, I am forced to wipe away a rising tear in my eyes while writing, and my lips whisper a silent blessing to the irretrievable past hours and our masters: the teachers!
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You see, my friends, what we are with your eyes We are dust and ashes Our memories are falling apart like old fabrics. Can you put Margitsziget back together?... Everything is just scraps, shards, withered shit. The dead man has grown a beard, your name is your number. "pearl", "heart" - is no longer what it was.
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In life-threatening situations, we must remember that our time is definitely up, even if the touch of the hand of fate is ten years before or after; because the content of life is the great tension, the moments of creation, not the calendar period of existence. You lived when you expressed with all your strength the divine command which was the content of your life, you fulfilled, with fervor and destiny, your duty. This moment was the time of life. Everything else was only preparation and waiting. And nature is economical: she does not let go prematurely those whom she needs for her work; and when they have done what they were engaged to do in the great work of the world, she cares for them no more. The danger of life, then, is plain, have you lived well, have you lived bravely and dutifully? The rest is private, which in the depths of your heart even you do not really care about.
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Whenever you can - but never by stealing time from your work and acting in haste with a guilty conscience! - go to one of the thermal public baths, two or three times a week. Bathing is a very old human custom, and it not only exercises and refreshes the body, but also the soul. Bathe slowly, according to your body's laws, with deliberation and patience. The thermal waters will infuse your body and invigorate your soul, soothing your nerves, which are overwhelmed by work and the world. Spas are a kind of wet monastery where you can surrender your body and soul undisturbed to sober and equitable rest. The sulfurous, iron waters act through the pores of the skin on the internal organs and our nervous system; the atmosphere of the spa, the veil of humidity, frees us from the cheap images of the outside world. So bathe regularly and methodically, like the Romans.
Never mind if this habit of yours is despised by the Spartans; remember that Sparta did not give the world a single independent thinker, and was eventually destroyed anyway. Bathe yourself with a clear conscience. Bathe methodically, alternating hot and lukewarm and then cold pools and showers, surrender your body to the dexterity of the masseurs, sit for long periods in the warm water, tolerate having your skull rolled up in a cold-water turban, surrender your body and soul to the calm of the warm water, the lukewarm silence, think, learn aquatic patience, relax. You can't relax in the lap of the houris like you can in a thermal spa pool. And in the hot air-heated chamber, never stay more than two or three minutes. And tip the staff well. And know that you're mortal, but you owe your body something. For instance, spa, twice a week; three times a week at the most.
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It is not worth picking up a pen, it is not worth putting a drop of ink to paper, it is not worth wasting a quarter of an hour of your life writing something that will please the masses and the semi-literate, that will make them exclaim, "Oh! Yes! We thought so too!..." - for which you will be awarded a medal by the official world, paid a lot of money by some literary establishment, and with the money you can build a nice house, which you can then fill with rare objects and noble furniture! Because what pleases them, the masses, is always a misunderstanding on their part, or a betrayal on your part. Gold smoke, a child's plaything, is what is a medal. And all the money thou canst get for work that pleases the world, the fine house thou canst build with that money, all this is but mist, the breath of the world's powers will one day blow it away. Take no heed but the voice of the angel that cries to you when he calls you to your work.
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It is surely no coincidence that the most effective weapon of the Second World War was the airplane - the weapon that attacks vertically. Because all of humanity's wars to date have occurred and been fought in a horizontal line. This war was preceded by the crisis known as the "vertical invasion of the masses" - the masses did not advance horizontally in the fields of a culture, but attacked a form of life vertically within the framework of a culture. It is natural that this attack, this vertical invasion, when it was transformed into war, should have sought the vertical weapon of its nature, the bomb, and the airplane. Great human changes of direction are always followed by changes in the style and direction of the accessories.
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Nicotine is one of the greatest gifts and greatest scourges of modern life: invented by the devil to combat boredom, and there is nothing man can do about it as long as boredom is in the land. It is a strong blood vessel poison, and it makes you dumb. Every time I smoked too many cigarettes in a day to work, the next day I was half-mad and couldn't work. It can also cause anxiety, sweating, palpitations, and other life-threatening complications in our lives. There is nothing you can do about it. Tobacco smoke casts a kind of beneficial haze over the world; it is the common intoxication of the moment, this bitter happiness and forgetfulness - who is strong enough to give it up, or to give it up a moment before it is absolutely necessary? Because one day it is necessary... The heart, the optic nerves, the stomach, the bowels, all rebel against it. Then we throw away the bitter pill, we immediately grow fat, healthy, obese, and unhappy. But until then! As if we were sucking some evil yet blissful ancestral mother's bitter teat all day long! And there must be some play and some poison to live; otherwise, it is only health and exercise, not life.
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During the air raid, I learned that the feeling of fear that struck me in the first fifteen minutes of the near explosion of the bombs was far more humiliating and inhuman than it was worth giving our souls and nerves to. I have therefore taught myself - which is, by the way, the only true meaning of all our intentions and thoughts - that we must fear nothing, for he who fears in the moment of danger has learned, read, and thought in vain before, in the peaceful period of life, and has filtered in vain experience of the value of human life and the naturalness of death. He who fears deceives: he has deceived himself all his life because he has not prepared himself truly, with a strong spirit, for death. I have therefore educated myself never to fear anything that may threaten me from man or nature; I fear only what I may sin against myself; I fear the word of my conscience; for our actions follow us.
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The mass, as a social force, has become so powerful in my time that there is no cave, no attitude, no perspective where we can still retreat from it. Of course, it is unwise and foolish whoever is offended by the fact of the crowd and takes refuge in the whining attitude of some squeamish and querulous individualism. The crowd is here, like the rain, the wind, the earth. It must be reckoned with. But Aristotle says: "The great multitude shows quite a slave mentality, and follows the way of life of brutes." Two and a half thousand years ago this statement was made; it is more valid today than ever.
Human vulgarity in our time has reached such hopeless proportions that there is no longer any pedagogical method that can effectively combat it. The reflexes of the masses are no longer human in the sense in which we have come to know the human in the sense of Christian culture and classical education. You can't argue with them; it's like arguing with drunkards or lunatics who only stammer their obsessions in response. Their emotions cannot be influenced; they feel differently from humans. Compassion and sympathy are distorted in their souls; greed and bloodthirst reign in their nerves, the sad lust of unbridled and greedy frothing pleasure: human vulgarity has no limit anymore. All the more reason for every human being to remain stubbornly and courageously in his place, to think and feel as a human being should.
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One satisfaction, yes, one fulfillment in life: to do the quiet, menial, but skilfully done work to which your inclination and ability have assigned you, not to escape from it into vain "roles", to be content with the satisfaction that your work was accurate to the point of possibility, and perhaps useful to people. That is the best that life can give.
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After the age of forty, it is advisable to smoke cigarettes through a smoke filter. These mineral-filled smoke filters absorb only a small fraction of nicotine and the combustion products of cigarette paper, but they do help somewhat. They don't prevent nicotine poisoning, but they do relieve morning coughs and slimy hoarseness. I recommend them to everyone.
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I have never understood men who can pine and moan for a woman. They say, "What is she doing now? Does she love someone else?" Or, "Why isn't she with me?" Or, "How long will I have her?" These feelings are unknown to me in their true, tragic significance, at least they are unknown to me now, I cannot say, of course, that I did not go through such pathological crises when I was younger. But now I cannot understand how someone can commit suicide because of a woman's infidelity or coldness. I lived with women as I passed puberty, during my male years, as dear and necessary companions, who at times, in the great tasks of life, also allied themselves with me in enduring a very difficult fate, the human condition. But otherwise, I expected no loyalty from them, no particular kindness, no sacrifice. I rejoiced in their tenderness, the thrilling and soothing intoxication of their bodies, their quick wits, their instinctive and sometimes heroic impulses, and I overlooked their tenacious and meticulous skill in recording, with a childish madness, human emotions. But when they left my room or my life, I thought no more of them. Such is my nature, and I think that only such conduct is worthy of a man, and I am grateful to my fate for blessing me with such a nature.
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In times like ours, when everything happens not only horizontally but also vertically, one does the right thing if one learns to act with the caution of a front-line soldier. For to be clever, not petty, but calculating in one's movements, to be concerned with space, situation, danger, to act in the direction of least resistance, to be untimely in one's attack, but courageous and calm at the moment of attack, is to be clear in courage. To be a soldier in battle is a dangerous task, but to be a citizen in an era of total, vertical assaults of life is no less dangerous. And we live in such an era. Let us therefore calculate our movements, day and night, at every possible opportunity, so that in the great struggle which has marked us out as warriors, we do not waste our strength in vain. Night and day we must fight. Our work, our entertainment, our reading, our concepts of life, our knowledge and experience, all these are weapons in this struggle. So let us take our place in the humble and dangerous cover, in the den of our lives, watching the enemy's every move, and not wasting our energies or ammunition prematurely. And meanwhile, if the sky is starry and the enemy is asleep, let us look at the stars.
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You have to learn to listen, and that is perhaps the hardest thing. You always speak more than one word. You can't listen enough. Also because all speech is hopeless. Even the written and recorded word is hopeless! Look around the world: what good have all those written words, advice, and persuasive experiments done? It has done nothing. What can you hope to gain by telling someone something? You can't hope for anything. Therefore, listen, always listen more and more consistently than you speak, do not try to convince others artificially, because that is impossible - truth has some educative power only if you discover it yourself - and do not try to show off that you know something. I say again, be silent. In peace and in war, be silent. And if you have spoken, rinse your mouth afterward. And when you have spoken wrongly, and are tormented with guilt, do not let that guilt go; face it, face it hard; say, "I have spoken again, and have spoken wrongly, too much, too vehemently, or too vainly; it is done, I cannot help it; but in the future I will be harder and will keep silent." Be silent, for God is silent, and he knows. Why? It is wisest to be silent.
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Know, know with all your heart and mind, that in moments of crisis, there is no one you can count on. No relative, no friend, no dear one you know; in the big moment everyone throws off their mask, shows their raw selfishness, and you are left alone when you most need someone to stand by your side and offer a kind word, a look of encouragement. You expect no more from anyone, but in danger, you don't get that either.
Live meekly and patiently among people, but trust no one to help you. Train yourself to be lonely and strong. Know that no one will ever help you. And don't complain about it. You are human, so you cannot expect anything from people, and that is natural.
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The writer should not expect anything from the world. All that the world can give - money, wealth, recognition, medals, social honors - will reflect on his work, his spiritual balance, and the moral strength of his work. The writer should not aspire to be a social authority; he loses precisely as much of the moral weight of his work as he rises in social esteem. The writer cannot have any title or rank; he can have only one title and rank, his name. And his only possession in the world is his work. And let him not accumulate money, nor movable or immovable valuables; let him so organize his life that he may be freer in his work, that he may not have to write a single line which he does not feel like writing, and that he may accept only such payment as he may, in his best faith, and without compromise, or regard to social or fashionable considerations, consider the value of his written work. And let him not care whether he "likes" or not what he writes - and let him not care what becomes of his work in life and the afterlife. Let the writer remain poor. And if gold is sometimes thrown at him with a shovel, let him have the strength to turn away from success. And if he is greedily marked with a medal by a hand, let him one-handed refuse the intruders. Never politicize; always judge; and of course, judge yourself first and most severely. Otherwise, you have no right to call yourself a writer.
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Human material is poisonous and should only be consumed with the utmost care and caution. It is the human matter that lives in the souls of men; that is the stuff of their souls; that is the intangible and yet real matter that causes them to be neither trees nor animals, but men. This matter is like poison. It is a noxious matter. Man is not a harmless creature, but a dangerous one, like cyanide or the fly agaric. Man only does not poison his fellow man with the substance of his soul if he has no way of doing so or if the experiment is dangerous to him or difficult. But as soon as he has the means to do so - without interest, without purpose, without profit - he immediately believes his poison in the world. Human matter is so poisonous that only the smallest doses can be tolerated without mortal danger. It can only be neutralized to some extent by reason, by intellect, and by the consciousness of hopelessness. Because man is hopeless, he cannot be educated to his true duties, he cannot be neutralized by the ancient poison in his soul. Man is the danger of the world.
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For a human creation to be a masterpiece, to dazzle and delight people with its timeless brilliance, something more is needed besides talent, subject matter, and perfection of execution. The masterpiece has an element of the fairy, which shines through with its wonderful light, as tenderly and as startlingly as the northern lights shine in the summer night, unreal and yet luminous, because you can see and read alongside it. Let the masterpiece be real, accurate, clever, purposeful, proportionate, carefully crafted, and faithfully executed - and let it be something more. It must also be beautiful. And with all the self-consciousness, it should be joyful. It should be built according to engineering rules, but it should also have chaos, a coffee spoon's worth of the primordial mist that dusts the constellations with golden grains. Without a fairy, there are only "great" or "perfect" works. A true masterpiece is sometimes not so perfect. It just shines, it has the "just dream" in it, the starlight, the fairy. And this is the part of the task when the artist can no longer help his work; the final brushstroke, the fairy, is done by God.
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I could never imagine God, probably because he is not human and earthly, but divine. Man, when he imagines and expresses God in image or statue, always imagines and expresses some bearded forefather, a sort of chieftain, with a lot of hair, in a peplum, with a woolly beard, like a rabbi or a French schoolmaster. This is how the Greeks and Romans depicted Zeus and Jupiter, and how Christianity depicts the Father. This representation has always confused me and filled me with shame. Such a man-like God, with a beard with a hollowed beard and a nose which he obviously blows out from time to time, could not be felt to be a true God. Of all the representations of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, only the idea of the Holy Spirit struck me as worthy of God. God created and administers the world, and therefore the world is certainly like Him - but God cannot be human, otherwise He would have to go to a barber. This simplemindedness has always annoyed me. My God has no beard, no peplum. He is behind all things as Power and Reason. God for me is the Intent that permeates the world. This Intent is conscious. That is why I can speak to it, without false ideas, as the minute intellect speaks to the ultimate, the Reason with capital letters.
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Because people are completely unpredictable. Even if you've known a person for thirty years, you can't predict how they will behave in success or adversity. You know nothing of a man's character, his everyday habits, his intellect, his heart, his reflexes - he remains wonderful and mysterious, even if he is otherwise half-mad. He may answer calamity with a shriek and a shout of joy; success sometimes breaks him, depresses him. Sometimes, on quite inexplicable occasions, people may become angry; for example, they may have endured grief, humiliation, material, physical, or moral misfortune, but then in a moment they may murder, or thunder and howl because the tram does not come on time, or their shoes are tight. Well-balanced, temperate people respond in a very particular way to some roadside remark: as if you had touched a secret wound in their being. Some people can't bear the ringing of the telephone, others ask for a kadarka before they are led to the gallows. The animal, the stone, and the plant are more regular and more predictable, and the storm and the earthquake more reliable than a human. People are wonderful.
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It is advisable to make conscious changes not only to life situations but also to life patterns. Sometimes even a trivial journey, a few kilometers' change of location, can take us out of the familiar, sometimes agonizing and unbearable, inertia of our lives. Sometimes, all it takes is a trip to Esztergom to change our thoughts about life and to see our tasks more clearly. Travel changes your ideas, the French say. The different rooms where we lay our heads to sleep, the strange faces, the changed cuisine, all this triggers a process of reconciliation and refreshment in our souls.
And so we must change the rhythm of our lives today. Not violently. Not clumsily. But consciously, instinctively, when we feel we have stalled in a way of life. Those who have been stubbornly waking up at dawn should arrange their sleep and wake rhythms so that they wake up before noon for a while. Those who have been going to bed early and feel their lives have reached a dead end, go to bed after midnight. Those who have done their most important work in the morning should, if they can, try to change the rhythm of their work to the afternoon. If you are tired in the evening, rest during the day and work at night. If you have had a nap after lunch, sleep for half an hour before lunch. Just don't get bogged down in life's situations, just don't pull on slippers and let your beard down, and always make sure that the creative forces of the world find you in constant readiness and anticipation! It doesn't take much. It is the art of the careful interplay of hearing, heart, attention, instinct, and intellect.
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Because there is something more precious than knowledge, more precious than intellect, yes, more precious than goodness. There is a kind of tact that is the height of human achievement. A kind of tenderness that is invisible, colorless, tasteless, and yet indispensable, like boiling water in a pestilent land, without which one dies of thirst or becomes ill. That tact and tenderness which, like some wonderful hearing of music, forever warns a man what is too much and what is too little in human things, what is free and what is too much, what hurts another and what is so good that it makes an enemy if it is given and cannot repay? It is a tact that knows not only the right words and emphasis but also the tenderness of listening. There are rare people who know this. Those who have stewed and ennobled kindness, which is always selfishness, and who never hurt by their friendship or sympathy, are not burdensome in their advances, never say a word more than the other can bear, and, as if they had separate, very delicate hearing-organs, sniff out what it is that can hurt the other? And they can always talk of other things. And they hear everything that is dangerous among people as keenly as electric listening ears detect invisible enemy birds approaching in the clouds at high altitudes. Tact and tenderness are perceived with superhuman perception. Yes, these two faculties are superhuman.
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Being a guest is one of the most delicious and tiring of all captivations. For in vain do the landlords say: 'With us, the guest does what he wants! He wakes and lies down when he wants! He eats what he wants! Of course, the guests and the housekeepers do nothing but look after each other from morning till night, listening to each other's wishes and their way of life, adapting themselves to each other. And yet the householders are freer because they are at home, they impose a kind of established order on the guest, who is forced to behave from morning till night as if he were doing what he wants when he is doing nothing but adapting to the householders. It is particularly rude to invite someone to stay all day or even overnight, for several days, in the countryside. It is an assassination against a free man's tastes, habits, time, pleasures, work, and order. 'Bring nothing but a nightgown and a toothbrush,' say the landlords; and behold, for a day or two you have been banished from your life, deprived of your freedom of action, and sometimes of your freedom of thought.
To be a guest is bondage. It is a great spiritual rudeness and selfishness to invite someone to be your guest. Even to accept an invitation to dinner is a burdensome, tedious, and exhausting duty. It is best to meet friends in restaurants at nine o'clock in the evening and then go home at eleven o'clock, each having paid his own bill. Anything else is assassination and selfishness.
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Of course, it doesn't hurt to have a work plan. Just don't artificially set this plan. Someday, out of anticipation, study, inclination, the order of ordinary days, and the suggestion of extraordinary moments, this work plan will emerge. Never give in to tempting ideas. The idea will flash, and with a certain skill, you can indeed build something from it, something that has form, something that is like a real creation. But it remains an idea, even if you execute it perfectly. Real work, personal and fatal, is different. You have to wait until everything matures and comes to pass to really write or do what you do. At such times, remain relentless and consistent with yourself and your work. But the supreme condition of all intellectual creative work is that state of mind and nerves which Goethe called Schauder*. If you don't have this shudder while you work, you will only create properly and regularly. Without Schauder there is no creation.
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You have a role that is yours alone, and this is your contract with God. But you are also a part of the great structure of the world, not much more, not more important, than a screw or a wire, an auxiliary instrument in some incidental and subordinate process of this infinitely complicated machinery. Never forget your role, which is yours alone and personal, and never forget that you do not count for much more in the Whole than a part, a screw, or a wire.
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See how you can make every day, even the most ordinary, dreary weekday, a celebration, if only for a few moments! With a kind word. With an act of dignity. A polite gesture. It doesn't take much for a human celebration. You can sneak some magical element into every day, give yourself the gift of a quarter of an hour of experiencing the truth of a book, the satisfaction of learning some obscure concept, comforting or enlightening your surroundings. Life will be richer, more festive, and more human if you fill a few minutes of the ordinary with the extraordinary, the human, the benign, and the courteous; in other words, with celebration.
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You should know that people cling to mediocrity, to confusion and butterflies, to illusions and half-knowledge, to illiteracy, for a reason. For literacy is the discovery and the bearing of truth - the true knowledge of all things. And to bear the truth is always very difficult. To be educated, that is, to know reality and truth, requires extraordinary courage. Man comes to know the truth with his whole heart, his whole destiny, his whole being. Man can only be educated to life and death. Men are always more ready to submit to a veiled explanation of some inconvenient truth, that is to say, to illiteracy, than to the plain, simple, straightforward truth, which is education. People secretly know that everything that is true and human, and therefore real, is caught in blood, sweat and passion, but they prefer to whisper, with downcast eyes, that children come from the stork. It is more pleasing and more comfortable. But education is not brought by the stork.
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Whenever the temptation comes and speaks to you, promising friendship, passion, intimacy, a bond, know that the material of which such a bond is made is perishable, because it is human material. What today is an oath, tomorrow is a nuisance; what today is passion and desire, tomorrow is an incomprehensible and distorted memory; what today is loyalty, tomorrow is sad duty. The temptation smiles uselessly, promises, hopes. The desire to share life's loneliness with someone, fully and confidently, lives on in your heart in vain until death. You have no way to do this because you are human. Always know this.
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Before you judge the extraordinary, throw it into the mill of everyday use and grind it there for a while. Have you met an extraordinarily beautiful woman whose beauty dazzles and amazes you? Observe for a while this extraordinary beauty in the glare of everyday life, and you will suddenly learn that all beauty is hopeless and sad, not worth caring for. Are you dazzled by the extraordinary spirit of a man? Examine what he said in the practice of the commonplace, and you will understand at once that wisdom is not something extraordinary and incomprehensible, but something very simple and natural. Have you met a man of extraordinary power? Just think how fragile this man's power is, on Mondays and Tuesdays - he could be killed by an assassin, a political movement, or even a tiny infectious microbe! Have you encountered extraordinary human goodness? Then marvel and remain in awe. But it doesn't happen to you often.
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Every word you write, every word you utter, is written and pronounced in such a way that it can stand the test of mundane reality. Perhaps this is the secret of writing and of life. For it is useless to have a word in its place in the literary volume if it cannot withstand the atmospheric pressure of reality in the mundane volume.
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Like the sailor whose ship has been caught in a storm, and suddenly he sees the sails tightening, the great sail panels swelling ominously with the hurricane's frenzied breath, the wires creaked and crackled, and on the bobbing and dancing deck, amid the roaring and crashing waves, he staggered, and with his last strength, rushed to the sails and ropes to loosen them all: so you too, in the dangerous and turbulent moments of your life, know that you cannot endure great tensions, human bonds and relationships must be loosened, otherwise everything breaks and tears. At such times, throw everything aside: work, human relations, life order, and leave yourself to fate and the storm. In every life and in every period of life such storms arise, when all that has been bound up until then cannot stand the strain of the storm of passionate passions. Relax and wait. By morning the storm will have passed.
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It is not at all certain that the Spartans, when they threw the stunted children off the Tarpeian Rock*, did not also throw down strong, powerful souls at the same time as they threw down the stunted bodies. I have always loved stunted children, and have felt not only a natural tenderness for such defenseless, small, pale creatures but also a certain respect and affection. It is by no means certain that the greatest efforts of mankind are accomplished by perfect-bodied wrestlers and flawless gladiators, yes, I think the stunted have a job to do in the world, and perhaps not so last a job to do. I am not, of course, saying that we should breed the vices; I am only saying that we should leave to life what it has planned for us, and believe that the vices may have a job to do in our world. Perhaps they are the very ones whom life has chosen for such mighty tasks that a gladiator would crumble under. The Tarpeian Rock is never the answer. Life knows, better than the Spartans, who to keep for its purposes and who to discard.
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A liar always talks fast, mincing and babbling. He is very careful to embellish the incidental detail of a lie with every shade of truthfulness. He meticulously describes the clothing of the person he has not met but lies that he has just seen him. He lies desperately, like a good student who blows his homework.
A liar has no real imagination; he lies most of the time without a purpose; he does not know that the simplest reality is more interesting than anything he can conjure up.
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Be careful not to miss the moment, which is only your moment, the time appointed for the execution of your work. Convenience, idleness, cowardice, and laziness, sometimes delay the execution of your task, even though you know in your heart that time is full of what it wants to say through you, and you cannot miss a moment because someone else is saying it for you, and not in the way you think is good and true. In science, art, literature, in public life, there are such urgent moments when truth is ripe and needs to be spoken. And if you feel that you have been fated to be the one to do it, do not delay, like the bad actor who misses the cue.
Thou hast not only the work but also the time. And within time there is your moment, which must not be missed.
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If I look into my heart and examine well all that I have experienced in my association with men, I must say that all human association is hopeless and that the man who wants to live rightly and to do the personal work to which he, and he alone, has been assigned by destiny, acts wisely when he lives entirely alone. All tender human feeling is in practice transformed into selfishness; it is wiser to remain alone, even if it is sometimes very painful and difficult. There is no woman, no friend, no human relationship that will not humiliate you in time. Stay polite and lonely, because people are hopeless.
You cannot, of course, advise a shoemaker or a good financier, and the vast majority of people in general, to live alone; the great majority of people are meant to live in community, with family and friends, and to reproduce until the end of time. It is the law and it is right. But for the creative man, the real task of his life is not the cultivation of family or friends, but his work, for which he needs a perfectly pure atmosphere. Where people breathe, the air becomes turbid, stifled and impure. Therefore be alone when you are busy, in your work and your life.
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But as long as you think there's a heart beating somewhere that beats for you, forgive people. A human heart that feels unselfishly toward you is enough to forgive all those whose selfish and wicked hearts you have known; enough to forgive all men. It does not take much to be forgiven in the midst of this hopelessness. One man is enough. Nor is it true that you have not met this man. You were just nervous, or impatient and greedy, and went away. Because you are human, and because that is the human heart.
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Few concepts have been circulated as boldly and as inconsistently in my time as the notion of a "sense of community". There are people who, one may rightly assume, have never given twenty pennies to a beggar, who, with the slogan of a sense of community on their lips, have stood up for the happiness of mankind, have recited from the barrels and the podiums of popular gatherings. This was the slogan of the front pages of newspapers of eminent public writers whose work in the cause of the community principle did indeed result in something: a fine house or estate, acquired at the price of their work in promoting the community spirit. The only people who did not talk about a sense of community were those who gave their work, their strength, and their lives to the community all the time: the silent people. It seems that the people, the community, have no sense of community. They just live, for each other and the whole, without a slogan.
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To the extent that people have given up their individual sense of self in servile humility, their professional sense of self has increased. In my time, the vast majority of people tolerated without a murmur the systematic deprivation by the State, the Office, and the Institution, of the God-ordained privileges of their individuality. Did they tolerate the soulless, vicious, and rigid order of a civilization telling them how to live, dress, entertain, and enjoy themselves, indeed, in this age, even telling them how and when to walk the streets. They were forbidden to think and speak on command. They were forbidden to have an artificially inflated power interest, called Party, Office or Principle, interfere in every aspect of their private lives, to shape and mould their character and thought. All this was tolerated without a word, without contradiction. The individual could be trained by all; he obeyed in silence. But this same tamed, domesticated man, deprived of all human prerogatives of individuality, would thunder if anyone dared to criticise the profession to which he belonged. You could say what you liked about the coppersmith, and he would bear it with taciturnity and blinking patience; but if you dared to speak of the Coppersmith's Trade, all the coppersmiths of the world would immediately start shouting and protesting. It was the same with clerks, writers, doctors. A dentist silently tolerated being called stupid in private, but immediately appealed to the World Dental Association if anyone dared to prove publicly that dentists were not the most perfect, blameless people on earth. The individual pocketed everything, the profession gnashed its teeth. I experienced this too.
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Make sure that the idea never carries you away and doesn't force you to create prematurely. Because an idea is nothing. Even a dog has ideas. Every dilettante notes is full of the finest literary, social, political ideas. The "good idea" flashes because you have read, heard or experienced something, because some worldly fairy has touched the surface of your soul - and you are already sharpening your pencil and turning the idea into a work, swelling it into a creation, which is nothing more than an idea! Beware, for this temptation is common in the life of the creative man. It is not only the works that need to be put to rest for years; the ideas too. If the idea doesn't turn into an experience, throw it away, no matter how clever, tempting and appealing. The experience writes itself; you write the idea. And that's not right.
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Love can be given and love can be received. There is only one thing you cannot do: extort love. And most of the time, the poor and unfortunate who are hungry for love don't know this.
It is obvious that one either loves or one is loved: this alternating current has been organized by nature with unrelenting consistency. The most perfect and fortunate form of harmony is when one tolerates being loved by the other without any particular rebellion. Nature is, after all, merciful: it is true that it never allows us to be loved by the one we hope to be loved by, but it does allow us to love without limit even the one who does not love us. But it does not give us a way to do one thing: to extort love from others by begging, accusing, attacking, or pleading. Even tenderness and passion can be extorted, but love is sovereign.
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You're about to do a great deed. You have decided to say what you have come to know. You want to shout out the secret, innermost conviction of your life. You're going to stand up in front of people and make a decision - you're going to speak the truth, finally. You take the fight, you throw away your scorn, your house, your home. Yes, you are determined to stand up in front of the world, with all the consequences, and speak the truth. All this is very beautiful. That's man's job on earth, that's his real job. Just remember one thing: the world is also a terrible distorting mirror. It's like those curved mirrors in the panopticon that show the tall man as a dwarf and the fat man as a starving man. You cannot expect that there will be a single person in the world who will understand your words, and your actions, understand and explain them exactly as you have conceived them. Only you always know what you really meant; the world always understands and sees only what your intentions are perceived and reflected by the mysterious distorting mirror of human reason. Therefore, never cry, "They did not understand! How wicked they are!" Always say only this, "I will such and such, but the world has understood so and so." Because this is the truth.
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When the century was young, I was young; and because we were young, of course, we were both revolutionaries. Then time passed, and the century, and its children, entered manhood; and they wanted to grow old wisely. I wished to put on slippers or a saloon coat; I wished to throw away all the slogans of the revolution, because time had ripened them in my heart and in my mind, and I knew that liberty, equality, and fraternity were not as perfect ideals in practice as I had believed when I was young and a revolutionary. I already wanted to talk about the fact that it is more difficult to preserve than to throw away the old and create a new one from the pots; I already wanted to reconcile with the people, to build order, to bring in all the flags. But time has not allowed me to do that. And I had to know that I must remain hopelessly revolutionary, because the generation that follows me is, mysteriously, not revolutionary at all; I have no one to whom, in the order of nature and human affairs, I can hand over the flag; I must remain a protester and a blockade-maker, because I live in an age whose young people willingly assume all the limitations that the century and I, when we were young, did not assume.
Toothlessly and with a greying hair, I am forced to remain a revolutionary who stubbornly repeats the promises of freedom of thought, equality and fraternity, in which he perhaps no longer believes so absolutely. I must remain a sans-culotte* even in my old age when it would have been so nice to have worn a saloon coat for once!
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When you go away, don't try to turn your hotel room into a home. Some people are desperate to take the things they want and need back home with them on their travels, and would prefer to take a canary, a rocking chair and family photos with them, so that they don't have to go to a foreign host's room without the artefacts of home. These people are fussy and childish, forever longing for the nanny and the cradle. The seasoned traveller hopes for a temporary, raw experience of freedom, a kind of rugged unpredictability, a surprise of reality, and does not want to make a hotel room a home, a warm feathered resting place. And a man who knows his heart, the world and the nature of human things, lives in his home as in an inn, and does not clutter the room where his passing life passes with unnecessary, sentimental or vain junk. Such a man also lives in his home as in an inn; for what is there to live for? A bed, a table, a chair. And you are a traveller, a wanderer, even in your tenement. Always think of this when you lay down at home or in a stranger's bed: in the morning you must move, the Landlord may give notice. That's why you don't need - ever, anywhere - a canary or a rocking chair.
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Stay away from laxatives. And if you're forced to live with them because of a pounding headache or acute indigestion, settle - rarely - for a glass of warm bitter water. There is some violent intent in all these preparations to interfere artificially with nature's order of life. Behind intestinal constipation there is mostly stinginess, some kind of spasmodic greed, feverish ambition; then there is the dull way of life behind it; behind intestinal consipation is the stinginess of life and of a man, completely and utterly. If you are constipated, why hope that your digestion will be agile? Behind every complaint lies the character of the whole man. Be at peace with your character, and you will be at peace with your digestion.
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I can never understand why the most beautiful memory of my life is the moment - I must have been ten years old - when I entered my mother's dark, empty bedroom one winter afternoon and, standing in the doorway, I saw the bluish reflection of the snow glowing across from the rooftops of the houses on the opposite side of the street, on the polished furniture and the stove tiles by the window. I cannot forget the magic of this moment. The blue glow of the snow in the dark room was a real shock, but at the same time it filled me with a feeling of happiness that I had never experienced before or since. I had never known this total enchantment of the mystery, the fairy tale, the dreamlike, the otherworldly, the enchanted, until then, and I never later found it in my life, never, nowhere. What happened then in my heart, in my nerves, or in the world? I cannot explain it. The miraculous cannot be explained. And a memory like that is eternal in a soul, as fabulous and bluish as the snow on the rooftops opposite my mother's bedroom.
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Barbarian rule is always followed by Byzantine rule. A kind of human, historical, law of the peculiar order of human nature dictates that the transition from crude invasion and conquest, from confusion to an over-refined, corrupt and contrived order, full of servile ceremonies, poison, murder and smooth talk, double-tilted, stuffy politeness and bowing cruelty. Such is man: sometimes barbarian, sometimes Byzantine. And sometimes, at very rare periods, under the educated rule of an extraordinary personality, who can reconcile the rigour of perfect law with the unwritten laws of equity, he is tamed into humanity; but these are rare and fleeting periods.
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People, of course, always want the writer, the explainer, the explicator, to speak in their interests. The writer cannot fulfil this wish, because human interests are inextricably and contradictory: the writer can only ever express the truth, or at least that is his intention. But, at the same time, when people eagerly and impatiently demand that the writer should speak for and on their behalf of whatever is in their interest, they also expect him to be unrivalled and uninterested. Therefore you must know that you can never please them: if you serve their interests, you will lose yourself, if you are impartial, you will lose the favour of the people, if you tell the truth, they will not examine and criticise what you have said, but will discover shortcomings in your work, will object that you did not say this or that, and will question why you did not say it?
No one asks a milliner to make shoes, no one asks a cobbler to make a hat: but everyone asks a writer to do everything, with equal fervour and impatience. Therefore, never listen to anyone but your soul and the Angel.
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Because when you speak the truth - the simplest truth - you must know that immediately flames ignite around you: flames of passion, of accountability, of resentment. He who speaks the truth walks through a sea of fire, and he is right to put on a kind of asbestos garment, otherwise he will be instantly consumed by flames. This asbestos dress can never be anything other than an impassive and unquestioning calm, an inexorable calm of commandment and service: you can do nothing else, you must act as you are, even if you are burned. The writer is always slightly burned at the stake. Sometimes he is roasted with a slow fire, sometimes with a fiery flame. And like the fakirs who, in their obsessive faith and cold trance, walk barefoot, unwounded, unfeeling, through the fire-pit, the writer is protected from third-degree burns by nothing but his faith and obsession, which is quite cold, unrelenting and unforgiving, both to himself and to others. Put on this asbestos suit, speak the truth, walk through the flames.
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You don't believe in miracles, do you deny it? Look, I can't convince you, because the main characteristic of a miracle is that it is miraculous - it cannot be proven as a physiological fact, it cannot be photographed, nor can it be predicted and calculated in advance according to the laws of quantity. Nor is it always easy to perceive the manifestations of a miracle: it does not always walk on two legs, it cannot be photographed, it has no land registry or birth certificate. Sometimes it is only much later that we understand what the miracle was, how it intervened in our lives, and what was supernatural and wonderful about this intervention. I cannot show or prove the essence of the miracle. But think, perhaps, how incomprehensible and wonderful is in reality all that you feel to be everyday and natural: how miraculous the very fact of existence is! To be born, to live, and one day to die! Does all this feel "natural" to you? Then you are blind and deaf. Reality itself is a miracle, incomprehensible, and supernatural with all its natural props and materials! Why should a miracle be more meaningless than this improbably complicated reality? The universal spirit is the miracle that manifests itself in everything. This is why I am a believer: because the spirit of the world is manifested in me, in my daily life, in my sad and fallible fate.
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Every time you become less confident in your work - and how often you are tempted by the torturous feeling of fatigue, boredom, aimlessness! the self-accusation that this too is just vanity, the vague desire that it would be better to leave everything, to do only the most necessary, self-sustaining actions, to read and live, to live and pass away without a sign and without a trace! – you should know that this is the most serious temptation that life offers you. In such cases, one must remain strong, like true heroes, when faced with an impossible task. You should know that you have a right to everything rather than running away from the work that fate has assigned you.
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Not very long afterwards, not only are your name and your person completely and utterly forgotten by the world, not only is the memory of your work covered with the dust of oblivion, but the material of your work is also decaying, the paper and the linen binding of your books are vanishing into nothingness, the pictures you painted are no longer visible anywhere in the world, and the marble statues, your works, have been crumbled into fine dust by time. All this will most certainly happen, and only seconds will pass on the clock of time before you and all you have meant to the world will be utterly and permanently destroyed. What then can you fear in life? What is so important or dangerous or regrettable that you should shrink from the truth? I do not understand you.
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Think always and ever that the people who approach you are both guilty and innocent, and that the same law is at work in their hearts as in yours and in the minds of the universe, and that they are as mortal as you are. Human wickedness and human goodness are alike a current and a part of the world's rhythm of life. I can no longer look upon the greatest evil-doer - nor the one who makes an attempt on my life - as any other than an instrument of the great unity of life. He attacks my life, but he is also a victim - what is there to hate about him?
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In life and at work, be careful not to be tempted by the trivial, the casual, the convenient. There's always a chance that will relieve the tension of the effort required, offer a side trip, a cheaper option. Talk about the essential, write the essential, act the essential. It is always harder, it takes more life force - and yet, when you resolve to give the situation or the work your essential effort, you find that it was the simplest, yes, the only possible solution, the perfect one. The incidental, the half-solution, the cliché, the evasion, the evasion, the evasive artifice, ultimately requires more and meaner effort than the essential, the simple, the perfect. When you take the middle road, you waste. The essential is always cheaper, more useful, more effective. Live economically, create frugally, spend your energy on nothing but the essential.
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You don't have to be a fakir and live according to the laws of yoga, a yogic and forced practice: but I think it is right to stand at the open window at dawn, after waking up, and breathe deeply through the nose a few times, filling the lungs with fresh morning air, washing and clearing the lungs of the impure vapours of tobacco smoke, of the room air. Something must be given to the lungs. The body is very grateful, eager to acknowledge the slightest attention. And I've found that honey is useful too: for your breakfast, which can't be light enough, spoon some pure honey. There's something in honey that the pure forces of nature smuggle into it; the body gratefully receives it.
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The sovereign man, who has devoted his life to the proclamation and practice of the truths which he has come to know and to accept with all consequences, is naturally always modest and courteous. Even when he proclaims the truth. The chief mark of a sovereign man is that he fears nothing but his conscience, and at the same time is not offended by anything. For he who is offended is neither courageous nor sovereign. He who fears and is offended cannot consistently, to life and death, represent a truth in the world. He who is offended, quarrels. A sovereign man never quarrels, nay, never even argues. He speaks his truth, and then stands his ground, to the last moment, and accepts all that follows from the truth and the impatient misunderstandings of the world. Everyone else just swallows. When you have rank, you must not be afraid. But it is only the untrustworthy who are offended, and those whose opinions of the world are more important than the truth.
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What is evil? It is an extremely complex phenomenon. Behind cruelty are mostly childhood traumas - but there is of course more behind it, a combination of character, physical and mental make-up, bad examples. Thousands of years of education have not been able to dissolve the tendency to cruelty in man. Animals, beasts are never cruel, with the exception of the one cat. Evil feeds on ingratitude; then on ignorance. The man who is prone to evil knows no "owes" and "demands" in the accounts of his life: he only demands. I do not believe that by kindness, forbearance, teaching, we can dissolve in such a man the impulses of wickedness and cruelty. He who is born evil - there are some - or who has been brought up by life's disappointments, experiences, cruel turns, not to patience and forgiveness, but to evil, is lost to all moral reasoning. It is best to get out of the way as much as possible. And one can also pity him, because most of the time a cruel, selfish and stupid mother or a wicked father is behind the dark background of such a person's childhood.
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Like on the bonfire, you must burn. As one who knows he is being burned for something, and cannot and will not do anything about it. It is not enough to know the truth, it is not enough to formulate it, it is not enough to say it boldly: one must also burn for it, burn, throw the very fabric of life, the very tissue of the body, into the flames that burn simultaneously from within and without. This bonfire, which in the end every man who wants the truth must stand before, is built by two: the executioner and the victim. There can be no agreement in the end. All practice, experience, caution is in vain. Nothing helps, you have to burn in the end if you want to keep something of what was the meaning of your life.
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We have to be very careful of people who have been blessed by nature with talent, but who have not been given a meaning for that talent. They are the most dangerous competitors of any profession and of human coexistence in general. For with the less gifted but intelligent man it is possible to co-operate, but with the man who is gifted but stupid for his own talent there is no agreement. The man thus blessed and beaten is ever suspicious that something will turn out; and his suspicion is justified. At last he is indeed found to be stupid, and this sad handicap reflects on his work and talent. Just as a very beautiful woman, who can smile wittily and pout enchantingly, is no longer so beautiful the moment she is revealed in conversation to be as dumb as the dark night. There is beauty without meaning and there is talent without meaning. These are perverse fairies. So many Celemen Masons: what is built by day is demolished by night. And they are extremely suspicious. A man of sense, without particular talent, can be of more use to the world than a man of talent without sense. In the end they become prophets: so I have experienced.
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Because talent is scarce. Intelligence is also in short supply. Education is not enough to be an artist. It all requires a destiny that cannot be misunderstood and cannot be altered by any human power or will. In every genre there are many talented people who, in fortunate moments, by the effort of their talent, their deepening, their seriousness, end up creating something useful, sometimes rare and beautiful. This is how world literature, or painting, or music as a whole, is put together as a work of art. But these men are not creators, only executors; for they have no destiny. And if they happen to stray into a medical or engineering career, they will still create something talented and useful. But the artist, the real one, cannot "err" into any career, and there is no historical or situational force that can divert him from his task; he can be no other than a writer or a painter or a musician. He who is thus an artist is doomed. That is the maximum.
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We must train our minds and our perceptions to see the unique, the wonderful and the visionary in the ordinary, in the everyday. For miracles are not some moment of heavenly noise, when the heavens open, horns blare, mists float, graves open, and the word of God is heard in the confusion: no, most miracles are quite silent. It passes from one room to another, and you see something: the expression of a man's face; the disposition of an object; and at once the true meaning of that object and its relation to the world is revealed to you; you hear a man's voice as never before, and beyond the indifferent words you understand the secret of that man; that is all a miracle ever is. Not to dive into reality, into the everyday, to see what you have seen so often: this faculty fades in most people, just as the ability to operate certain senses, such as smell, fades in civilised man. See, smell the miracle, right where it is. It is always nearby. Most of the time it is so close, so within your reach, that you will never think of reaching out for it for the rest of your life.
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Don't count on anyone. You're not even loyal to your job anymore, if you're counting on someone. You no longer even do your job to the full, unconditionally, to the death, which your fate has entrusted you with, if you accept someone's help. There is no one to help you. No one can protect works, people, nations, at the last moment, no one can help, only the work, and the man, the nation itself. The same force that creates a work of art, builds a life, is the only force that can protect you. Therefore, it is best to remain alone. He who is truly, resolutely lonely, who does not cry in his soul for this loneliness, only he is strong. One must not be sentimental or hopeful. In the end you must die, know this. So what are you afraid of? What can you hope for? If you're faithful to your work, death can't do anything against you until you've finished your work. Know this, and be bravely alone.
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I've noticed that it's hard to even light a fire. To light a fire in an tiled stove with ignition kindling, newspaper and dry wood shavings, which will keep alight in the cold stove, requires skill and practice. You think it's some simple and menial task that every dirty servant can do. But try it, you, with your wise and practised hands, and you will see what a difficult and delicate task it is, and how much experience and skill it requires! I can't light a tiled stove, no matter how hard I try. And how many things I can't do: for instance, play the piano, only as well and as well as a sad music clerk in a nightclub; and yet how openly and proudly I dare to talk about music! And I cannot drive a locomotive. And I cannot repair a detached button. But all this little knowledge makes up the world. Learn to respect every human movement and dexterity.
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Avoid them as much as possible. Because they are worse than traitors. For there is indeed no excuse for the traitor: a rope for him. But he who, with a cautious self-preservation, loiters about you and the common cause, and has neither courage nor morality to remain alone, nor to bear the consequences of action, treachery, or revenge: these are indeed the most vile. The traitor at least acts: he betrays. His action has consequences, which are borne by both the traitor and the victim. Betrayal is a vile act, but it is an act. But the cautious, who with plain countenance are there for the common cause, and are not brave enough to retire into utter solitude, the doer, the heroic, but not brave enough either to defend or to betray the cause under whose slogan they prowl among men, these, whom every man feels to be on his own side, and in reality are never men or heroes enough to show themselves with all consequences: they who are cowards to treachery, weak to revenge, and powerless to solitude, are the most dangerous. You may despise the traitor. But do not despise such a man, nor pursue him; look over him as through the air.
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Two billion and a few hundred million people live on earth, so they say. So know this: there are two billion and a few hundred million chances that your word, your action, will be misunderstood. The number of people on earth is the number of chances and possibilities of misunderstanding. That is the great and the fearful thing about human life, that is the fatal thing about every human manifestation and every human enterprise. You say "white" or "black." But there are whites and blacks in the world, right? And black is different in the eyes of a white man than in the eyes of a black man. And infinitely differently reflected in every human soul in the world. Every word spoken, every word written, has a different ring in the souls of two billion and a few hundred million people. You must know this too, and never be surprised at the echo with which one man responds to another man's word. Human life is an eternal cycle of endless misunderstandings. The sum total of these misunderstandings is the colourful, complex, fearful and magnificent miracle that goes by the collective name of man.
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Life - sometimes it feels that way - is almost unbearable. You are living in a moment of turning of fate and turning of the ages, when everything is shaking and changing, traditions, moral laws, known ways of life. It's as if you no longer live in houses, but in the jungle of life, where the sky is always roaring and the storm raging. And you hope for change. You trust that one day all the tempers in hearts will burn to ashes, the soot and bitter smoke that spreads in hearts will dissipate. Sunlight will once again fall on the human landscape. The sea will be blue and the fruit of the trees fragrant. Change brings peace.
Change will come naturally, when the time is right: emotions will be put to rest. But one thing will not change: human nature. No morality, no reasoning, no miracle can truly and profoundly change human nature. Those who bring and live the change will be human again, and therefore unjust, impatient, cruel, greedy and lustful. Modification, change in all things human, will come, but man will not change. All attempts at education have failed so far. Sometimes, a very strong character and individuality, for a short time, forty to fifty years of life, can validate the moral claims of the great human educators in practice. These brief periods are sporadic and rare in the history of the human race. It is the best that man can do. But it is a very rare phenomenon. Man remains what he was. Human matter is hopeless, fire and lye cannot change it.
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Of course, you should always walk alone, at least one, but preferably one and a half, if possible two hours a day. Walking expresses the most human rhythm of life. A person who walks does not want to get anywhere, because if he sets out with a purpose and a destination, he is no longer walking, he is just moving. The walker has, at every moment, arrived at the destination of the walk, which is never a house or a tree trunk or a beautiful view, but this very airy and direct contact with the world. A person who slowly merges with the landscape, becomes part of a forest or a field, surrenders himself rhythmically to the eternal reality, the timeless worldly space, among the great scenery of nature, feels at every moment that he has returned home while walking. The walk is total solitude. In a room, you are surrounded by books and objects that remind you of the tasks and duties of your life, of your work or vocation. The one who walks is freed from his work, alone with the world, surrendering his soul and body to the primordial elements. Think of walking on the earth and walking under the stars. It is a great thing.
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It's a good idea to know exactly which Sign you were born in. Because there is no doubt that you were born under the stars, so you have a connection to them.
But you just live as one who was born on earth, and will be converted here, to earth. Only greet the stars with a glance, for you cannot know anything about them. You can only know the earth. For you have been earth and will be earth. Know the earth, get used to it.
Love the earth as your destiny, written in the Signs and the stars. Take care of it, settle into it, know it in its materiality, do not be alienated, squeamishly, from the earth. The earth is not dirty. It is as you are: matter with power. The Signs and the stars, that is the secret. No doubt you live among secrets. But more certain, you'll die one day and become earth.
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Epictetus recommends that we should avoid going to the theatre altogether. But if we do go, let's be modest and quiet. There are children seating in the theatre. Children, even babies. The iron curtain rises, the spotlight flashes on the red velvet, and in the auditorium at that moment there are a thousand babies with their mouths agape, waiting for a miracle. These babies, just a few minutes before, were in their private lives serious doctors, intelligent lawyers, hard-working and educated teachers, responsible, thoughtful adults. But the moment they sit down in the auditorium of a theatre, and the red velvet of the curtains flashes with the glow of the spotlight, this theatre crowd is a tiny, gap-mouthed crowd in a gigantic nursery. A thousand babies waiting for their pacifier. And when they get the pacifier - sweet or bitter, it doesn't matter - they sit happily and contentedly, silently. But if they don't get the pacifier for five minutes, they start to growl, cough, yawn, fuss, and sometimes protest in a haughty way. What is this pacifier? The tension. So don't be too proud in the theatre if you like something. Say this: "I was a good kid, I got a pacifier."
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When you are talking softly to a woman, or bargaining with the powerful, or arguing with the chattering fool, know that death is behind you, listening over your shoulder. His bone face is alert and grinning. For whatever words you use to argue your point, Death knows that in your argument he has the last word. Always remember this when you promise, bargain or argue.
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Not even a person of creative spirit and talent has the right to steal some of the time necessary for self-cultivation for creation. It is not so important to write every day; it is more important to read every day. You should always have time to cultivate, every day. Because you may not be of use to your country and to humanity when you create; you need divine grace to do so. But it is certain that you are useful to yourself, to your country and to mankind, if you give time every day to the cultivation of your soul, if you read a passage from a work of exceptional creative minds, if you know a truth or a precise knowledge. It is not important to have many writers in a community, but it is important to have many readers. It's not important that you articulate what is beautiful and true; it's more important that you get to know it.
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You have to be very careful of people who are right. For example, they have been struck by great injustice, by a great perfidy: they have robbed the fruits of their labour, their liberty, killed their beloved, and all this has been done unjustly by greedy or mean or cruel men. These men are right, and they walk in the world like a flaming torch, carrying around a red-hot fire of darkness, their undoubted righteousness. And they want compensation, or do they want revenge, and sometimes they themselves don't know exactly. What they want? - if only something should happen... These wretches are very dangerous because they are right; all men are dangerous who are right and knows it.
In practice, coexistence can only be achieved with people who are guilty, people who have put the wrong wood on the fire in one way or another, and they know it. These are the people with whom societies can be run. The offended, and those who are necessarily right, are worse than the people with a single book. Because they have only one truth, and they want the whole world to serve that one truth, the truth of their undeserved suffering. They cannot be approached with intellectual and emotional arguments at all. They must wait until time has sucked the first poison of pain from their souls. Then they will calm down. And one day they will realise that they, the unjustly persecuted and tortured, are responsible for what happened. Everyone is responsible for what happens to them. Then comfort them; not before.
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After all, you need to know what you were doing on the earth. In no way is it to keep a certain amount, texture and quality of bone, meat, fat and viscera in a chemical plant. Neither is it to collect titles, ranks, be president of some society, walk around in fancy clothes and ring the bell. Neither is it - and this hurts more - to be happy, because there is no happiness, because all your desires are distorted at the moment of realization, and are more of a nuisance than a joy. That is man. No, your only business, the only meaning of your existence on earth, is to know the true nature of human and worldly things, the interconnection of human and worldly phenomena, and to behave justly even when your fellow men behave unjustly. That was your business on earth; nothing more.
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Youth must be bid farewell in good spirits. Therefore, not with emotion or sentimentality, like the weak, the whiny and the ignorant, who, with bowed heads and teary eyes, stare after the departing youth, bid farewell and moan in a voice trembling with self-pitying sentimentality: 'Vale, Youth!... Farewell, happy Youth." This is no way to bid farewell to youth. One must bid farewell to youth with joyful, full-lunged, roaring laughter, as one who is rid of an unreliable companion. It should be said, "Go away, Youth. I watch your departure without pity. It was not so good to be young. It was confusion, fog, longing, disorientation, false notions, even more false concepts, desire and fear of falling behind in the great race. And when we held someone in our arms, how many misunderstandings! And the fear of missing the Other, who is truer! And how different the fame we craved when we were young, How more suspicious and more illusive when it came! And the worldly goods, when they came into our lives, how suspiciously clinging to the filth of human envy! Nay, youth may be parted without regret. It was a state of fever, a touching and tender ecstasy. Now, when you are gone, Youth, I turn with joy to the other landscape. I am me now, from top to bottom. Not good, not wise, not quite fair: but I now suspect something of what is true. My eyes are not so good; but my understanding is sharper. There shall be no disappointments, but surprises." Put it this way: "Thank God, youth is ended."
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Every time we encounter injustice or cruelty in life - a child is tortured, an animal is abused, a human being is humiliated or denied what is rightfully his by divine and human law - we are always haunted by the question: is it your right and duty to intervene, to intervene, to take on the ungrateful role of an unwelcome praetor in the turmoil of alien fates? Or go away, with a guilty conscience, but unharmed? Know that you have the right to interfere in the affairs of strangers and the world only so long as you, personally, without the interference of foreign men or authorities, can actually help where you see injustice, unfairness or cruelty. For he who, with justifiable indignation, passes on help to others, "calls" the attention of authority or philanthropists to what he has seen, is already making a "cause" out of human misery, is already taking a part between suffering and help, is already deceiving himself and the world. Be alone with human suffering and try to help to the best of your ability. If you can wipe the tears from a child's face, if you can relieve a sick horse, if you can give money that is yours, or clothes to a ragged man, or advice and action to help something, personally - then, only then, you have the right to intervene. But anyone who calls the police in such situations, or writes letters to the newspapers, or takes up collections for the needy, in short, makes a role out of the misery of others for themselves, is suspect. Your pain and misery are personal, and you can only help in person. Everything else is vanity.
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Worldly dignity is gold smoke and gambling coins; but human dignity is reality, gold. Why play for counterfeit money, when God has filled your pockets with gold?
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Whoever you face, know that he is only human, with only one claim to greatness: justice. No matter what he says, what he knows, what is his rank. He has no right to be called a man unless he conquers in himself vanity, lust, pride, and greed, and speaks the truth in your cause and in the cause of the world you are about to speak of. All else may be pleasing or attractive, but you must not be intimidated or tempted.
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Accepting that a human can't help. There is no woman and there is no friend. To accept that maybe you don't need help: this despair, this hopelessness, these momentary solutions, this eternal insolubility of all that is human, is the very condition for remaining human and expressing yourself in the world in a human way.
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Things are not just in themselves: they have a perspective. Therefore, never say of a phenomenon: "such or so" - only say: "from this and this perspective it looks like this."
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People like to be rude and hateful as soon as they get the chance; and most of the time they are indeed as peculiarly cruel as children. But you remain humble, and at the same time keep your dignity. For you can only keep both at the same time. Your dignity will be a distorted conduct, if it is not backed by the consciousness of the humility of your fallible being; your humble conduct will be the expression of the cowardice of a sissy, if it is not backed by a sense of your human dignity. If you must live among men - and you are neither tapir nor vulture, so where else can you live? -you must rule and obey at the same time, always with dignity and modesty, always with seriousness and readiness, always with humility and dignity. Otherwise you are but a boastful freebooter, a pitiful and cowardly slave. But Epictetus was indeed a slave: yet he bore this fate with humility and ruled over men.
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Does it surprise you that meanness springs out of a man like poison from a toad? But think what kind of man is this? How deformed, how powerless, how hateful and envious is his strength? Wipe away the spittle that is splashed upon thy face, and do not trample the toad, for thou shalt soil thy shoes with blood and pus.
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Outwardly worn, conspicuously displayed and evidenced religiosity always masks a deep and cowardly greed and sexual hunger.
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The greatest tragic temptation of manhood is not woman, but vanity. You want rank, position among men, titles or medals, everything that glitters, that you can hang on your chest in dangling banners, that you can print on your business card in empty and sonorous words. You want an armchair when others are barefoot on the highways and city streets. You want dignity when life for the masses of people is so miserably bleak that most of them lose their dignity. This is the difficult hour in a man's life. Most men fall at this hour. Only those remain men and human beings who can bow down to human misery, who can content themselves with the only rank that man can bear: the rank of work-consciousness and helpfulness, of patient fairness, and reject all that the world can give them in worthless recognition. Think, then, what vile men wear the highest titles and ranks! They flaunt their medals! Stay, untitled and unadorned, man. And then you will indeed have some rank among men. Otherwise, you will be only a dignified or a gracious lord - are you so humble? I thought you would desire more.
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There are two ways of sinning against the body: by debauchery or by cowardly, vain and offended asceticism. It can bear neither, and responds defiantly and fatally to both insults. The flesh can only stand honesty.
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Do you think you have built a house and can look out at the world from the proud towers of your career? Don't you know that you'll always be a wanderer, and that everything you do is the movement of a wanderer on the road? Forever you move between cities, destinations, ages and changes, and if you rest, you rest no more surely nor permanently than the wanderer who rests in the shade of the roadside apple tree for half an hour on the way. Know this when you make plans. The purpose of your journey is not the destination, but the wandering. You live not in situations, but on the road.
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For the work that is yours alone, from which you have no escape, no right, which is your destiny: you need not only skill, ability, knowledge, experience, no. For work you need not only suggestion and grace. And it needs not only the diligence of a beast of burden. All is needed, and all is not enough.
It takes divine virtue to work. This virtue is patience. Not to abandon the work. Not to grow fat. Not to run away from it. To bear it patiently, like a mysterious disease, to live with it day by day, for years, for a lifetime, like a prisoner with a jailor, like a sick man with the affliction God has laid on him.
Patience is not man's virtue. If he does undertake and practice it, then, only then, does he sometimes resemble God.
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All the world can want from you is a bargain and a half-solution. What matters is what you have contracted with yourself and your character. There is no bargain in this contract.
Life takes from a character a more cruel interest than a usurer. You have to pay for everything, for independence, for pleasure, for physical health, but most of all you have to pay for the contract you have made with your character and your work. You can never say to this slave-owner, 'My head hurts.'" Or, "I'm in the mood for something else." It is easier for the slave rowing in a galley than for the one who has contracted his character to work.
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Sometimes you feel like you're going to die the next moment. You don't necessarily need to call a doctor. Learn not to be afraid and not to hope. Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a mortal, no, death is not "bad" at all: death is nothing. Let us die, if we have to, in a humane way, that is, with dignity and without haste and without fuss.
But let us also live, as long as we can, in a human way, that is to say, attentively, seeking the meaning of phenomena and events, examining their true nature. What can you say to a doctor when you call him at a dangerous moment and he asks you the reason for your illness? Your mind works, so you should know everything that concerns your body. And when you look at yourself in this way, you are suddenly struck by how complicated reality is: every human thing has an infinite number of causes, every aspect that connects us to the universe is the cause of something that will happen at some point in our lives or in our organism, and the main "cause" is myself, the fact of existence. This is the "cause" behind all the phenomena of life. This "cause" can be arbitrarily eliminated, but it cannot be completely dismantled, explained or understood.
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Love, proclaim and confess the truth, the small and great truths, the truths of the ordinary days and the fateful moments, always, courageously and without fear. But it doesn't hurt to smile quietly at the same time: at yourself, at the truth.
For truth is constant and unchanging, like the great laws of nature. But you, the man who believes and confesses the truth, are neither constant nor unchanging. Even the weather can change your intentions, even a snowfall can divert you from the path set by divine command, even a woman can affect you: such is your changeableness. What can you hope for yourself?... Proclaim the truth, but it doesn't hurt to smile sometimes.
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It's also amazing how sensitive people are. Like a rose. Like a rock jasmine. They listen so fatefully to every word that might offend their vanity, like no one and nothing in the world of the living. A single utterance can wound a man to death, yea, your very silence, when he expects you to praise or approve him: it turns a man into your enemy for ever. And these same people, who sense everything about themselves with such a fearfully delicate ear, who can sense the intimacy of a handshake or the tone of a telephone conversation, the flash of opinion or truth that flashes towards them, these same people, more gentle and sensitive than a mimosa, follow the most vile vices with a carefree attitude, cruel without blinking, indifferent and sometimes cheerful. This resilience of the human soul is not worth criticising; it is just something to be aware of. And not to be surprised at anything, ever.
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People are usually offended if we are too polite to them. I'm talking about people in Europe and America. Only the Chinese can endure the unconditional, the unmitigated, the fatal politeness that has already permeated the whole fabric of their bodies and souls, one with life, even for the gut-washers and the princes. This courtesy, which is clear in the way of life of the people, is the supreme manifestation of human coexistence. But our politeness is entirely superficial. To the Frenchman, only his literature and his declaration of war are polite: his dining-room, his shop and his salon are not. It is not enough to say "pardon" when you step on someone's foot. You have to feel 'pardon' - and that is much harder. Our age is one of the most impolite ages of mankind. The executioner of the Middle Ages would kneel before the victim and apologise for having to cut off his neck: and Marie Antoinette would say to Sanson on the scaffold: 'Pardon'. But now neither the executioner nor the victim apologise to each other. This is sad. And if one is perfectly polite nowadays, one's contemporaries perceive this attitude as cold, callous indifference. Today, everyone demands a 'fake confession', and politeness is perceived as evasion and betrayal. But it is not: it is simply experience. There is no other solution. When everyone is digging in each other's guts, with passionate love or mad hatred: you remain polite.
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And the formalities must be adhered to until the last minute. During meals, during conversation. In bed and at the table. And when human coexistence becomes more and more formless: you remain faithful to the established, ultimate and crystalline forms of greeting, bowing, shaking hands, expressing feelings, forming opinions. In an age when everyone demands that you wear a formal dress, you must wear a jacket consistently, and in the evening, if you are invited to company, you must wear black. Not for the dress, but for the form.
Literacy is not saved only by books. Literacy is saved by the little reflexes of common days. When an age comes at you with raised fists, you say hello back, calmly and politely, by raising your hat.
You can't do anything else.
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No matter who speaks for your homeland. No matter what those who think they are entitled to speak for the homeland say. You listen to your homeland. Always give everything to your fatherland. The world makes no sense to you without your fatherland. Don't expect good from your homeland, and don't complain if you're hurt in the name of your homeland. All this is meaningless. Don't expect anything from your fatherland at all. Give only what is best in your life. That is the supreme command. Villain is one who does not know this commandment.
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And never forget that you were also the son of the world. A relative of blacks and stars, of reptiles and Leonardo da Vinci, of Gulf Stream and Malay women, of earthquakes and Lao tzu. You had something to do with it all, you were made of the same stuff, you were created by the same soul, you were taken back by the same soul. That's for sure.
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With my last breath, I thank fate that I was human and that a spark of reason shone in my dim soul. I saw the earth, the sky, the seasons. I have known love, the fragments of reality, desires and disappointments. I lived on the earth and slowly brightened. One day I will die: and how wonderfully right and simple that is! Could anything else, better, greater, have happened to me? It could not. I have lived the most and the greatest, the human destiny. Nothing else or better could have happened to me.
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This book is like the old herbariums, which tried to answer questions about what to do when one's heart hurts or God has abandoned them with simple examples. It doesn't talk about ideals and heroes, but about what has to do with man. His writer wants to teach his fellow human beings through learning, by learning from the ancients, through the human heart, from the books, and through the signs from the sky. He wishes to impart elementary knowledge of the basic truths of human life. Written in 1943, Sándor Márai dedicates his work to Epictetus, his beloved Marcus Aurelius, Montaigne, and all the Stoics from whom he learned about power, cheerfulness, and a life without fear.
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Recommendation: I recommend this book to Seneca because he taught us that without morality there is no man. And to Epictetus, because he taught us the power we have. And to Marcus Aurelius, who learned from Epictetus what is in our power - and was patient. And to Montaigne, because he was cheerful and didn't care what happened to his work after death. And to the Stoics in general, who comforted me when there was no consolation on earth, and taught me not to fear death, nor slavery, nor poverty, nor sickness. And one or two men who were my friends and true men. And one or two women.
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Reader, this book wants to be honest. It is written by a man whose knowledge is modest and finite. This book wants nothing more than all the countless books that have tried to speak of man's destiny in the world in ancient times and in the recent past. It wants to tell a man how to live, eat, drink, sleep, be sick and stay healthy, love and be bored, prepare for death, and make peace with life. It is not much, because man in general, and the writer of this book in particular, knows little about anything but himself and the world. But it is enough for a human task. We cannot aspire to more in life.
This book will therefore be honest, reader, and will not talk about ideals and heroes, but only about what has to do with man. The author does not want to teach when he writes this book, but to learn. He wants to learn from the books written by the wise and the initiated before him, he wants to learn from the life of men as far as he has been able to observe and understand it, he wants to learn from the signs of life, that is, from the letter, from the human heart, from the herbs and from the signs of the heavens all at once. Because all these together shape human destiny. It is not a book of science, just the kind they teach in elementary school. Whoever wrote it does not know the absolute truth and is often wrong in the details. Because he is human. Yet he seeks the absolute truth and is not sorry when he is wrong in the details. Because he is human. So this book will be like the old herbariums, which tried to answer questions about what to do when one's heart hurts or God has forsaken one with simple examples.
And he who knows better must speak better.
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The value of life can only be given by the service we give to the cause of the people. This may sound a bit harsh and general, but it is the only truth I have come to know with all its consequences. No one can sit in the flower field, like Ferdinand the bull, and smell the beautiful flowers with impunity. You are a man, therefore you must live like a man and among men.
You live like a man if you live justly. If at the bottom of all your actions and words is the intention: not to harm people. If you try - without ostentation or vanity - to help people. Sometimes just by not being silent about simple truths. Sometimes just by not telling what others lie about. Sometimes just by not saying yes when everyone is shouting, "Yes, yes!" A lifetime of consistently not agreeing with what people lie about is greater heroism than occasionally protesting it loudly and banging your chest.
On your deathbed, you will rest easy only if you have served the truth every day, with all your consciousness. Sometimes justice is very simple and petty. But you do not be picky. That is the value of life.
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Every sage whose thought I have ever known has taught me that we should live and write as if every action we take in life is our last as if every sentence we write is followed by death. Only the awareness of death without emotion, without fear, without unwise cowardice, gives our life and our writing a true attitude. We must live and write in a fatal way, that is, calmly, very attentively, with equal attention to the world and to ourselves, to our intellect and our passions, to the intentions of men and to our relations with the universe. This is the only conduct worthy of man: God requires no more of us. And there is no greater sin and vainer temptation than to want more or less than God requires of us.
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The most interesting phenomenon we can encounter in human life is human character. Nothing is so interesting, so surprising, so unpredictable as the process by which a man betrays his character traits. Whatever the world has to offer: landscapes and natural wonders, the immense variety of the earth's flora and fauna, nothing is as unique as the character of a person. When our interest in the things of the world leads us to a knowledge of human character, we feel at once that this has been our real task in life. Everything else we have come to know has only enriched our knowledge. But our souls are only enriched by the knowledge of character. For this is the most direct human experience, yes, the character is man himself.
And because character is man, it is useless to try to conceal it: character can no more be concealed by man than his physical being can be concealed by any veil of mist. We may wear false beards and disguises from time to time in life, but in a moment all the disguises will fall away and reality will be revealed. A gesture, a word, an action can finally reveal our true character: the masquerade ball can only be a casual affair. And the encounter with the true qualities of a character is the greatest human experience we can have.
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The real experience for man is first and foremost this: to know himself. To know the world is interesting, useful, delightful, frightening or instructive; to know oneself is the greatest journey, the most frightening discovery, the most instructive encounter. To go to Rome or the North Pole is not as interesting as to learn something real about our character, that is, about the true nature of our inclinations, our relationship to the world, to good and evil, to people, to passions. When my intellect was mature enough to do that, that was the only experience I was looking for in life.
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In parallel with knowing our spirit, we must also know the nature of our body. But only as the nature of a bad and unfaithful servant. Our spirit is master, our intellect commands; the body is but a servant. It must be treated, too, intelligently and fairly, impartially and rigorously, as a servant who is at all times prone to disloyalty, to flight and rebellion.
We must know his nature, and his inclinations, and, as far as possible, reconcile him to the world, to the possibilities, to the ebb and flow of the eternal rhythm of life. He is a servant and quite childlike. The inclinations of our minds are as primitive as the demands of a small child. The body wants everything, every pleasure, every satisfaction, and it wants it constantly. It must be treated with severity at such times. But the stuff of which it is made is akin to earth, water, and the stars: there is something eternal in the body, yet at the same time it is ridiculously perishable and fleeting. In the very short time that this servant is at our disposal, we must know his nature and quality, his secret needs, and with benevolence and experience give him all that he may need to do his work and not disturb our character and reason. But the character must not tolerate any slave rebellion.
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I mean: we have to maintain our authority over our emotions. Only with great care, fairness and experience can we remain masters of our senses. He who is violent with himself will fail. It's a wild herd, a herd of senses. They fight man with every weapon, like catch-as-catch-can wrestlers, respecting no rules of the game, kicking, pinching and biting. There is something both fearful and magnificent in their rebellion. Man lives as long as he has passions. But passions can be educated. Selfishness, lust, carnal hunger and thirst can be humanized. Greed can be transformed into a useful human will. Just as wind, fire, and light can be tamed into useful forces fit for human service - even if they are so powerful in the world, whipping the sea and burning forests and cities, man is stronger! -, so may the forces and passions be restrained which pervade the human body, and rule our hearts and nerves. These wild forces can be trained for human service. To do this, it takes a great deal of experience, a great deal of sorrow, a great deal of will and superhuman strength.
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There is no right to any behavior that seeks to build a way of life and an agenda outside the human order. For man, the things and actions of the world have meaning only as long as they seek to influence men and interact with the human world. This cooperation can be direct or indirect. But no one has the right to live for his own sake, indeed, he has no right even to create.
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Man, in his immense arrogance and vanity, is willing to believe that he can live against the laws of the world, that he can subvert them and rebel against them with impunity. It is as if a drop of water said, "I am not like the sea." Or the spark: "I will not be burned by fire." But man is nothing but a mere part of the world, as perishable as milk or bear meat, as everything that appears one moment on the world's great market and then, the next, is consigned to the garbage or the cesspool. Man, in his corporeal nature, is not even a high element in the world; rather, he is a miserable aggregate of materials doomed to perish. Stone, metal, too, lives longer than man. Therefore, all that we represent to the world through our bodies is insignificant. Only our souls are stronger and more permanent than stone and metal - so we must never see ourselves in any other way than in the volumes of our souls. The strength that expresses itself in the perishable bodily fabric is not only a part of the world, but a meaning. This force is the human soul. Everything else we represent and display in the world is ridiculous and pathetic.
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You must not live by superstitions. Friday, the thirteenth, bewitchment, the quackery explanation of numbers and signs, were brought to our world by the Gnostics, the flocking to early Christian Rome of the wacky and rambling sects, the Syrian and Alexandrian tricksters, the cross-eyed wordsmiths, the foaming at the mouth and the sneaky fans. Young Christendom has not yet had the power to beat those who beat you with their eyes, for Friday it says, 'A day'", for thirteen, 'A number like all the rest.'" It was a confusing and fermenting time. The Stoics were no longer in command in Rome, the Christians were not yet ruling. Man stood abandoned in the face of his nature and of nature itself. He was afraid, he was scarce, he was superstitious, he was magical. You're human, you have faith, you know there's order behind the phenomena, a higher intelligence. Reject the superstitions.
But know also that the proud consciousness of your intellect and faith does not discipline and intimidate the more secret forces of the world, which steal and prowl around you from birth to death. The accident, the interplay of numbers, the law of large numbers, the incomprehensible intentions and designs of earth, the air, and the rays, are all unseen. Some humility and trembling you may yet retain in your heart. The world is not only bright and dark, no; the world is also murky. There are not only rays and light and heat; there are demons. (Goethe believed in demons.) The world is not only sensible and consistent; somewhere in its phenomena lurks magic. You must not be superstitious, for it is not fit for man. But you must not despise superstition altogether, for it is superhuman, indecent pride. Rather, one should treat one's superstitions with only gentle mischief, as one who smiles - but is also a little afraid.
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The passing years, the older age, do indeed give us something worth enduring, even the many hardships, humiliations, and painful struggles of life. Not only do they give experience, because experience alone has little educational value, as we see everywhere in life: people, even with certain tragic experiences, make the same fatal mistakes, even if they know the consequences in advance. No, the great advantage of old age is that we can build up a system out of our experience, if we are not quite stupid or mean, and do not wish to be the gray hair clowns that people laugh at and despise in our old age! Like the wanderer who, in his wanderings, has become acquainted with a complex mountain system, who, on reaching the highest peak, sees the structure of a landscape, who examines the geological laws of a continuous series of mountain peaks, we too, with the passing years, see the system in everything that happens in our lives and in the lives of others. This overview, which only the passing of years can bring, is the greatest satisfaction we can gain in learning about things human and mundane.
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And because you are a wanderer, every day you must continue on the path that leads you towards your only goal, that is, towards the knowledge of your soul and the divine content hidden in your soul. It is not easy. Just think of the many temptations that call you to rest, to interrupt your journey, to take care of something else! A beautiful woman stands on the roadside and beckons you with a charming smile. Your body and senses respond to this call, you want to mingle with this beautiful body and surrender to the sweet intoxication of lust. But you must know that moments of vanity and lust are followed by moments of utter desolation and perplexity. For your soul wants something else, and when you feed your body with the sultry spice of another body, the soul is left hungry and thirsty. Money, medals, titles, titles come in your way: but what do you do with all this when the attention, the fatigue, the time, which is the price of worldly recognition, distracts the best powers of your soul from the knowledge of the divine? Mates whore by the wayside, call you along, and encourage you to a good venture: what can you gain in all business and amusement, if you linger by the gaming table or the tavern table, and your soul asks with agonizing urgency, 'Why are you stealing time here? It's all childish and mean. You must move on, you have work to do." That's how life speaks to you, every day, every moment - it calls you to rest, to lust, to have fun, to be satisfied in vanity and power. But when it's not your job! You're a wanderer and every day you have to keep going. You don't know how long you will live, or even if you will have time, to reach the end of your journey, to know your soul and the divine. Therefore, go on every day, wounded and poor. For you are a wanderer.
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The question of whether experience is a shield against the cheap or dangerous temptations of life, which speak with great force, must be answered with denial. Such temptations are false ambition, the temptations of the passions, such as love, acting, worldly success, the temptations of the senses, the excesses of food which are injurious to our health, drink and intoxicants, the passions of the flesh, and even more injurious and dangerous spiritual and moral aberrations, such as revenge, lying, greed. All these dangers and temptations haunt man with obstinate recurrence at every age. Experience, which teaches us that every exaggeration, lie and impure intention leads to disappointment, stumbling, humiliation and sickness, does not prevent us from falling prey to these temptations. Only fidelity to our character, not our experiences, can keep us from falling. There is no absolute good and evil in nature; but there is necessarily evil to man which we cannot reconcile with our character with impunity. Here, then, as always, when we have to decide, we do not inquire whether the temptation offered is good or bad in itself, but only ask, whether what we are about to do is compatible with our character. Worldly experience is not so important as a thorough and unquestioning knowledge of our character. There are inexperienced men who are true to their character and therefore do not fail the worldly test, and there are old, shrewd foxes who cannot adjust their desires to their character, and therefore fail every time and fall shamefully on their faces.
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To believe that we can retreat from passion is as madness as seriously believing that we can build a house of sand and shelter in the middle of the desert from the simoom.
Passion is as much the reason for our lives as reason, moderation and prudent defence. Only he who can give himself over to the passions of his body and character with the moderation and sincerity of his nature can be a complete man, and one who can be a man of intelligent obedience to the order of nature. But he will not be an animal, because he knows the limits where he must cling tooth and nail in the gale that has overtaken him, to the limits of reason. Do not deny the body, but treat it with dignity and superiority, as the trainer treats the beast. Deny not ambition, but mark its limits. Do not deny the senses, but walk and wake in the rebellion of your senses as a captain among the mutinous sailors of a ship in a storm: with rigour, understanding, unquestioning and heroic. You cannot do otherwise.It is the best a man can do.
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The real cause of most human misfortune, misery, hopeless, shameful and unfortunate human situations is most often not the evil of people, but simply stupidity. That certain "slothfulness for good" of which the Bible speaks. A murderer is a rather rare human phenomenon. Murder requires strength, personality, imagination, great passions. Murderers can be defended against. The more common one, the one against whom there is no defence, the one who breeds human misery and tragedy by the millions, is the pious and tuneful man who turns his head when he sees something vile or unjust, who does not pick up the phone, even if he could help by this warning, he walks carefully round human misery and passes it by without a word, when he could, without any great sacrifice or effort, restore a man's zest for life or help a wretch. The man who goes to war with the world for his own tyranny is not so dangerous as the polite, sly and prudent mediocrity, the humming mediocrity, the cowardly and lazy selfishness. That is the cardinal sin. This is the kind of man who makes the world what it is, and to him we owe it if, in the light of this experience, we bid farewell to the human world at the hour of our death without any particular regret.
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The constant clash between the call and attraction of the world and the worldly performance, which is alien to my being and inclination, has caused me much complication and confusion in my life. For men are social creatures, and this beautiful disposition is by no means to be despised in them: it is right that men should seek each other's company, and learn each other's views in intelligent and friendly conversation, and if they get nothing more from their meetings than a temporary relief from the loneliness of life, this alone is worth the little trouble and inconvenience which such meetings cost. Man is a social creature, and it is in company that he most often unfolds the fine qualities of his character: he who converses fairly and patiently, who endeavours to learn his fellow-men's views of the world and of human destiny in thoughtful and pleasantly phrased dialogue, who answers objections patiently, who does not judge prematurely, who phrases his answers well, and who then, out of accommodation and courtesy, refuses to depart from what he has come to know to be the truth: such a man, in fact, performs the most beautiful of human duties when he goes out into society, and there learns the opinions of his fellow-men, and does not keep silent about his own. But most men are driven rather by vanity, by a desire to escape from boredom, into the circle of their fellow-men; and it is very rare that we have spent a time among men, and afterwards felt no remorse, as if we had been the partakers and accomplices in some debauchery or revelry. Great care must be taken to avoid invitations to houses where the householders expect some mark of social or professional distinction from the "company". In such social gatherings, the invitees are seen as a kind of rare commodity to be sold by the householders in the marketplace of worldly vanity.
I have always avoided social life, its high worldly or artisanal versions. Nor did I resent having to offend people who invited me to their homes for the sake of their vanity or misguided ambition. "To "invite" is a great art, it requires a great deal of spiritual nobility, tact, knowledge of people and situations. And to accept or not to accept an invitation: it is a question of character, like all human questions.
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In company, we must beware of people who never speak to their neighbours but always to the whole company, who want their every word to be heard by all present, who are stingily careful not to let a single word roll under the table, who are always telling stories, who give lectures to prove their excellence and charm the company. Such people are well liked and welcome in company, because they occupy the minds of those present, and provide an interesting and sometimes jovial atmosphere for those assembled. But these people are false prophets: it is not what they say that is important to them, nor is it important to them to persuade those to whom they speak; it is only the satisfaction of their own vanity that is important to them. The company of such people is to be carefully avoided.
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Behind knowledge is monotony. When you know something real about life, you become calm and monotonous.
This monotony does not complain. It doesn't accuse, it doesn't demand revenge, satisfaction or explanation. All that is human is hopeless. Only the divine is complete, only the soul is not hopeless. What can man desire but monotony if he addresses the divine with human desires? The initiated man is silent. He knows that he cannot be helped. All he can do is to do no harm to others or to himself. He who lives towards death, who lives among men, who lives therefore in injustice, what can he hope for? If he can train his heart to a kind of calm and humility, it is almost a consolation and serenity.
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But we say in vain: "I am not touched by the shackle of the world, nor by its praise! All things are transient" - if we do not feel in our souls that we have done our duty to the world. I have often felt this self-reproach. It is not so difficult to renounce what the world offers in vain recognition, entertainment, social or material satisfaction, and to withdraw from people, to live only for our duties and for the small circle of people whose human service we have undertaken. Nor is it easy to do this, nor is it impossible; our retreat is received with disapproval, for they see in such conduct a contempt and criticism of worldly things; we are called eccentric, but at the same time a certain respect surrounds the morose hermit, and this respect and recognition satisfies our vanity. We are also relieved of much discomfort when we withdraw from people.
Yet a voice tells us that we are acting selfishly, conveniently, when we withdraw completely from contact with people, and wander in the desert of our work and our way of life, wrapped in the exalted solitude of the hermit. First of all, in the words of the French, any hermit is suspect who knows the exact timetables - most hermits, out of resentment or feelings of inferiority, know the exact departure times of trains, trains that can take you back to the world! - and around most of the "great loners" there radiates an atmosphere of vanity like the northern lights, which only shine, but do not warm or light. Then, not everyone has the right to be lonely. Only he has a right to solitude, only he has a real right to withdraw from men who can better serve the cause of men in this way. For no one has the right to be lonely out of spleen, out of spleen, pride, or vanity. But if our temperament and the nature of our work, by which we wish to serve men, are such that we need solitude for this, then, only then, may we avoid the company of men. But such a worker and such a work are rare, and the man who chooses solitude should first take a good account of his conscience.
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When life, some human situation, forces you to make a decision, be careful to place your decisions within the framework of the law of change: for all "decisions" take their final shape and form only in time.
Decide, but not so necessarily! Not so at all costs! Not quite so! Give the human decision the leeway it needs to fit into the world and time, to find its place in the laws of human intentions and change. Don't try to fix with oath, nail, and hammer for all time what night and morning change, your heart and intellect are forever grinding, twisting, changing something, today, tomorrow, and forever. Give the resolution time and space to find its true place and form in the world. Decide, but not too much! Decide, but not necessarily! Take action, but at the same time leave everything to time. You will see, tomorrow or a year from now, that it is not you who have decided, but the very volume in which all human affairs are decided: time.
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Have you suffered the most and most cruelly from vanity? Have you always wanted to prove yourself? Your intellect, your wit, or other more suspicious and ridiculous abilities, your social security, your action, or your proficiency in the knowledge of human things? Thou hast rollicked in the worldly market, and been as ridiculous as the clown in the sawdust of the circus when he imitates the dangerous feats of the animal tamers and power-men. And why did you never think that the pleasure you might thus win was only the occasional pleasure of a bored, hungry, childish crowd? A single moment of solitude, of self-knowledge, when you have conquered vanity, has given more to you and to the human world than all the stunts by which you have made yourself unseen to the world. A single gesture of humility is a greater feat than all the greedy performances that people applaud. Think of this before it is too late.
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Are you anxious because your senses are being stimulated and disturbed by this beautiful young woman, and you fear that she is sharing her beauty and youth with others? But what did you expect from her? Some monastic vow, some grim fidelity? It is not because she is young and beautiful. Think what a great worry and concern for her, this fragile beauty and fleeting youth, this evil gift with which the Creator has blessed and smitten her - this beauty that changes, fades, grows fainter and more fragile with each passing day and moment? Can she think of other things, give her heart to other than her beauty and youth, and care for other things truly, wholly, according to her heart and interests? It is as if you wanted to capture a moment of bright morning light, or a kind of illumination of the sea, and wished the world to remain like this forever! Learn humility, rejoice in beauty, and expect nothing from it but what it can give. And seek the warmth of life elsewhere; beauty is a cold flame, and cannot be warmed by it.
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The sickness must be received with the humility with which the guilty person receives the deserved and just sentence. For sickness always comes from the clash of our character, our nature, our tempers and passions, our weaknesses and sinful inclinations. And if you are hit by a tram in the street, you are still to blame: why have you not been more vigilant, more prudent, more cautious than the hostile world!
I do not say that by caution, prudence, and self-control you can avoid misery. Sickness is a natural prop and tool of the all-creating and all-destroying life. But the method of execution is mostly of your choosing. Nature is a benevolent executioner: if you wish, she will give you a wise and dignified way of dying, a quiet burning, a slow death. But if you do not behave according to your character - assuming you are humane and of good character - it will roast you on a slow fire. That's what you have to think about when you're attacked by sickness.
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Every time I went to the doctor, I couldn't escape the embarrassing and humiliating feeling that I was deceiving the good man who, according to his craft and knowledge of human nature, was treating me with concern and care, but in a completely hopeless way. For all that he could offer - remedies, various cures, water or rays, powders, and liquids - might have cured my kidneys, my liver, or my heart, but could not cure what is the sole cause of my illness: my way of life, which is the result of my character, my basic nature and inclination. Therefore, seriously and politely, to the best of our ability, we have always deceived each other, the doctor and the patient. Lifestyles cannot be cured, nor can they be changed, except temporarily.
That is why nature, wisely, takes care of diseases: because most people only rest their passions temporarily in the forced quarantine of ailments. "Il est quelque fois saine d'être malade!" - said a Frenchman. Most men would die at the age of forty-five if they did not rest for a few weeks in their sickbeds.
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More than anything else, it is important to align our work, our inclinations, and our pace of life with the great and eternal rhythm of nature. The course of the moon, the turn of the winds, the heat of the sun, the currents of the night, all these shape our personal destiny, our Tuesday or Wednesday life: one hears, from far away, the admonitions and warnings, the warning and reassuring sounds of the universe... One must live at the same time with the sun, the moon, the tides of the waters, the cold, and the heat: never against it, always in harmony with the world, in the whole order of creation and destruction. Only those who are somehow inwardly deaf to the sounds of the world stumble through life.
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But we must also live with our hearts, with that other rhythm of life, which is more secret, more hidden, more difficult to know than the order of the world's flow. Those whose hearts beat eighty, at a willing pace, should not want to live like marathon runners. You must be constantly listening to the secret Morse code of your body and character, those subtle and powerful messages that determine the true measure of your life. He whose senses have been dulled by ambition, by passion, will hear these voices no more. Such a man lives against his body, his soul, and the pace of the world; he lives unworthily of man and is therefore punished in an inhuman way.
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Your job is tiring, you feel that you could work with greater strength and satisfaction elsewhere, with different people, under different living conditions. Human coexistence is exhausting, your family, loved ones, and friends are a burden, and you are driven by the desire to make new connections. You know every nook and cranny of your home blindly, and you hope to find comfort and peace of mind in your new, more modern, more comfortable home. Yes, you know the city where you were born, raised, and grew to manhood. Yes, you know the country that is your home, like a miner knows the mines where he has worked for forty or fifty years; you know it not only horizontally but vertically, with all its dangers and depths. And you have heard of foreign lands, of distant worlds, where conditions of human coexistence are fairer. You are tormented by doubts, urged and urged by the desire to leave your job, your family, your loved ones, your city, your country, and to tear yourself by violent movement from all that has been your life's environment. In the hour of temptation, examine your experience, your intellect, your character, and the true nature of worldly things in the light of these desires. New men cannot give you anything that will fundamentally change your attitude to the world; for only you can give yourself something decisive and substantial. Likewise, you remain a worker in a new workplace, and it is up to you to create for yourself the right job opportunities in the new situation. It's all up to you. Just so, in the new city, in the foreign country, where the conditions of human coexistence are more equitable, you will in time find the same human selfishness, greed, vanity, and malice that you found hateful in your homeland; for basic human nature does not change behind the barriers that mark the borders of countries. Moreover, you become a stranger; and to be a stranger is always to be a cripple. And it is one of the laws of man that you must always and unconditionally remain loyal to your country, even if that country treats its children in a tyrannical and unfair manner.
So when do you have the right to violently change the circumstances, framework, and situation of your life? In no case, if you hope for an end to your boredom, the satisfaction of your desires, the satisfaction of your revenge. Remain where life has placed you, do your duty, and fill your soul with truth; you can have no more in the new world, nor the southern Isles. But if one day you find that your work, the environment, and conditions of your life, are not in accord with your character - then and only then will you resolve to change. And know that you remain the same through all change.
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Voluntary vows to ourselves - "from tomorrow I will not do this or that, I will live this way or that, I will do this or that" - should perhaps be considered even more carefully than our word to people. For the word given to men may be withdrawn if we find that the world changes around our word, that human things are differently situated around the idea once confessed as truth and professed in a vow. The truth changes too. But the word given to ourselves means that we have made a contract with our character which does not change, and therefore we cannot change the contract we have made with it. If the world despises us because we have not been able to keep our given word for some conscientious reason, this despising can be survived, because the world is not a moral contracting party either. However, if we deceive our character, we may still have a way to survive, but our inner conduct will be insecure, guilty, and fluctuating.
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Always change the rhythm of life. To consciously and mindfully alternate work and rest, fasting and abundance, sobriety and intoxication, yes, even care and joy; to consciously rise from the set table of life when abundance is at its best, to consciously engage in cares and tasks that have an educative power. Not to be discouraged in any situation. At the bottom of it all is the divine thought, the spirit that governs the world: and this spirit will not tolerate any self-assertive indulgence, self-satisfaction, blinking, and lazy gratification. Always evolving and changing, always giving and sacrificing, always giving when you get, always passing on what you have, in one way or another... Just not to live "safely". Always waiting for the storm and the firestorm. And when the storm and the fire come, not to wonder and not to complain. Calmly say, "Here it is." Extinguish and protect.
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If you are defending a good cause, what is there to be afraid of? What could happen to you? Get beaten down, slandered, robbed, desecrated? Accusations against you, wrongful convictions? All this does not change the fact that the cause you defended was good, and therefore what you did in defending the good cause was good. In such a case, care for no one and nothing but the righteousness of the reason which you have to defend. After all, they are powerless against the truth. They can beat you, but they cannot convince you; they can accuse you, but they cannot lie to you; they can take your life, but they cannot take your justice. You are not alone only if you defend a good cause. There is no pay or reward in such a trial. But there's no deal either. So never be afraid to say what you know with all your soul to be true.
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When you stand face to face with the powerful, always think about who gave these people their power? And what can they do against you? Can they take your goods, your freedom, or your life? And then what? A tiny microbe, a contagious bacterium, can take your life, as fragile and ephemeral as the life of an insect. Nay, even the mightiest lord has no real power over your soul and is therefore powerless if you are just and he is unjust. He can do nothing against thee but find thee in sin, and he is just. Think not, therefore, what you will say to the great lord, how you will behave; think only that you are free as long as you are righteous, and the great lord is powerless against your righteousness.
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Any reading that teaches a position and attitude toward death has a humiliating and discouraging aftertaste. All these "ars beatae moriendi"*, the pagan sages of antiquity, the Christian sages of the Middle Ages, the Stoics, the religious, the humanists, and the naturalists of modern times, all try to convince us that death is not to be feared at all. Some offer as a defense and conduct pride and sublime dignity, others wise meekness and acquiescence, others indifference, some enthusiasm, longing, as if death were some supreme good, the ticket to an afterlife which we cannot be too eager to redeem. So speaks Seneca when he teaches indifference because he shows us how nothing, fallible and unremarkable is all that we leave in life; so Boetius, the Christian; so Huxley, the naturalist, when he sees life and death as two versions of a kind of chemical process. Every wise man strives to take some human stand against the horror of death.
This effort is human, and touching. That is why it is hopeless. Think of the wise men dying. And they say in vain: "death is but a change" - they cannot soothe our hearts, nor their hearts before them, with this wisdom. Their minds may know this truth; their hearts remain restless. Seneca died a prisoner. Do not be afraid to die. Do not be ashamed to confess that it pains you to leave this hideous and great certainty, life, for the unknown and sinisterly incomprehensible uncertainty that is death, cessation, nothingness. Be afraid, by all means. Don't complain, but be afraid. Otherwise, if it lightens your soul, you can complain. Don't want to die "with dignity", meaning as a liar. Die as you have lived: like a man, and therefore somewhat heroically, and also cowardly.
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To live more, much more, with grass, plants, and fruit. Less, much less fatty and black meat! Eat plenty of fish and rye bread every day. Never drink during the day, no spirits of any kind, and if you do drink, only in the evening, only after meals, only pure wine, never at any other time, and nothing else. If you have drunk wine in one day, do not touch the wine glass for twenty-four hours afterward. To hear the rush of your blood, when with sincere desire it wants to mingle with the rhythm of another body's blood. To turn away from all casual temptation. To know when you want something, you, your body, your taste, your temper, and when you are hungry or thirsty or sensually curious out of gluttony, vanity, or boredom.
To live according to the real needs of your body and the measure of your character.
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There are the indifferents, the friends, the opponents, who fight against you at the behest of an idea or belief or interest. That is the order of human life, that is the only way to have a nice tension in life: between friends and opponents, between a great mass of indifference.
And then there is the enemy. He is not an adversary, he is more than that. It is as if destiny had appointed you two to a duel without reason or sense. You know of him, as he knows of you, though you have not crossed his path in any sphere of life or career. He hates you, seeks your bread, your life: you have never sinned against him. For a lifetime you avoid and seek each other.
What can you do against it? First of all, try to understand. He is the counterweight in your life. Otherwise, your life's struggle would be a muddy and unhappy one. You need him. You must overcome yourself to defeat him. You must know the truth to be right with him. You must be better, for he thinks you evil and proclaims you evil. God has appointed him to be your partner on earth. You have a common enterprise, as champions. Do not stab him prematurely; do not stab him at all. he teaches you to live, to fight, to defend yourself. Know that you need him.
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Thanks to the women.
Thanks to you who gave birth to me. And to you who were my wife. And to you, third, tenth, thousandth, who gave me a smile, a caress, a warm glance, on the street, in passing, comforted me when I was lonely, carried me away when I feared death. Thank you for being blonde. And to you for being white. And to you, for your hands were beautiful. And you for being stupid and good. And for you, because you were smart and cheerful. And for you, because you were patient and generous. And for you, because you covered my face with your hair when I was down and wanted to hide from the world, and for you, because your body gave warmth to my body when I was cold in the loneliness of life. And to you, for you bore me a child. And you, for you will hold my eyes with soft fingers. And to you, for you gave me bread and wine when I was hungry and thirsty. And for you, because your body radiated pleasure. And thanks to you for being good like animals. And to you, because your body smelled like the earth at the beginning of life. Thanks to women, thanks.
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Can we teach someone patriotism? It's like saying, "I'm going to make you love yourself with a whip and a spiked whip." Homeland is not just land and mountains, dead heroes, mother tongue, bones of our ancestors in the graveyards, bread, and landscape. Home is you, flesh and bone, in your physical and spiritual being; it gives birth to you, it buries you, and it is lived and expressed in all the miserable, magnificent, blazing, and dull moments that make up your life. And your life is also a moment in the life of your country.
I cannot teach you patriotism: is mad who denies himself. Your country is a personality magnified and timeless in historical proportions. The homeland is destiny, even in person. Whether you "love" it or not is irrelevant. You are one. But I see and experience that you - verbally, solemnly, in writing, and on podiums - prefer to testify and profess your love of the state. You cannot expect anything from your country. The country does not give you a medal, a job, or a loaf of bread. The country is just that. But the State gives you a fine shallum, a fine dowry for your saloon coat, fine appeasing, if you serve it well, if you go about it with incense, if you confess to the world, with manly, puffed-out breast, that you love the State, even if you'll be wheeled. They don't usually break you on the execution wheel for that. That is why all love of the state is suspect. He who loves the state loves an interest. He who loves country loves a destiny. Think of that when you're thundering on the podiums and beating your chest.
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The man who, in armor and a manner befitting the rank of man, wishes to stand his ground in the cruel battle of life, does well if he educates himself not only to impartiality and unquestioning justice but to pride without fear, to contempt of all human treachery and danger, to a superior outlook on all human situations. By superiority I do not mean a timid indifference, but the coolness of a man of reason and character in the face of all the assaults of life. Human meanness, misery, the tangle of accidents and tragedies, the contingencies that lurk around us at every moment to overthrow what we have built up in ourselves or the world by the means of our art, to disturb the tranquillity of our souls, to contaminate the relative contentment of our lives, to rob us of what we have rightly acquired: all this cannot be looked at from above, with sufficient indifference, coldness, and superiority.
We have no right to remain cold and superior only when we see innocent people being abused and tortured. At such times, man, do not attempt, from the pinnacles of some outlook, philosophy, or attitude, to look on human misery with motionless coldness. In your case, remain distinguished, cold, callous, and haughty. In the affliction of others, feel, fervent, act - do not shrink from being a burden to the powerful, beg, bribe, if need be, do what you can to help. In the cause of others, you cannot be impartially and coldly wise, nor proud, nor arrogant. The pain and humiliation of the innocent oblige you to leave the cliffs of your rest. Then, only then, you have no right to remain lonely and proud. Remember this well.
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Only your conscience can be your judge, executioner, or protector, no one else! If you write, you are accountable only to conscience, no one else. It doesn't matter what they expect of you, it doesn't matter what they punish you with, if you don't give them what they hope to hear or what they want to hear! Prison and disgrace, pillory and persecution, false accusation and swallowing humiliation, poverty, and misery, all these do not concern you. Only your conscience can punish you, only this secret voice can say, "You have sinned." Or: "All right." The rest is fog, smoke, nothing.
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Whenever I have been attacked and chased - and in the course of a writer's career these chases inevitably recur, sometimes with life-threatening twists and turns - I have found that the writer under attack cannot be protected by any outside help. Not by the powers that be, not by the courts, not by the help of his peers, not even by the voluntary encouragement of well-meaning people and the wisdom of the experienced. The writer is protected only by his works. It is not even the quality of his works, which is always uneven, but the intention that shines through the work of a writer's life. It is this mysterious radiance and power that gives the writer a kind of - relative - inviolability. A writer can only fail if it can be proved that the intention of his work is not sincere. Then the writer and his work commit hara-kiri. Everything else counts for little: neither the accusation nor the defense.
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Read with strength. Sometimes read with more power than the force of the writing you are reading was produced with. Read with reverence, passion, attention, and unrelenting. The writer may babble, but you read tersely. Listening to every word, one after another, back and forth in the book, seeing the clues that lead you into the thick of it, listening for the secret signs that the writer may have failed to detect as he moved forward in the mass of his work. Never to be read with a puffed-up, casual eye, as one invited to a divine feast, and only to rummage in the food with the tip of his fork. Read elegantly, generously. Read it as if you were reading the last book in the mortuary that the jailer put in your cell. Read for life and death, for that is the greatest, the human gift. Consider that only man reads.
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I have experienced that there is order at the bottom of human life. And since human life is the most complex manifestation of Creation, there is likely order elsewhere, in the more primitive and simple world of existence, like rocks, raccoons, reptiles, and planetary stars. There is order in everything, things come to us even if we do not lift a finger, and there is order in the fact that we occasionally lift a finger or our soul to make things come to us, to make us come to certain situations, people, thoughts, with which we are personally, inevitably involved. There is order in all this, I believe.
But I also believe that there is an intention behind this order that I do not know. Call it what you will. I call it Providence. This intention cares for me personally, punishes me, guides me, arranges my affairs, pushes me into the abyss, controls me at every moment, builds the world around me builds me in the world, and uses me. He who does not perceive this in time is blind and deaf. Behind everything is Providence: this too I believe.
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Judge your own case as fairly as you educate yourself to judge others. You have no right to be intolerant, unworthy, or over-demanding of yourself. If you want the world to recognize your human rank, recognize your own rank. Act accordingly, with patience and generosity. Demand no more of yourself, no different, no worse, than what you deem fair to others. One cannot be necessarily demanding of oneself. Strive to be more modest, knowing that your powers are mournfully finite. In work, in ambition, in human need, you should feel sorry for yourself, not just for others. It is not enough to pity people; pity yourself. You are a man: and it is so easy to forget that in the worldly race. It is not only others who forget; most of the time you forget yourself.
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The burning question of all ancient philosophy was: 'What is in man's power?'" And they all answered in unison, "Only his soul."
This is the oldest, nay, the only truth that man's intellect has known and accepted as unquestionably true. Time, experience, perception, and contemplation have not changed this truth. Only our souls have power over us, nothing else. But this power is unlimited. No one can violate, no one can take away from us the power exercised over our souls, no tyrant, no social system, no natural law can prevent us from being free in our souls. This freedom is indispensable. And compared to this freedom, all other freedoms that society, power, and money can give us are fragmentary and relative.
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In the Middle Ages, there was a mistaken belief that doctors brought diseases to certain regions as part of their trade. Montesquieu overturned this misconception centuries later. Doctors do not bring diseases, diseases bring doctors. And indeed we see that every region has a different doctor. The remedy that has enthusiastic and clever adherents in Paris does not cure in Constantinople. The remedy that is sure to work in Oslo is not so sure to work in Marseilles or Budapest. The doctor who has revived thousands of patients in London is helpless in Baghdad if he is fated to be there. Man is sick and he heals not only according to his nature and habits but according to the cardinal points of the compass. What is a laxative in Helsingfors constipates in Khartoum, and a vascular spasm that dissolves surely in Budapest on a pyramidon remains a vascular spasm in China, no matter how many pyramidons the mandarin takes. Quinine is swallowed by the half-gram in Budapest, and by the teaspoon in Sumatra. One is sick or healthy under a wide variety of conditions. Think about that when you scold the doctor.
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In human trials, to obtain acquittals whenever possible. Only not if you find the accused guilty of the crime of treason, slowly and coldly planned.
Forgive the murderer sooner than the traitor. The murderer most often acts in a fit of passion and pays for it with his whole fate. The murderer and the victim are most often bound together by some deep and incomprehensible law. The killer most often goes to the gallows. But the betrayer holds your hand, the betrayer looks you in the eye, questions your plans, sighs with you, moans with you, vows with you. Never forgive the traitor. Never show mercy to the traitor. Once betrayed - man or woman, it makes no difference - there is no more test, no more excuse, no more absolution. Banish him from your life. Look upon his fate without compassion. In community and in private life he is the last man, no excuse for him.
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You should not travel alone. A lone traveler is a forced laborer. You should only travel in intimate and courteous company. The company of a sensitive and receptive soul, an attentive and patient friend, multiplies the experience of traveling, enhances the colorfulness of the sights, and helps you to understand all that the journey and the world have to offer. Travelling alone can feel awkward, and uncomfortable. It's like being at the mercy of a strange prison as big as the world.
One can only see and perceive the world in a company. It's the company that gives human meaning to the somber magic of the journey, the change. During my years of wandering, I traveled a lot alone, with little luggage, always feverish, restless, chasing something. I missed a wise companion to stand beside me in the dangerous and unsettling experience of the world, to warn him, to alert me, to share the grim loneliness of the inns, the evil neurosis of the railways. In the company of the right person you can travel around the world and it will seem like a moment. Alone, you'll trudge across the world, by express train and plane.
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What can frighten you when your soul is calm? If you overcome vanity, lust and greed? What powers can torment you if you do not torment yourself? What is prison if your soul is free? What is death, if you have known the world and your soul, and do not long for superfluous and embarrassing details? Truly, you were like the child who is unhappy because he did not get this or that. Think always of this: "I have neither power nor wealth, perhaps not even health. But how mighty I am, how rich, how superior, for I have adjusted my desires to the truth and reality of things, and my soul is free!" No one can take this from you, no one can give more than this.
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The extent of human meanness is so unlimited, its heat so burning, its ingenuity so original and varied, its formulae of expression so surprising, that sometimes we are stunned and feel that it is the greatest human power. But later on we find that whenever human meanness comes to the fore, human help comes at once. Most of the time, the will to help is more helpless than the will to be mean, more timid, more hesitant. The power of help is more difficult to organize. But it comes, without being asked or called upon, sometimes very bashfully, and at the same time you must see that, against meanness, the human will also organizes help. Sometimes too late. Sometimes imperfectly. But ultimately triumphant. This is my experience.
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Tired of living? Yes, one day you will feel you have taken on too great a task when you were born to be human on this earth. There was too much opposition, too much unpredictability, too much hostility, too much meanness, too much hopelessness, too much task, too much suffering, too much disappointment. But don't you think, don't you feel, that it was this hopelessness, this " too", this "much" that gave your life meaning and dignity? Don't you feel that you had a task, a personal task? Don't you feel that nature, which so senselessly exaggerates and wastes, has honored you by creating you as a human being and by imposing your task on earth on a human scale? What can you be but weary? That was your job: to live and be exhausted.
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Travel light. Travel, but know at every moment that there is nowhere for the passenger to really stay. Don't spend a lot of time sorting your luggage, and don't carry unnecessary items on your travels. Packing ages you.
It's the small, incidental tasks of life that age you most. The fiddling around, the unnecessary complications of daily rituals, the annoyance of buttons falling off, the worry of mail not being sent on time, packing on the road. You don't just age dramatically, with waving white curls and calcified veins, no. You also age prematurely if your laundry doesn't fit in your hamper after a week, even though it fit splendidly in its ironed state a week ago. Travel light, like the birds. You'll go farther and stay young.
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One day everything will have to be accounted for. But everything. It is inevitable. And however you think: what you've done wrong, what you owe, what you've been cowardly, what you've been guilty of, you'll give an account for it all one day. Strengthen therefore your soul always: for you are not without sin. And if I am burned at the stake, know that I am innocent, but I am also guilty. And give an account of thyself willingly, before they demand it: thou doest wisely, and men will esteem thee better if thou doest so. Do not delay the reckoning. What can you hope for? You are a man, therefore you are guilty.
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I've experienced that raw carrots, finely grated and sprinkled with lemon juice, are not only a refreshing food but also calm the nerves, especially the nerves in the eyes. I have heard - but I have not personally experienced this - that one of the components of raw carrots, carotene, definitely strengthens the optic nerves and sometimes prevents blindness and clears incipient cataracts. This is possible, but not certain. What is certain is that raw, grated carrots, sprinkled with lemon juice and eaten with a meal or instead of a salad, are invigorating, refreshing, beneficial, and healing. It is also certain that it does no harm. In the same way, I can recommend unpeeled apples - one every day when it's the season - and a generous consumption of lemon and orange juice. I have noticed that in years when I have eaten plenty of raw carrots, lemon, and orange juice every day at the end of winter, I have not had colds or infectious diseases.
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For five thousand years, for ten thousand years, human matter has not changed. Only the costumes have changed, the systems and conditions of coexistence haven't changed. What is human - the soul and character - has not changed. In the city of Ur, Babylon, the same people lived as in Budapest today: and in their souls, they perceived the world and responded to the world in exactly the same way. Only, without instruments, they were closer to the secrets of the world, to time, to the stars, to the sign language of nature. Their hearing was more subtle, their vision - even without binoculars - sharper, more perceptive, more intuitive, more gripping. The human substance has not changed, but man is - thanks to a few geniuses and instruments - more blind and deaf in civilization than he was at the beginning of human times. Duller and dumber. More intelligent and at the same time more ignorant. He thinks he controls the universe with the push of a button. This vast structure, civilization, has banished man from the great, secret, intimate community of the world.
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Wherever you escape to, work, role, or behavior, people won't let you go, they'll chase you, demand you participate in their movements, share their concerns, plans, and hopes, tug at your coat-tails, and attack and disown you if you retreat from common tasks. You must settle down - and if you are an artist, a thinking, contemplative person, it is not easy! - that you have to go with the people. You have to cry and laugh with them, and you can only be happy and content if they let you.
But people, you say, are only responsible, sentient, and participating people individually; in a crowd, they are like a herd; the cheapest slogans fire them, and the basest desires strain the chest of the crowd. How can I take part in their affairs if I do not want my soul to be harmed?
I can only answer: preserve the liberty of your soul by remaining just. When the mob desires of thee what thy conscience denies, deny their desire. Whatever the cost or consequence of such conduct. The limit of your solidarity is justice. You too have a law and a power, not only they. This law and power is justice: they can break your head, but they cannot take this power away from you.
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There are incurably wounded people who are so deeply infected by greed, vanity, and envy that there is no way to reach out and atone for their sick souls. Pity these, but avoid them. No generous act, unselfish conduct, or courageous and noble approach can help these people. Envy especially torments these people. They vomit bile, they cry out in their sleep, they toss and turn in their dens like epileptics, and they spit up foam when they see that someone has earned or achieved something in life through work or the benevolence of a gracious fate. They are sick, infectious sick. Avoid their company, don't think that argument or proof can ever convince them. It's like trying to prove to a leper that the healthy are innocent and guiltless! He doesn't believe it. If you reveal to them the real cause of their illness, they will hate you. If you try to appeal to their feelings, they'll grab a stick. They live in their passions as deeply as the fate of the exile: they know no other way but revenge. Do not bargain with them, avoid them, and bear their existence on earth as a blow of fate.
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Take care never to rush, and in your work, in your social life, and yes, in your everyday actions, to obey the strict consistency of facts and situations. Do not try to do two things with two hands at the same moment. When writing a letter, do not listen to the telephone receiver. When you smoke, don't try to cure your tracheitis at the same time. When you read, don't listen to music. Above all: pay attention to the deep order of tasks and situations. There's dexterity at the bottom of human tasks; it's not a bad thing to learn. If you hold something, hold it with both hands and firmly; if you let go of something, let it go consciously and with all consequences; if you speak, let your word stand in time like a stone; if you are happy about something, be happy without reservation. There is a craft in life, and there is a craft in the common days. And Mondays have their unskilled. Watch your movements. The cause of most human misfortunes is not Greek misfortune, but clumsiness, idleness, and sloth. Learn this craft, this life, and remain the master of life in motion and action.
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No human relationship is more poignant and deeper than friendship. In the relationship between lovers, yes, even between parents and children, how much selfishness and vanity! Only a friend is not selfish; otherwise, he is not a friend. Only a friend is not vain, because he wants all that is good and beautiful for his friend, not for himself. The lover always wants something; the friend wants nothing for himself. A child always wants to receive from his parents, to outshine his father; a friend neither wants to receive nor to outdo. There is no more secret and noble gift in life than friendship, which is unassuming, understanding, patient, and sacrificial. And there is none rarer.
Montaigne, reflecting on the feeling that had drawn him to La Boétie, said, "We were friends... Because he was he, and because I was I." This is more than accurate. And Seneca writes to Lucilius: "A friend loves, but a lover is not always a friend." This statement is more than accuracy: it is truth. All love is suspect because selfishness and miserliness lurk in its ashes. Only the affection of a friend is unselfish, without interest or the play of the senses. Friendship is a service, a strong and serious service, the greatest human test and role.
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Never see the struggle between man and woman as anything other than a hopeless struggle, fuelled by the cruelest selfishness and unbridled vanity. Let not the bribing moments, the gentler situations of life, the occasional indulgences, when you face a woman, ever make you forget that you are a warrior whose skin and life the adversary wants. Fight gallantly, but fight. If you meet with generosity sometimes, repay with generosity; if you meet with tenderness, return, without sentiment, with tenderness what you have received; if you meet with passion, respond with unconditional passion. But never, for one moment, forget that at the bottom of every emotional encounter smolders naked selfishness and vanity. He who lies in a woman's bed lies on ember. His skin may be burnt; his human rank and honor must be saved. Watch and fight. Opponents stand around, feathers in their hair, paint on their faces, like fierce warriors.
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There is a kind of man who laughs only with his mouth. They are like paralytics; like people who are deaf or have no sense of smell. You joke in their presence, you make your point in some distorted or amusing situation in life, and you are shocked to find that he does not understand or hear exactly what is so funny in this little casual story: he laughs, but he laughs with his mouth. His heart and mind failed to see the profoundly phony ridiculousness of the situation. He laughs politely, gritting his teeth. But his heart never laughs. These grim grins can be fearful. Don't joke with them. When you point to life, their response is to show their fangs.
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In the terrible race of life, most people only rest when they are sick. Sickness, in the words of the French poet, is not only the journey of the poor but also the holiday of the poor, the winter Riviera, the Tatras, and Egypt. To feverish spirits, illness sends a real fever to calm them down a little. The ambitious and insatiable man on the run, who, like the poet Kleist, 'changes cities like a fever-patient changes pillows', only recalls his true desires and hopeless passions in his sickbed.
Illness is also rest, it is a cliché. Therefore, anticipate nature's command, the forced sick leave, and add small, artificial illnesses to the rhythm of your life to rest. Keep your bed in good health for a day at a time. Thou hast a wolf's appetite, thou wouldst chew the nail: fast a day or two voluntarily. Your heart isn't nagging you about nicotine yet: reward it by giving up cigarettes for three days without a compelling need. Your body is so grateful for the slightest attention! And these tiny, artificial states of illness and recovery, voluntary diets, withdrawals, and rests, recalled without the command of the disease, are the equivalent of an Oriental trip or an appendectomy. Try it. You will see miracles.
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Waiting, with the patience of an angel and a saint, until the things - people, ideas, situations - that belong to you come to you. Not to hurry a single step towards them, not to hurry their approach with a single movement or word. For certain people, ideas, and situations, that belong to your life, your character, and your worldly and spiritual destiny, are constantly on their way toward you. Books. Men. Women. Friendships. Insights, truths. It's all coming your way, in a slow trickle, and you must meet one day. But you must not hurry, do not hurry their journey and their approach. If you are in too great a hurry, you may miss what is important and personal to you. Wait, with great strength, attentively, with your whole destiny and life.
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If someone doesn't arrive at the meeting at the agreed time - be it a man or a woman, a friend or a stranger - you can wait fifteen minutes. Then leave. And if you cannot excuse yourself with a legitimate excuse, do not seek the company of such a person again. Keep no anger or resentment in your heart, for it is unworthy of a man. But give no more occasion to the other to keep you waiting. People insult each other out of meanness and cowardice. Making people wait is such an arrogant insult.
In all, everything you do, be precise to the second. You cannot be so tired, so sad, or so listless, as to sin against the law of polite punctuality. Punctuality is not only the courtesy of kings, but the duty of all responsible men of rank. He is a man of first rank who is punctual without interest. The sluggard, the slothful, the frivolous man is always late. Such a man is, after all, late for the great meeting of life: the meeting of self-knowledge.
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Fight fanaticism always, everywhere, in every way and at every opportunity. Against the foaming-at-the-mouth, whining impulse that bursts out of its human hiding place and wants to carve up and shape the world. To fight fanaticism with patience, with explanation, with reason, with consistent pedagogy. And also with compassion. Pity the fanatic. He lashes out at you, but in the frenzy of the attack, he bites his own tongue and crushes himself.
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If there is a rule of life in our lives, we must adhere to it at all costs; for the life of a grown man is made up of rules and ways of life like a building of solidly assembled bricks, and it is not advisable to shake this structure by moving one or another brick out of place. Beyond forty years, our lives will be filled with rules that others may regard as rigid: we know that their real purpose is to defend against anarchy. Waking up, going to bed, entertainment, working hours, relationships with people, all of these are governed by strict laws over time.
And if we break these laws, our consciences are filled with guilt. It is not true that a lifestyle can be "spontaneous". You yourself may be spontaneous at times, your decisions, your passions, and your ideas may be voluntary: but your way of life, independent of all that, cannot be voluntary and idea-like. If people don't like you living in one way or another, in a different way from the way they would like, imagine, or in a different way from the way you once, by some necessity or misunderstanding, promised them: don't mind. You do not live for the people. But if you sin against your own laws, you will bitterly regret this disloyalty. Even in your sins and faults, keep the system that follows from the laws of your life. In the eyes of the world, you may fail at any time. We must not be weak before ourselves; for that is the true fall.
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The greatest heroism is to stick to your job, no matter what the world says. And even more truly heroic is to destroy your work if you feel you have failed to do perfectly what you contracted yourself to do. Live between the two intentions, don't talk about it, live fully to your task, and remain ruthless to your work. It takes strength not only to create; it takes strength to judge your work. Remain harsher on your work than the world can ever be.
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When the holiday arrives in your life, celebrate all the way. Wear black. Brush your hair with a wet brush. Clean inside and out. Forget everything that is the ritual and duty of ordinary days. The holiday is not only written in red letters on the calendar. Look at the people of the olden days, how devoutly, how unconditionally, how circumstantially, how much wild joy they celebrated! The feast of distinction. The holiday is a profound and magical unconventionality. Let the feast be festive. Let it have dancing, flowers, young women, choice dishes, and blood-sparkling drinks providing oblivion. And above all, let there be something of the old order, of the seventh day, of the interruption, of the total shutdown, let there be reverence and unalloyed. The holiday is the rank, the higher meaning of life. Prepare for it, in body and soul.
And it's not just the calendar that has a red-letter day. Life also brings other kinds of invisible holidays. Forget everything and focus on the holiday.
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Reason is not enough to understand oneself or the phenomena of the world: to understand and perceive the essential, the infallible, something more is needed, more than reason. It also requires grace, humility, some particularly fortunate operation of our bodies and instincts, some favorable disposition of the object of our study, and perhaps the right constellations of the stars, to understand anything on this earth. Think of this when you are proud because you think you understand this or that.
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Happiness, of course, does not exist in the distillable, packageable, labelable sense that most people imagine. It's like going to a pharmacy, where they give you, for three sixty, a medicine, and then nothing hurts anymore. It's like having a man for a woman, or a woman for a man, living somewhere, and once they meet, no more misunderstanding, no more selfishness, no more anger, just eternal serenity, constant contentment, cheerfulness, and health. As if happiness were anything other than a desire for the unattainable!
Most people spend a lifetime preparing for happiness methodically, sweatily, diligently, and tirelessly. They make plans to be happy, they travel and toil to that end, and they gather the requisites of happiness with the diligence of the ant and the predatory greed of the tiger. And when life has passed, they learn that it is not enough to have all the requisites of happiness. You have to be happy, too, in the process. And they forgot that.
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At the bottom of things is sex. Maybe even in the lives of crystals. But all sexuality is sad.
Look at the business of bodies as a judgment. Only tenderness is human. Passion is inhuman and hopeless.
But the judgment that condemns all living to passion is merciless. Between desire and gratification, the living world is built, with a will as inhuman as the Pharaohs built the pyramids with naked masses.
What do you hope for, poor naked slave, when the sharp whip of lust cracks on your back?
Happiness? Satisfaction?
You build the world's edifice, with the binder of your blood and semen, you do force labor. Only delicacy and tenderness can momentarily forget the sad constraint of the cruel bondage of sex.
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But exactly like the songs sung by the chanson singers in the café. And the lesson of the songs is always that broken hearts can never be glued together again. That's the lesson in life, too. Once a person has approached someone with trust, with unconditional feelings, and his feelings have been hurt, his "heart has been broken", and he can never again feel true trust, or unconditional devotion for another person. There is no more sensitive substance on earth than the human substance. He is incapable of forgetting an insult to his soul or feelings. And whatever friendship or love-meetings life may bring him, he will remain suspicious, every relationship will be a distorted and evil plaything, forever seeking revenge. That is the man. Beware when you are confronted with such wounded hearts: you cannot make amends with them. And there is not that patience, wisdom, generosity, or passion, which can soothe such disappointed hearts.
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I, for example, although I was already a grown man, got into swimming and tennis. I particularly took a liking to tennis when I was in my forties; it is the only humanistic sport; man against man, with all the strength one can muster, but there is always a distance between the combatants, they do not touch. Just as Luther never saw Erasmus, with whom he dueled for a lifetime. And swimming, how good it was, especially in the sea! To swim for a long time, in the deaf, solid water, as if one were returning home to the primordial elements of existence! However, I found these exercises distracted me from my work. They are pleasant for my body, but not good for my soul. And what is not good for my work and my soul is ultimately not good for my body. Therefore I have reduced these pleasures, and in all this, there has been much vanity; to keep young and healthy!... But it is not my business to be young and healthy, nay, not even my business to keep myself free from disease. There is only one thing for a man destined for spiritual work: spiritual work. Perhaps walking is the only kind of exercise we can afford; like prisoners who circle the prison yard for an hour a day. Work is the greatest bondage.
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Are you smug and proud to think that you have read and understood a few books, enriched your knowledge, and learned something about nature or the human spirit? Do you feel "educated", better than the ignorant? Think of the infinite mass of knowledge contained in the sum total of books, and what more would you need to know and read to fully understand a single book? Think of the iron racks that run around the library of the British Museum, how long you would have to live to know something of the material of thought which the books piled up there enclose! But stay in your library, and confess how many books you have not read among those that line your bookshelves, and how many, even among those you have read, you have fully understood and followed with all attention. No, "education", when it comes face to face with the universe of the human spirit, is a barren and vain attitude. Think rather that to understand, to grasp, to feel a single piece of knowledge, demands the fullness of life's efforts. And think, too, how much has been written and thought before you, what oceans of thought rest in the past, and with what a rush of fall in every new age the wealth of human thought flows from the sum of appearances and phenomena. Think of this, and you will be ashamed. Thy brain is finite and childish. But the culture of your character and heart may be full and worthy of man, even if your intellectual knowledge is limited.
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There are two types of laziness: horizontal and vertical. There is the man who is lazy only in the long view of his life; in his plans; in postponing his resolutions, his decisions; in building up his life's work lazily, building everything into time, into the great distance. And then there is the other, vertical laziness when we remain lazy before the moment when we do not think, say or do what could be done at that moment. We don't reach out for something we could get, without much effort, and later perhaps only at great sacrifice, we don't pick up the phone, write that letter, or jot down that thought, right then, in that moment. It's the latter kind of laziness that is most dangerous. Life depends on such missed, lazily neglected moments.
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One day a voice speaks. You're doing something, or something is keeping you busy: a task that you think is of paramount importance and is your duty, your responsibility. You are already prepared for this task, you are eager to do your work. And suddenly a voice says: "Your work is different." And the possibility of a task you've never thought of before flashes before you. And you know this task will not be without danger for you. It will divert you from the direction of your work, it will require extraordinary effort, and it will provoke a series of misunderstandings, disputes, and dangers. And yet, you must leave everything behind. Your practical interests are seriously threatened by this new task. And yet, you must put everything aside, you must take on this danger, this effort, this sacrifice, this new job, this new task, this new mission, which is both implied and incomprehensible. The voice of command cannot be misunderstood. He who hears well and obeys may fall among the worldly dangers evoked by the task, but he will save his soul. He who is deaf, comfortable, or cowardly, walks comfortably on in life, but his soul remains wounded, unsatisfied, and restless. Choose, my friend.
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Smart people always wear me down and exhaust me. In their company, I felt like I was taking some kind of bad-faith exam. I had to watch them forever because they were watching me, from under their narrowed eyelashes, like a hunter watching the game, to see if I was responding correctly to their clever remarks, if I was clever enough for them, the clever ones, to talk to me. No, the clever ones always tire me. And I never learned anything of substance from them. Mostly they just explained why something was not good: life, the work of a man, spring or autumn? But that life is good, death is natural, man is not quite hopeless, they never said; for they were clever.
Cleverness is not wisdom. Smartness is a skill, the agility of the nervous system, and intellect. Wisdom is truth, reassurance, forbearance, objectivity, and acquiescence. Clever men are never wise, they are too excited for that, they are as it were constantly intoxicated with their cleverness; but wise men are always clever, and at the same time more than clever, because they do not want to prove anything. Avoid the company of the wise, for they excite you and eventually offend you. Seek the company of the wise. You can talk to the clever ones. The wise ones can be listened to.
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The intellectual creative worker needs exactly the same coaching methods, training, health, and exercise regimen as the champion fencer, the show rider, or the powerlifter. You cannot make a trip in seconds from a dull, sordid, unclean lifestyle to the highest human endeavor, the arena of creative spiritual work.
The way of life, the simple and everyday conduct of life, the diet, the environment, the daily routine, all these things determine the quality of a poem or a study.
You cannot talk to God from five to five thirty in the afternoon if you have lived like a pig during the night and day. A greedy, avaricious, or mean lifestyle throws waste into the sea of your work. Constant exercise is necessary to think, and to create you need something else too.
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And because we are mortal - the greatest gift of human life is that we see this fact more simply and understand it more perfectly every day - we must order our ordinary lives as one who lives in readiness. Like Seneca, when Nero reigns in the Urbs*; like the ladies and gentlemen in the cellars of the Conciérgerie**; like all men who live in revolution. Because life is a revolution. Sometimes it is especially so; for example, in the age we are now living, when the masses have taken the lead.
Therefore we must live à jour (up to date). To respond to the world every day, in a letter, a feeling or a thought. The doubt which arises in our common day, to look at it at once; to answer the question, if possible, with all our strength; to work out and complete the due phase of our task. Nature, too, lives à jour; every day, she processes, settles, finishes, and puts everything in its place.
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There is no age in the life of advanced, social humanity when its most distinguished poets and thinkers have not scolded the office and the bureaucrat. Only the nomadic man and the horde have not known this complaint. Groups of men mingled together in society, cannot do without this necessary evil, the office: Cicero scolds it as much as Shakespeare or Montesquieu, and no age can do without it. In the beginning, there is a square, the agora, where men from their nomadic life come together to discuss common human tasks; around the square, the city, the polis, is built; around the city, by pathological and natural procreation, the state is built. This process repeats itself for millennia at a unison pace. The official is the consequence of society, the office is the condition for the functioning of the city. No one has yet invented a substitute or a better one.
And the office has always been bad and always overbearing; think of it when you queue up in front of a cashier's office to pay your taxes after a polite and humble wait, or to save something that is yours by right and by law. The purpose of the office is not to be "good". Its purpose is not human, but public. The best official and the most perfect office is the one which does not interfere too much with life. One who does not act too much. If they make a deal with each other, life and office, they make about fifty percent deal and do not hurt each other too much: that is the most. But only very advanced, over-mature, mostly moribund societies and offices can do that.
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You'd be wise to eat a grated apple or two every morning, when you wake up and before a meal, on an empty stomach. Apples are a mysterious fruit. It is no coincidence that it is one of the oldest symbols in the consciousness of mankind. The apple tree was the "tree of knowledge", the apple was the forbidden fruit of the Bible. Well, this forbidden fruit has a personal connection with man. Perhaps it played a role when man was cast out of Paradise; we don't know for sure. But I've noticed that raw, grated apples are a sure thing in everyday life hygiene. It is refreshing, soothes the stomach, and regulates the bowels. Especially if you wash the apple carefully with clean hands before grating and then sprinkle it with lemon juice. Longevity is not guaranteed by this gentle nutrient, but your stomach and intestines will gratefully accept this daily gift of pure, healing power. And a man is a man not only with his heart and mind but also with his stomach and intestines.
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Because there are many kinds of stupidity. There are intelligent people in whose souls the flickering light of reason has gone out because they were born and brought up in unfortunate circumstances. There are men who are fools because they cannot control their bodies, they are dulled by passion, and the flame of their souls is stifled by the pride of the senses. Some people are fools who are simply victims of their environment. They are to be pitied. But true stupidity is rare, and all the more dangerous and hopeless. Man is by nature an intelligent being. True, dark, hopeless stupidity must be regarded with the interest of some ancient and fearful natural phenomenon, like the two-headed calf, like a distorted, incomprehensible idea of nature that makes - literally - no sense at all. Real stupidity is insoluble. What is missing in the soul and body of such a man? The Holy Spirit or certain juices, glandular products? Iodine? The sex hormone? We do not know exactly. But what we do know is that the real fools are to be avoided by all means, to be shielded against without attracting attention. Do not try to convince such people, because they are not benign. Kind, poor fools are benevolent; the stupid man is malevolent. Fools are the poor children of God; stupid men are the allies of hell. They are destiny, to be endured.
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Don't brush away the sadness. It comes without reason; perhaps you grow old in such moments, perhaps you have understood something, or you say goodbye to something in a quarter of an hour of sadness. And yet, sadness beautifies life. It is not necessary to wander the earthly spaces with an artificial world-weariness, with head bowed, contemplating the hopeless transience of life and all its phenomena, pining for the phantoms of apparent joys. First, the joys that vanish may never have been real joys. Remember... Then: sadness, in an unexpected moment, covers the world before your eyes with a wonderful silvery mist, and everything becomes nobler, objects and memories. Sadness is a great power. You see everything from a distance as if you had reached a peak while wandering. Things will be more mysterious, simpler, and truer in this noble mist and pearly glow. At once you feel more human. Like listening to music without a melody. The world is sad too. And how vile, how trivial, how burping and insufferable would be a world completely content, how sad would be the world without sadness!
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When illness is around you, with great strength and will you can stay in control of the affliction for a while. In the beginning. When fate is still lurking around you. Measuring your strength like a fighter against an opponent. If at such a time you are very watchful, very strong, keep true order in your soul, in your things - health: truth - you may remain the stronger in the early times of the duel. To stay healthy is to stay fair and just.
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Women find their love food on the ground with the same instinct as birds find seeds or fish. They wander in infinite space, their instincts leading them over lakes, rivers, seas, and marshes, and then, after a complicated cycle of zigzagging and circling, they strike at once. Their instinct, their sense of sight, is then wonderfully revealed. They are very rarely wrong, and only occasionally do they find that their prey is stronger or more skillful, slipping from their beaks like a tadpole from a seagull's beak. Then they give a squawk like a gull, and fly on, whirling, circling, tireless, vigilant.
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Every person God appoints to a role is lonely. Jesus spoke down from the cross to his mother as one who rejects all human compassion. This is the most fearful word in Scripture. And Jesus said that whoever follows him will abandon his family, abandon everyone. The man appointed to the role never demands less of himself and his followers. One cannot redeem the world and still be the best husband, son, and father, with four children, a spouse, a canary, and a retirement allowance. The role always demands total solitude, desolate solitude, and ruthless, almost inhuman behavior. Every man who undertakes the cause of men is forced to assume this loneliness and inhumanity. Anyone who does not take it on is a swindler; even if he is crucified.
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Every age, every stage of life, yes, every day, has its moments of crisis, when everything you have tolerated: your work, your environment, your shortcomings, your desires, your nature - suddenly, without a transition, becomes unbearable. This crisis is as powerful as an explosion. You lean over your work and feel at once the imperfection of the task you have done, the intolerable hopelessness of the scale and demands of the tasks awaiting you. You bend over your life and, like a man drowning, you see all that you have been cowardly, lazy, dishonest or selfish to do, condensed in a single moment, and which now threatens to flood and drown.
This crisis, these tens of minutes, these life- and work-threatening moments, return with increasing intensity as time passes. It happens daily. At such times, know that crises are time-bound; watch your heart and the hands of your watch. As one who has a seizure, and knows that seizures have a rhythm and a time. Give up your work for a short time, relax the order of your days, and strive to be careless and humble. The ten minutes will pass. Work and life, as long as they are connected, will remain.
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I know people whose education I admire, whose wit surprises me, and yet being with them is mysteriously exhausting. And I know other kinds of people who are perhaps not particularly clever or cultured, who never say anything surprising or original, and yet after meeting them, I part from them as one who has received something.
It seems that a man is not only his education and his wit but also a kind of current that radiates from his personality with varying strength and abundance. There are people with no current, who are always drawing the current from their environment. They are like the power thieves who, with the help of a wire, steal the electricity from the neighbor's wiring to their own room or factory, which makes their house brighter and their factory more industrious. Such people make me tired. All the time they have been talking, and in the end you, the listening companion, part from them poor and exhausted. They should be avoided.
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And accidents, which do not exist - like witches - are no longer to be mentioned. I do not believe in accidents. There is only carelessness. You get hit by a tram, your luggage is stolen on the way, an impudent blackmails you and insults your name, and you spoil your stomach with food and drink - and then what? Why weren't you more careful? The world is dangerous, and the possibility of accident lurks in every situation and action of life, this danger and chance is clear with human life. Yes, perhaps it is this chance that gives one a deeper hold and tension. Just think, what would human life and the world be like without the chance of an accident? How brashly self-assured, how unabashedly arrogant and haughty it would be! No, the possibility of an accident lurks in your every moment, objects, situations, people, chemicals, static and physical formulas: it's all against you too. So beware. Not anxiously, but in a way befitting your humanity, seriously and objectively, very carefully. And always know that it is not the world's wiles that have arbitrarily broken against you when the accident occurs, but you who have been weak, lazy, and petty. There is no "tram accident". It's just you and the tram and the world order.
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For most people, the compulsion to chatter is obvious in the law of life; they chatter while they live; till they live they chatter; they do not think, they chatter, and they have the impression that they exist. But in fact they are not in reality, in the way that the thinker is; they only babble; and the one who is babbling is not thinking. A man who thinks, when he can, is silent; and when he can no longer be silent, he speaks or writes. But this he does only as a last necessity. Nay, to the chatterbox, rapid speech, by which he conveys to the world all the jumbled information, the alkaline desire, the gross observation, the superficial perception, which his sense-organs convey to his consciousness, is a necessity of life. It might crack if it did not babble. It does not digest the matter of the world; it spits it out and vomits it up, as crudely as it has received it. There is no command, no threat to lock its tongue. It spits out the world, which then becomes unbearable: concepts disappear when the chatterbox speaks, and the world fills itself with words.
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But you also don't always have the right to remain silent; especially when the chatterer speaks, sooner or later you have to answer. Of course, nothing would be more attractive or comfortable than to be silent among people all the time, and to speak to the world only through your work - your work, which may be a book or a pair of decently sewn shoes, or even the fact of a patient and balanced existence. This would be the most beautiful thing, but life does not give the solution so cheaply. You have to listen, but not as one who is silent out of convenience or pride or contempt; you have no right to do so, because you are human, and your fellow human beings have a right to ask you for answers to their questions. No, you must listen as one who guards something. And indeed, he who listens responsibly always preserves something: a secret, a rank, the consciousness of human culture. But sometimes you must also speak, you must throw off the dark cloak of silence, you must step into the arena with a naked body, holding the just weapon of human combat, the truth. If the truth is denied, you have no right to remain silent.
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There is something moving about forests, especially pine forests. It's not just their dark and consistent silence that moves me, but their deep shadows, their churchly majesty, and their reverent attitude. It is the will of life with which a great forest expresses the forces of the world that is so moving. Just think what forces and intentions have built hundreds of thousands of fifty-metre pines! What nature has wasted in seeds, dust, buds, experiments, sunshine, rain, and wind, in building such a forest! And how purposeful and silent is this existence that wants nothing more than to be, to grow and survive for centuries, fully expressing itself, breathing, responding to the world - and at the same time not breaking against anyone or anything, giving home and life to billions of living beings. What a great and wise community this fifty-thousand-acre pine forest is. Like the forefathers, the pines watch over life. They answer to the earth and sky at once with their mighty trunks. Whenever you can, go to the forest.
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But when you go into the great woods, or into the wilderness, or travel on the sea, and your soul is filled with feelings of majesty and infinity, do not deceive yourself: know that in your heart you are only interested in man, nothing else. A people's café is as interesting as the Atlantic or the Sahara or the pine forests of the Carpathians. Yes, a single man, when he shows his being and reveals his secret, is more interesting than Mont Blanc. Admire the immensity of nature, endeavor to live in harmony with your character and the forces of nature, but do not be ashamed, nor deny that the most sublime spectacle of nature will lose its true interest and charm for you with surprising rapidity if it has no direct connection with the destinies of the people you know. The wild landscape will soon become meaningless and dull if man, the one true object of your contemplation and interest, the one never tiresome object, does not appear on the endless stage of nature. Your business, your experience, your role, and your destiny on this earth is man, not Mont Blanc. The world is but a color and scenery, which you watch casually; your heart and your intellect tremble at the monologue of this suspicious hero. All else is boring sooner or later.
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Tolstoy was right, music is the greatest pimp, the most dangerous seducer. The intellect becomes scarce when it hears music. Music is anti-intellectual. It does not seek to understand, as reason does, but to overflow, to upset, to disarm, to seduce, to touch the secret and the painful in us, to reveal what we have so carefully hidden from ourselves, disciplined by every means - it is like the spring wild water, upsetting the areas so carefully parcelled out, cultivated and worked, regulated and disciplined by reason. Where music spills out, the laws of reason no longer apply. In the beauty that music gives, the sick sensations of the lustful annihilation of the death wish ripple. Music is an attack. The man who has set his life on cognition, discipline, and reality, defends himself against music, and closes his ears. Without music, life is much poorer. But more human, harder, sadder, and more meaningful.
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Herodotus, who so delightfully gossips about Greeks, Persians, Medes, Lydians, the fate of the peoples and leaders of antiquity, advises us not to arbitrarily and artificially defy the fortune that flashes its star in our direction. Every ancient people, the Persians, the Babylonians, the Phoenicians, and every ancient religion, warned the lucky people against their stars. The gods, the fates, do not tolerate lasting good fortune: so Herodotus experienced it on his wanderings, as all the old sayings, religions, and superstitions teach. Thy house is not thine, thy gold, thy wife, thy children, thy health, thy glory, all these are as thine as the chance of fortune in a game of dice. All is thine but for a moment: then the die is cast. The gods want it that way.
That's why nothing is as moving as the story of Polycrates, with the ring, the fish, and the fisherman. Man feels his fate and wishes to escape it by sacrifice. But sacrifice is no help: the gods are merciless. Fortune smiles cruelly at you, and if you turn away trembling, she will chase after you, only to humiliate you and rob you of your fate.
What then is thine, what is thine that the gods cannot take from thee? Only work. The work that expects no reward, no laurels, no posterity. But it will happen to you if you do not turn from it, and care not for its fate. The toil is yours, the sweat, the sacrifice. All else is more volatile than the morning mist, more fragile than the wing of a butterfly.
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On the railway or on the deck of a ship, people feel they have broken out of the ordinary laws of their lives, they start chatting, they are more communicative and intimate, they wait for a miracle, and they blink at their fellow travelers with encouragement and hope. Be careful not to offend them. At their approach - when they turn to you with a clumsy and awkward, but nevertheless touching human hopefulness - they also ask you questions such as, "What do you think, will there be a luggage carrier at midnight in Oradea?" - answer with a smile and few words. Don't refuse them, because in this state of mind, when the train or the boat is carrying them towards the supposed miracle - all change: the expectation of a miracle - they are sensitive. Smile, nod, then turn to your book or the landscape. Don't make them feel there is no miracle. Right, don't make them believe in wonder. Just tell them there may be a luggage carrier at midnight in Oradea. Not a word more.
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Most people are fatally wounded in sex duels. His vanity cannot endure love, nor unlove; he suffers from loneliness as well as from cohabitation; he flees to pigsties, or to resentful, revengeful lonely roles.
The only way to remain powerful over our emotions is to learn modesty in time. There are no lasting "sensual solutions"; perhaps not even friendship lasts; nothing human lasts. On the plane of human life, there are no emotional "five-year plans"; there are only situations, which are always imperfect. The "great feelings" are the most violently hurt, and always prematurely. The temporary rebellion of our emotions must be endured as one of life's great trials. We must accept that there is no solution, only patience. And if one is so strong as to transform these passions into nobler intentions, to melt the passions in the crucible of work, to distil the vanity from these forces in the flask of humility: one acts wisely. But this is the most difficult task in life.
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Somewhere they are waiting, and the time is passing, morning or afternoon, and you are not yet finished with your work. Are you in a hurry? Are you distracted, casually attending to the only meaning of your life, your work, because they are waiting somewhere? Let them wait. No one and nothing is important but your work. Nor is time important - don't let time interfere with your work.
Is the time of day not important, just as it is not important who is waiting and for what purpose? Nor is it important that you can do something for your health by leaving your workplace early, taking a walk in the good weather, or visiting one of the many healthy and refreshing spas where you can revitalize your body. Nor is your lover, the powerful or influential man whose friendship you miss by keeping him waiting. Nothing and no one is important, for you will die anyway, and you must do your work until then. Listen only to that; not to the clock or the calendar.
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Because it is not only laziness for doing the right thing exists. Another vice is the eagerness to do good, the over-enthusiasm with which some people are always jumping out of their seats, or out of their jobs, or out of their circumstances, to do something good - wiping away a tear on the run, settle a death or a marital crisis on the phone, shake hands with a bereaved parent in passing, expressing condolences for the death of a child, and generally intervene, but only so nimbly and casually, in the misery of others. A cancer patient is told to eat lots of watermelons, and someone who is bankrupt is advised to watch Chaplin's latest film. These merchants of kindness and compassion are peddling a poor and not entirely harmless commodity. They give glucose from starch to the suffering. Do not accept their goodness, spit out the cheap candy they offer you.
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And cultivate your soul to a steadfast existence of need. This is most important. The mass world is only greedy, not demanding. You remain moderate and exigent. The world is becoming more and more like a Woolworth's department store, where for a sixpenny you can get everything, in shoddy quality, that can satisfy the daily desires of the epicurean masses quickly, cheaply, and for pennies. The dangers of this mass consumerism are already showing themselves, in all spheres of life and spirit. A culture is not only destroyed when barbarians appear with hatchets in the fine squares of Athens and Rome but it is also destroyed when those same barbarians appear in the public squares of a culture and engage in a massive exchange of demand and supply of unwanted goods. You be selective. Do not choose gently and with a wrinkle of the nose, but with rigor and ruthlessness. You can't be too demanding morally, or spiritually. You can't be consistent enough to say: this is noble, this is Talmudic, this is valuable, this is rubbish. That's your business, if you're a man, and you want to keep that rank.
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If the headache persists for several days, go to a trusted eye doctor and ask him or her to do the necessary tests on you; only then go to an internist.
Ordinary, everyday headaches are most often caused by nicotine; then by the weather, atmospheric pressure, and temperature changes on days of frontal migration; less often by some dietary fault; and still less often by circulatory disorders. But it can also be caused by nervousness, cowardice, or fear of tasks or situations. For a cold sore, I can recommend the following: drink a cup of hot, strong black tea, darken the room, lie in bed, swallow an algocratine or two, warm your aching skull with a hot electric blanket, and lie still for an hour or two. This method is infallible, and it cures the simple spasm of the blood vessels, the migraine, without fail. For all other types of headaches, consult an ophthalmologist and an internist immediately.
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When you are hit by a great shock or emotional pain, first of all remember that it is natural, because you are human. What were you thinking? You are a human being, so your loved ones die, your friends leave you, and everything you have gathered and loved flies away like dust in a windstorm. It is not wonderful, it is the order of nature, it is simple and natural. Rather, what's miraculous is that you don't get hit by great misfortune every day. You are human, therefore you must suffer; and your suffering does not last forever, because you are human. Adjust your conduct in sorrow and adversity to this truth. Never show sorrow to the world. Show neither pride nor haughtiness. Do not deny pain to yourself, but know that pain and adversity are always a downfall. People think: "Someone important to him, someone he loved, has died; well, he has fallen." Feel the pain, but don't hiss. On the one hand, when you sigh, when you shed a tear, you are already cheating a little in these moments. The real pain is silent; tears and cries are a relief. So do not deceive yourself, nor make the world glad. Be silent. Control thy face and thy movements. And if thou art alone with thy grief, speak thus: "Here, pain. But however much pain I will feel, I know it is all right: because I am human."
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The French say that only those who can see reality have a real imagination. This ability is rare. People believe that fantasy is clear by dreaming up some never-existent phenomenon. But never-before-existed fairies have no hands or feet, they are like griffins, and anything that has nothing to do with reality is boring and childish. True imagination builds the new, the wonderful, the surprising from reality. To see reality is a far more surprising and imaginative enterprise than to build dream castles out of clouds that crumble at the first whiff of reality. Learn to really see a sane man, and you will find that he is more surprising and wonderful than the winged heroes of myth.
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In our work, in our daily life, in the way we respond to the phenomena of the world with our character, our intellect, our taste, there is a kind of internal law in all this, which we cannot arbitrarily circumvent with impunity. You must not want to work in any other way than that which your character, your abilities, and the nature of the work dictate. Thou shalt not wish to be happy, to rest, to undertake otherwise than thy character and nerves command. Adapt yourself to the law, which inexorably dictates your place, your work, and your attitude to life. Everything must be done and accepted in its turn: joy, sorrow, vocation, duty, failure, and death. You must adapt yourself to the incomprehensible and hard law of your life, which prescribes the exact order of your actions, the meaning of your actions, and the heat of your emotions. Do not want to be more clever, more intelligent, more happy, more talented, more unhappy, or more hopeless than you are. The law burns in letters of flame on the facade of the building of your life. Read this law, every day, every moment.
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Your attitude to the world and to life should be pathos-free, without sentimentalism. But there is more to work, to create: it requires dreaming, it requires pathos and tide, it requires emotional exuberance. Great creations cannot be calculated with a cold head, on paper, and a pencil; just as one cannot create by speculation at all, nor can one make children according to plans on paper and in pencil. You also need feeling, passion, devotion, and flow to create. A Catholic education leaves much imagination and emotion in the soul, and such a soul may not stand well the hard and primitive trials of the commonplace - its feelings are carried away - but it will be susceptible to the problems of creation. Protestant education teaches dispassion and fatalism, and for everyday use, this is perhaps the most useful. It is true that the self-consciousness of fatalism can only create hard lives; less often and with difficulty, great works. Therefore thou must, on Mondays and Tuesdays, when thou must bury thy sweethearts, or fight with thy impudent adversaries, remain hard and unemotional; and strive to dream, and fear not the tide when thou art creating.
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Don't be ashamed if you love animals. Don't be afraid if a dog is closer to your soul than most people you know personally. It is lying prophets and gross, wicked men who reproach you for this affection, saying, "Steal from men the feelings you lavish on the dog! Selfish, cold-hearted fellow!" - Never mind them. Love your dog, this bright-eyed, tireless friend, who asks nothing more for his friendship than a modest treat and a petting or two. Don't think that tenderness and selfishness make you love animals. They are our brothers and sisters, made in the same workshop as humans, and they have a mind, sometimes more complex and subtle than most humans. Others call animal love a weakness, and mock us for it - you just walk your dog. You will be in good company, and God knows this.
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If you can, always live to contemplate one of the masterpieces of the human spirit frozen in amber every day, even if only for a few moments! Let not a day go by without you reading a few lines from Seneca, Tolstoy, Cervantes, Aristotle, the Scriptures, Rilke, or Marcus Aurelius. Listen to a few beats of music every day, and if you have no other choice, play a theme by Bach, Beethoven, Gluck, or Mozart on your music box. Not a day should go by that you haven't spent a few minutes looking at a painting or drawing by Brueghel or Dürer or Michelangelo in the mirror of a good print. It is so easy to get all this, and so easy to find half an hour for fine art! And so easy to fill your soul with the happy harmony of human perfection! You are rich, however miserable you may be. The fullness of the human spirit is yours. Live it, every day, as man is breathing.
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This is the human faculty that is most difficult to acquire, this is the quality against which the most secret instincts of our being rebel, because we are mortal, because our time is running out, because our star is running out: this is the most painful duty, to ourselves, to our destiny and to its deepest meaning, to our work. There is no true creation without infinite patience, capable of remaining master of man's innermost nature. For creation is never a sleight of hand, a lightning-fast trick, a gambling sans-sé-passe*, the creator cannot pull works of art out of the cylinders. It is not only the genius: patience - the work itself is patience, the patience of organic development, the miracle of retention and maturation. To learn patience, in life and work, is to learn the secret of the Creator. Digest this lesson, you restless mortal.
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Think about it before you pick up a book and start reading it - at least as much as you would when you shake a person's hand in confidence. Because you give the book the attention of your soul for a time; and that is a very precious thing, for life is short and your soul is yours alone. And when thou hast made up thy mind to read, read it slowly, very carefully and patiently as if thou wert arguing with a fair reasoning. And even if a book or its dull, complicated presentation goes against your taste and convictions, read the book through. But, because life is short, and because books are as many as drops of water in the sea, choose your book carefully before you open it. Read consistently and faithfully, but choose with great care, for you are giving a fraction of your life and your mind to the book you are reading. Once you have started reading, stay faithful to the book, even if it speaks against you, against your soul and your intellect. The book can be an adversary; you have to fight it all the way. But only with worthy adversaries; never with those who, as one poet said, must be given a fencing lesson in the midst of the duel.
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Whatever happens in the world, remember the truth that the state and political power can never be without the power of philosophers and reason. Nor can it do without it when instinct temporarily rules in community life, or when the departing emperors are replaced by praetorians*. Think always of how Aristotle's education of one gifted man became a world empire? The Macedonian empire was founded by Aristotle as much as Alexander the Great. Never delay when you have to prove the power of reason against political and state power. A state without the leadership of reason is but a horde, and such a state, even in the possession of political power, soon falls to pieces. Only the cohesive power of reason can give shape to the human community. The philosopher may be killed by the state, but he cannot live and survive without it.
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